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dss involved longggg.......... sad and confused=/ New Hampshire 4 posts
16th Mar '10

hey ladies i already have an account here im just made this one to be annonymous because i dont really want you to know who i am.... anyways to start off i have dss involved as of about 2 weeks ago. it all started when me and my boyfriend started to argue and he has problems... really he does he has anxiety and bi polar. which is a bad mix sometimes:cry:. well my little sister got scared and i told her its alright im here nothing wont happen and i told him if your going to act like this then you can f**king leave. im not having my son go through this so i put my son down stairs and my boyfriend tried going out the door so he could fight some random person and fight them and i didnt want that to happen so i stayed by the door till he cooled down a lil so he could go for his walk.... well i guess tht is a bad idea because my sister got even more scared and ran out the door and called the police stating tht he had tried to put a knife up to his neck...which he did!! the police came and was looking all in our apartment for the knife tht he used they thought it was some other knife but it was a butter knife,still dangerous! well they found our bowl. but no weed.... they gave him two options either you go with me or you go to the hospital and get some help. he cose the help. he ended up coming home later that night and i wrote him a letter thinking he wasnt going to come back but he did so i read it to him saying i hate what you have become and where is the man i feel in love with and made a family with, look at what your doing to my son not so much me i could give a f**k but my son!!!! i told him he was one step closer to losing our son to dss, didnt i swallow my words because tht following week they had shown up and my mother wouldnt let them come inside the house. so she called to schedule which was friday. my boyfriend still lives with me but he left when i had the appt with her. i lied to her and told her that he no longer lives with me and we barely even talk but he does give me money and i dont know where hes staying. which i do ... he's right here with me:roll: she had told me in order for him to see his son he has to get the help he needs, which he is she just dont kno (hes scheduled an appt for therapy and take his meds and our next step is im making him take anger management) and for me im taking councelling on my own just so she can stay off my case and also parenting classes so they can just hurry up and leave. she said they have to do an assessment case which maybe open for atlease 45 days but knowing dss its going to be longer. btw i have a baby tht is 9 months and i just found out that i am expecting again. which makes this even more stressful for me. everyday of the week i worry tht they are going to take my life right out of me. i dont know what i will do with out him i need him here with me i dont want any other family raising my son when i should be doing it. i dont want to stress to much because i dont want any complications with this pregnancy:oops: ijust dont know anymore im in such a shit hole right now and i dont have anyone to talk to. hopefully next month i will be rooming with my friend and his friend. its a 4 bedroom for me and my bf and the baby and for them too and there 2 boys. i just hate living a lie but at the same time i dont know what to do.????? iwant both of them i love them so much. i just hope living in a better place will be better and i wont have to worry so much of what would i do if dss shows up????????

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57087 posts
16th Mar '10

Then comply with DSS and you should be ok.

It really saddens me though that it was your little sister's choice to call the police and not yours when a knife was being pulled out. That is something that could traumatize her for life.

James Mama 3 kids; Arizona 2845 posts
16th Mar '10

I would comply with DSS even if it means not being around your sons father. It sounds like its not very stable there for him and he is the one keeping you going and supporting you 'emotionally'. When really you are the one that needs to be there for him!

MySunWillShine 2 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 16164 posts
16th Mar '10

That was so hard to read, who's neck was the knife being held to?

sad and confused=/ New Hampshire 4 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting James Mama:
Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57087 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting sad and confused=/:
MySunWillShine 2 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 16164 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting Monica♥ツ:
Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57087 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting ☼Sunkissed:
James Mama 3 kids; Arizona 2845 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting sad and confused=/:
sad and confused=/ New Hampshire 4 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting Monica♥ツ:
James Mama 3 kids; Arizona 2845 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting sad and confused=/:
Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57087 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting sad and confused=/:
MySunWillShine 2 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 16164 posts
16th Mar '10
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mom2dom&vin California 1336 posts
status 16th Mar '10

You really should comply with dss and get yourself outta there. If you are worried about your boyfriend call his family let them get him the help he needs. IMO it's not the risk of losing a child to simply keep the boyfriend around. good luck

sad and confused=/ New Hampshire 4 posts
16th Mar '10
Quoting James Mama: