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single pregnant teen. lil.skylars.mommy Due June 13 (girl); Hawaii 7 posts
18th Apr '10

I'm 15 and I am 32 weeks pregnant. I am having a little girl(: But I am single. I don't know if anyone has felt like this but I don't think the father of the baby should be in her life. It's a long story. Plus he doesn't want to be. He lives in another state and I just moved to a island! So we are very far away anyways. I offered to let him see his daughter in September when I visit family back home. He says he's too scared. I really don't know what that means. Either he's too scared to see her because he might get attached, or just scared that he's have to be in the baby's life by paying child support. The kid works at pizza hut. :\ I have a very good support for Skylar and she has everything she needs. I just don't know what I should do about the father. Or how I can tell her when she's old enough who her real daddy is. Of course I always wish I could change and have it be a different daddy one that believes in support no matter what, and one that I love and loves me. But life goes on and it doesn't at all change the love I feel for my daughter. Right now I have her and that's all I need. I guess I never really have brought anything up about the father and why he's not in my life, haha so why not post it on a teen pregnancy forum to see what other people think?:P But you can message me if your going through anything I am or just if your a teen mommy or soon to be mommy. :)

Viktorya 3 kids; Michigan 40078 posts
18th Apr '10

I wouldn't worry about all of that right now. For now, it's just you and your baby girl. You don't need him, and who knows maybe before she is old enough to understand you will find someone to love her like his own.

Big Poppa 1 child; Grapevine, Texas 8777 posts
18th Apr '10

Welcome to BG and congrats! Good for you, doing what's best.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74910 posts
status 18th Apr '10

Well good luck :D You don't need him.

And welcome to BG.

FAH Q ♥ 1 child; Millis, Massachusetts 12149 posts
18th Apr '10

You seem like you know whats best for you and your baby. You don't need him. My daughters father is not in her life, and it's for the best. (Although, his family is). Sometimes the child is better off, and one day you will find a man who loves you and who loves your daughter like his own. Trust me, I found a great guy who loves my daughter more than anything. :)

B♥Z 2 kids; Williamsport, Maryland 14245 posts
19th Apr '10

I wouldn't worry about him much. Do what's best for you and your daughter.

BJT 9.15 1 child; Arizona 4326 posts
19th Apr '10

I was in the same position. My BD is a piece of crap so I told him if he straightens up he can see him. He has yet to even contact me. I haven't spoken a single word to him sense I wasa 2 months pregnant. My son is now 7 months old and WAY better off without him. I've been dating another guy for about a year now and he treats my son as his own. There are other guys out there. My motto is any guy can be a dad but it takes a man to be a father. In my eyes, a father is someone who loves you unconditionaly whethere that child is his or not. Stay strong, you can do this. Like you said, your little girl has everything she needs and I'm sure everything will be great even without that guy. Goodluck. I'm here if you need to talk.

Hey Mr. Chubby Cheeks 1 child; High Point, North Carolina 1564 posts
19th Apr '10

Welcome to BG.
I'm a young single parent too. It is sometimes for the best. I hope some day he will want to be in her life but right now at least she has a mother that cares a lot. We can talk whenever :)

Mommy&Stinkbug&Daddy 1 child; Fredericksburg, Virginia 6034 posts
19th Apr '10

im 19 and im a single mommy to be as well
i lived in hawaii on an army base with my childs father and he abused me in the beginning of my pregnancy i moved across the country back to virginia to be with my family and he is now hiding somewhere in oregon.. i also just dumped my boyfriend Mark because he only wanted to pay me attention when he was horny... so i know how you feel about the BD (baby daddy) situation and the singleness...
i dont want BD to be a part of her life either but i feel like if i dont let him have some part of her life she will resent me when shes older...
i dont need child support.. but im getting it from him anyways i wont let him get away from her he helped bring her into this world im not letting him get out of providing for her.



PT me if you wanna =]

lil.skylars.mommy Due June 13 (girl); Hawaii 7 posts
19th Apr '10
Quoting Viktorya:
user banned 2 kids; Saint Catharines, Ontario 151075 posts
19th Apr '10

Hopefully he will decide for the child's sake that he wants to step up and be a positive part of her life, even if it's just occasionally on the fringes.



And if he doesn't, well, that will mainly be his loss. Your child will know how much you love her, and that's what will matter most.



Best wishes.



C.

......................... 1 child; Utah 5800 posts
19th Apr '10

Welcome to BG! :)
you'll be fine without him, i think you already know that lol and as far as telling her in the future about her dad you have plenty oftime to figure all that out

FAH Q ♥ 1 child; Millis, Massachusetts 12149 posts
19th Apr '10

There is also a single mom's group if you'd like to talk. :) There's many regulars in there. It's a great place to talk about whatever.



http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about617248.html

*Mrs. Gontier* 33 kids; Hillsboro, Illinois 2062 posts
19th Apr '10

I applaud you right now. You know what is best for you and your unborn daughter. You seem very mature for your 15 years of age! You're better off without him. I'm a single mommy as well (although I'm like 6 years older then you) and in the same situation. Your daughter is better off without a deadbeat BD in her life. I've been a single mom for 2 years and you can do it. Just STAY IN SCHOOL GO TO COLLEGE and support your child. Glad to see a young mommy who is thinking about this other then "OMG I look huge in my prom dress!"

lil.skylars.mommy Due June 13 (girl); Hawaii 7 posts
19th Apr '10
Quoting Danielle and Emily: