Coping with miscarriage in the first trimester
- Let yourself grieve if you’re hurting.
Don’t bottle it up and try to carry on as if nothing happened. It's okay to cry and release the emotions surrounding the loss, but don’t sit in the pain endlessly. Open up to your partner about your feelings and let them share theirs with you.
- Take a day off to reflect on your loss
Pamper yourself with a long hot bath or a massage. Your body and mind will thank you. If you don't feel particularly sad, that's okay. Everyone has their own way of reacting and for some women, a miscarriage can be an almost welcome event if the pregnancy was unexpected and times are tough.
- You may benefit from talking with a therapist
If you sense that larger emotional issues are emerging as a result of the miscarriage - such as guilt, fear of death, depression or the reminder or a previous loss triggering a deeper emotional reaction than you can handle.
- If you can’t afford or don't want therapy
The next best free-option is to use a journal (online or on paper) where you can work your pain out in words and reflect on how the events effected you emotionally and mentally.
- Time will lessen the pain of the loss
For most of us, the chance to become pregnant is just over the horizon. That doesn’t mean you should jump straight back into baby-making mode in an attempt to recover from the recent loss though. The truth is: your body needs time to heal, nearly as much as your heart and mind do. Miscarriage is no small loss.
- If you’re antsy to get back on the baby-making train
Talk to your caregiver about the most appropriate time frame to begin trying to conceive, but don’t be disappointed if they recommend you to err on the side of caution and tell you to hold off for up to three months.
That said, your doctor’s probably not going to be around the next time you decide to engage in baby-makin' activities....