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justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
29th Nov '12
Quoting B&R + J:" Thanks :) and it is, i'm so proud of us! DH keeps talking to people at work, and they keep telling ... [snip!] ... I mean yes, it is hard to ever go out and leave him with anyone, and we rarely do and never over 5 hours. But I'm ok with that."

My advice (not that you asked for it) is this... Tell Dh to stop talking about your nursing at work, even if he is proud, as he is likely to get nothing but uneducated & uninvited input on what your family "should" do. I worked from 6 weeks on with #1 & worked in an industrial sale position around nearly all men. No one had a clue I was still nursing once we got past a year. They didn't understand or support when he was under a yea r& they certainly weren't going ot start once he was walking around & talking. :P



Secondly - a 1 yr old that is "clingy" is biologically normal. What I find alarming are the number of babies that are so detached from mom that they don't care who they are left with or for how long. Separation anxiety is the sign of a normal healthy attachment to parents AND a sign of good survival instincts. A child that isn't invested in staying near mom & dad when they are virtually at a defenseless age is a child that is in more danger.



And thirdly - my 1st was very clingy. He did fine with me working as he had nana all day & they were tight as they could be (still are, even though I am home now). When with me, his feet hardly hit the floor & from what my mom says he was the same with her all day. As soon as that booger learned how to run he was a new kid & so fiercely independent. He slept with me until nearly 4, he nursed until 3 1/2 yrs old, night nursed until about 2, etc, etc - but that didn't stop him from wanting to go & explore & whatever. Clinginess in small children is NO indication anything needs to be "fixed". When I was pregnant with #2 - he was soooo over it I really really missed it - especially when I was trying to run with a big belly to catch a 2 yr old that was running full tilt & not at all afraid of loosing sight of me. :(



ENJOY it - it wont' last. At 5 he doesn't even kiss me good bye unless I remind him. It's not that he is embarrassed or bothered. He is just so happy to go & do he doesn't stop to think about good-bye. It already sounds like you enjoy it just fine though. <3



& if you ever wonder what to say if people ask if your child is still nursing & you don't want to deal with their feedback - I came up with stuff to say like "Why?" rather than answer. They'd usually say "I just wondered." Then I'd say "Oh" & leave it at that. They sometimes would say "So is he" and I'd say "why are you wondering?" Never did anyone push it further. My mom used to ask (she didnt' nurse) id I was worried about him weaning before school age & I'd say something silly like "Why, were you thinking of relactating & helping me out by nursing him? If not, I am not sure why YOU are worried over it...I can't see how Id' involve you in it if that happened to be the case anyway"...and then I'd wink at her. LOL

B&R + J 1 child; 2 angel babies; Germantown, Ohio 3745 posts
29th Nov '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" My advice (not that you asked for it) is this... Tell Dh to stop talking about your nursing at work, ... [snip!] ... worried over it...I can't see how Id' involve you in it if that happened to be the case anyway"...and then I'd wink at her. LOL"


Yea my mom didn't nurse as well as a majority as most of my family. They always say oh you better wean him now that he has teeth and asks if he bites me and all that. They say now that he is a year i need to wean him blah blah. They all talk about how he sleeps with me too. I usually just ignore them and act like i didn't hear them.



I have an excuse too. I was born with half of my left ear and cannot hear out of it lol. So i say things like "Sorry i didn't hear you, you're on my bad side" and it works most of the time.



Thanks for the advice, it eased me a little

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
29th Nov '12
Quoting B&R + J:" Yea my mom didn't nurse as well as a majority as most of my family. They always say oh you better wean ... [snip!] ... "Sorry i didn't hear you, you're on my bad side" and it works most of the time. Thanks for the advice, it eased me a little"

Also read this if you haven't! http://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/ebf-benefits/ It is the kind of stuff that helped make Dh so supportive of me continuing & you can email it to anyone giving you any grief. ;)

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
29th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting B&R + J:</b>" Thanks :) and it is, i'm so proud of us! DH keeps talking to people at work, and they keep telling ... [snip!] ... I mean yes, it is hard to ever go out and leave him with anyone, and we rarely do and never over 5 hours. But I'm ok with that."</blockquote>




Don't worry about what his co workers say. You can always get a bunch of research together on the benefits of extended breastfeeding and present to DH. Then he can educate his co workers. :)

Natalie & Aiden's mommy 18 kids; Minnesota 2374 posts
29th Nov '12

So I just got AF for the first time PP yesterday and starting yesterday and today I am pumping less during the day at work then I was last week, does your milk supply go down?? I know this seems like a dumb question but I lost about an 1 1/2 to 2 oz. a pumping the last 2 days!

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
29th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Natalie & Aiden's mommy:</b>" So I just got AF for the first time PP yesterday and starting yesterday and today I am pumping less during ... [snip!] ... your milk supply go down?? I know this seems like a dumb question but I lost about an 1 1/2 to 2 oz. a pumping the last 2 days!"</blockquote>




Yes this is pretty normal. Try taking Fenugreek during the time your in. It should help keep your supply up :-)

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
30th Nov '12

So I feel really unsupported right now. It seems like everytume I turn around somebody else is pressuring me to switch to a bottle and saying im being "stubborn and irrational" for not wanting to quit breastfeeding. My son has almost doubled his birth weight in 13a weeks. Breastfeeding is not the issue so why even suggest I stop?! He doesn't like a bottle, and he's sick.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Allissa Specht:" So I feel really unsupported right now. It seems like everytume I turn around somebody else is pressuring ... [snip!] ... birth weight in 13a weeks. Breastfeeding is not the issue so why even suggest I stop?! He doesn't like a bottle, and he's sick."


aww just ignore them. I've been trying to get my son to take a bottle but not because I want to stop breastfeeding. I just want to make it easier for me to leave him with others for a few hours here and there when I need to. He is now almost 4 months old and still refuses a bottle, he may never take one!
But just keep reminding yourself that breast is best, no matter how many people don't support the idea or how difficult it gets, we are doing what is best for our LO's :)

Kara-lynn Due July 21; 65 kids; Florida 2063 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Allissa Specht:</b>" So I feel really unsupported right now. It seems like everytume I turn around somebody else is pressuring ... [snip!] ... birth weight in 13a weeks. Breastfeeding is not the issue so why even suggest I stop?! He doesn't like a bottle, and he's sick."</blockquote>



"I appreciate your concern, but I feel this is the best decision for my family. i would appreciate if you could support my right to choose and leave the subject alone."
My daughter is almost 15 months, still breastfeeding, and has never had a bottle or expressed milk in any other container. it works for us.

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kara-lynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Allissa Specht:</b>" So I feel really unsupported right now. ... [snip!] ... is almost 15 months, still breastfeeding, and has never had a bottle or expressed milk in any other container. it works for us."</blockquote>




My sister has always been jidgemental about me breastfedinh. "Dies he do anything but suck in your b**b all day?!" I was like omg. Her son is barely 8enough months, eating table food and drinking cows milk and juice all day! Want me to tell you what I think of that?!

Natalie & Aiden's mommy 18 kids; Minnesota 2374 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Allissa Specht:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Natalie & Aiden's mommy:</b>" So I just got AF for the first ... [snip!] ... Yes this is pretty normal. Try taking Fenugreek during the time your in. It should help keep your supply up :-)"


I am taking Fenugreek for the 2nd time I didn't notice a difference at all the first time but thought it was worth a try!

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Natalie & Aiden's mommy:</b>" I am taking Fenugreek for the 2nd time I didn't notice a difference at all the first time but thought it was worth a try!"</blockquote>




Same here unfortunately. It just made my b**bs swell lol. Try power pumping? That's how I upped mine

Kara-lynn Due July 21; 65 kids; Florida 2063 posts
30th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Allissa Specht:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kara-lynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Allissa Specht:</b>" ... [snip!] ... barely 8enough months, eating table food and drinking cows milk and juice all day! Want me to tell you what I think of that?!"</blockquote>



I get SO much more upset when I'm criticised by ppl who do things I strongly disagree with! Is there a local La Leche League meeting near you? Its a great way to meet like minded moms and build your support system!

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
30th Nov '12
Quoting Allissa Specht:" So I feel really unsupported right now. It seems like everytume I turn around somebody else is pressuring ... [snip!] ... birth weight in 13a weeks. Breastfeeding is not the issue so why even suggest I stop?! He doesn't like a bottle, and he's sick."


YOU are not being irrational. The people trying to get you to put your baby on a bottle with formula in it are. There's no need for it.

B&R + J 1 child; 2 angel babies; Germantown, Ohio 3745 posts
1st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍Moon:</b>" aww just ignore them. I've been trying to get my son to take a bottle but not because I want to stop ... [snip!] ... is best, no matter how many people don't support the idea or how difficult it gets, we are doing what is best for our LO's :) "</blockquote>




My son is a year tomorrow and has never taken a bottle. And he barely takes water or juice from a sippy. He eats food though.