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A&K_EAbicultural Due January 13; New Jersey 133 posts
22nd Oct '13

Quoting Skittlez14369:
I am a single mom of a 2 year old little girl named Jausilynn. I am currently 23 Weeks preggers with baby number two. I am having another girl and I am scared. I am scared for so many reasons... the father of my oldest and I have a no contact order because he isn't safe to be around and he currently resides in prison for another year... The father of my 2nd child whilch is also yes a girl.... has emailed and called saying he hope its not his... knowing it is... has called saying he cant be there for me or the child. says if I have it I will have to have it alone because if anyone knew I was having his child it would ruin his life. He is currently in a relationship with a woman he has an almost 2yr old son with and she is currently pregnant as well with a girl and is due in December. he has made it clear he can't be there though he feels bad because he hates dead beat dads and is now becoming one. yet strongly emphasizes that he can't have anyone know that he is the father of my new baby girl. I am afraid I wont know how to handle both girls on my own... or know how to support both of them. on top of that I am preaclamptic or how ever you spell that like I was with my first pregnancy... being over weight and pregnant has its toll on my body... so I am high risk as it is... so far going strong... my support system is very small... and I am trying not to panic due to high blood pressure but idk what to do about the baby on the way... I can't find work in this god for saken town and don't know how I would afford day care should I go to beauty school... seems there are tons of job openings in that field.. people always wanting nails and hair done lol.. or at least cut and colored lol but I can't help but panic.... anyone have any suggestions so I can feel a little reassured about being a single mom of two?





Don't let the second jackass ruin your life. Take his ass to court and have them do a paternity test. He can't keep it in his pants, than he should have thought about the consequences to sleeping with you, as that is what grown men are supposed to be thinking about. I hate men like this, manipulative and trying to make you feel like you are alone. Also, start attending church, or a synagogue (if you are Jewish) or whatever your faith is. Usually people in the faith community can help you out, esp with food and basics, some even offer free baby sitting while you get on your feet and go to school/work. You could also try to apply for a grant if you go to a community college based beauty school, esp since you already have a kid.
Good luck!

Laura Sayers Due March 26 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; St. Cloud, mn, United States 21 posts
23rd Oct '13

Words cannot express how happy I am to find this thread!!! I'm 5'8 203pre pregnancy but now at 16 weeks im 223. None of the doctors have said anything about how much weight I've gained but I'm concerned. That and I look way more pregnant than I should. Should I be worried or am I just freaking out about my first baby?

Aubrey Morgans Mommy Due April 26; 1 child; Reidsville, Georgia 464 posts
29th Oct '13

Any plus size mommies have a VBAC stories?

A&K_EAbicultural Due January 13; New Jersey 133 posts
30th Oct '13

Quoting Laura Sayers:
Words cannot express how happy I am to find this thread!!! I'm 5'8 203pre pregnancy but now at 16 weeks im 223. None of the doctors have said anything about how much weight I've gained but I'm concerned. That and I look way more pregnant than I should. Should I be worried or am I just freaking out about my first baby?



You are taller than most women, but if it is bothering you, I would talk to your doctor. You may want to drink skim milk and eat salad with every meal so that by the time you eat the regular part of your meal you have a fuller stomach.

I am 5'4" I started off at 210, lost 11lbs due to morning sickness and I have since gained it back. My new obgyn starting seeing me at 206 and doesn't want me to gain more than 10 lbs from the 206. I switched from full fat milk to skim again (which is what I have been drinking since I can remember), and I started to drop some weight. She said the baby is fine and he moves a lot.

Good luck momma! :)

tasty treat28 Due March 7 (girl); Japan 1 posts
7th Nov '13


Hi my name is danika i am pregnant with my 3rd baby.i am to also plus size i have a 3 year old and 11 month old.with this last one iv lost alot of weight.i havnt really gained alot i actually look pregnant.i have a lil extra tummy but you can clearly see that i am caring a baby.im 21 weeks pregnant.with my frist two i was 400 something pounds.im 3 someing with thisd one.im 5"9.but i look good feel good.

Crystal Hatton 3 kids; Farmersville, Illinois 16 posts
12th Nov '13

Quoting Skittlez14369:
I am a single mom of a 2 year old little girl named Jausilynn. I am currently 23 Weeks preggers with baby number two. I am having another girl and I am scared. I am scared for so many reasons... the father of my oldest and I have a no contact order because he isn't safe to be around and he currently resides in prison for another year... The father of my 2nd child whilch is also yes a girl.... has emailed and called saying he hope its not his... knowing it is... has called saying he cant be there for me or the child. says if I have it I will have to have it alone because if anyone knew I was having his child it would ruin his life. He is currently in a relationship with a woman he has an almost 2yr old son with and she is currently pregnant as well with a girl and is due in December. he has made it clear he can't be there though he feels bad because he hates dead beat dads and is now becoming one. yet strongly emphasizes that he can't have anyone know that he is the father of my new baby girl. I am afraid I wont know how to handle both girls on my own... or know how to support both of them. on top of that I am preaclamptic or how ever you spell that like I was with my first pregnancy... being over weight and pregnant has its toll on my body... so I am high risk as it is... so far going strong... my support system is very small... and I am trying not to panic due to high blood pressure but idk what to do about the baby on the way... I can't find work in this god for saken town and don't know how I would afford day care should I go to beauty school... seems there are tons of job openings in that field.. people always wanting nails and hair done lol.. or at least cut and colored lol but I can't help but panic.... anyone have any suggestions so I can feel a little reassured about being a single mom of two?





I was a single mom of two boys for almost seven years. My older son's father is in the picture, but my younger son's father is not. In fact, he told me that I had to have an abortion because he wasn't going to "allow" me to have his child. He didn't want a child with anyone other than the woman that already had his little girl. I was so hurt and ticked off! How could he do that to me?! I loved him so much that I would have gladly done a lot of things for him. I refused to kill the child inside me though. Nobody was going to tell me that I wasn't able to care for the life that I had been entrusted to by God. Sure, this new life was a surprise, and not a great surprise at that. I wasn't ready for another child, but I sure was going to take care of it to the best of my ability. I ended up on bed rest. I could have lost the baby, and myself along with him. I had my parents to help me out, though. They gave me the support that I needed to keep going. I found out that being a single mother of two kids isn't really all that hard. It's too bad that the father of your child is acting like such a tool. You definitely deserve better. I recommend going out and getting some temporary government support. They have a lot of ways to help out single parents, especially single mothers who are currently expecting. The easiest way to find help is to go to the local library and get on the internet. You can do research for your local area, and the librarians are a lot of help. There are groups that you can join on the internet also, similar to this one, that give emotional support. Try not to stress out too badly. It's not only hard on you, but hard on the child you're carrying. I wish you lots of luck and I send prayers your way. If you ever need to ask a question, please look me up. I'm told that I give pretty good advice, and I'm decent at doing research on the internet for others.

DaniRae83 Due March 12 (girl); Japan 1 posts
13th Nov '13

Hello ladies, i am new to the site and just realized after reading about 60 pages from 07 that this thread was still being used der lol well i am 23 weeks today and yea no bump. i was about 270 pre pregnancy and now inthe 280s i would rather not look at the scale. Anyway i am super bummed that i just look fatter, i have always wanted that very noticeable baby bump. i am happy to feel the baby moving around and know she is doing good in there. any first time moms around my size and due date need a buddy know i sure could use one....

stacey.bruno.773 Japan 1 posts
14th Nov '13


I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit. I meant a man who's name is Dr ATILA he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one's gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I'm now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 5 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn't believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is atilahealinghome@yahoo.com

em.jay0311 Due November 19 (boy); Buffalo, NY, United States 8 posts
18th Nov '13


Quoting carmenona:


Is there any plus size moms to be out there that would like to share there concerns? This will be my second pregnancy being plus size. Of course I would like to be of normal size but I am not so I have to deal. I have a 13 month old baby girl and now I am in my 6th week of this pregnancy. Husband and I are very excited and are hoping for a boy but will be fine with whatever God blesses us with. His family does not have a grandson to keep the name going so they are pushing for a boy.

I had just started to loose weight when we found out I was pregers. :roll: I was so hoping to have lost some real weight before I went for round 2. I would actually like to have a chance to really look pregnant.

Carmen




I'm a personal trainer and 40 weeks pregnant with my first. I've had clients who were plus sized and pregnant and their doctor still recommended them to lose weight. It is possible with clean eating and exercise. if you didn't already have a workout routine before, consult your doctor about starting one. if you were working out before, you can keep doing whatever you were doing. One client i had ended up losing 12lbs while she was pregnant and had a perfectly healthy 9lb baby boy! hope this helps!

patricia.a.rhymer Due July 8 (boy); Japan 14 posts
2nd Dec

Dear Carmen,
I too am plus size. I gained some weight after having an ovarian cyst surgically removed. Soon after that, I was told that I would never have kids naturally. I weighed 220lbs. I did conceive naturally without the help of fertility medication. I now weight 217lbs. I did want to try and lose some weight before I got pregnant but I am glad and blessed with a miracle baby. I am worried about my weight and how it will affect my baby. My OBGYN hasn't mentioned anything yet but I am eating healthier(but I do have some cheat days so to speak). I try not to overdo it. I also worry about when I'm going to show. I would really like to have a baby belly sooner, but I don't think I would. But I guess everyone is different. My stomach isn't puffed out but its not completely flat either. I look bigger from the side. I guess it might be how you carry your weight too. My aunt who is shaped sort of like I am started showing around 4-5 months and my cousin who was pregnant at the same time as my aunt, carried her weight in her stomach and she started showing around 6-7 months. Their babies are 11 weeks apart. So I really can't tell you how and when you will show but since you mentioned a previous pregnancy, I can say that you will start to show sooner than I will because this is my first pregnancy. But my abs have been stretched out from surgery rather than a baby so I don't know if that counts. and In case your curious, I was cut from hip to hip like a C-section. So I really don't even know if I could deliver vaginally or what because at my 1st prenatal appt. my OBGYN was rushed and really didn't go over any history or any questions. But I do hope you show sooner because I know you are concerned about it. And Congrats!!
Sincerely,
Patricia

Styles United Kingdom 3 posts
13th Dec

Hello!

I was plus size with my first and second and managed to beat the weight after no.2. Now with no.3 I am at a healthy weight.

I think the important thing is to not try to shock your body by going either way with your weight whilst pregnant, but perhaps trying to make sure you are eating well from a nutritional perspective, rather than a weight loss/gain one. Does that make sense?

Maybe try and do some walking to get your heart working a bit but not too much.

And my last piece of advice since I am super excited about this and am shouting about it everywhere..

Buy a pregnancy onesie! Haha seriously, the best and most comfiest piece of clothing ever, especially with a big bump up front :) I think if you feel comfortable then you feel better about your body and are less tempted to overdo it on the junk food!


Veryr Due April 15 (boy); United States 1 posts
19th Dec

I was 220 before pregnancy and I've been making sure I eat healthier so now I'm down to 213. I still didn't show until about 20 weeks though :(

Peachy{+3♥} 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Utah 3383 posts
22nd Dec

are there any ACTIVE BG plus size mama's? Would be fun to make a new friend and exchange experiences during this pregnancy 38

Crystal Hatton 3 kids; Farmersville, Illinois 16 posts
22nd Dec

Quoting MerryDeath:
Did anyone get a weight gain cap from their doctor???
I went to my 1st appointment on Tuesday, and got my first US. I go back in 2 weeks for another one, and then I get another one 2 weeks after that. (this doctor says I'll get them once a month after that) I was really annoyed to discover that I have gained 4 lbs, and the doctor told me I have to lose it quick. She has set a weight gain of 10-15lbs for me. NO MORE.
No soda (not even ginger ale) No bread or pasta (not even crackers....) and limited- NO refined sugars. I am dying from the morning sickness... I mean, I wake up in the middle of the night to puke or dry heave... I'm siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiick. I'm up right now because of it. WHAT DO I DO? HOW DO I GET MY BODY UNDER CONTROL WITHOUT THE AID OF GINGER ALE AND CRACKERS?
I feel like death. Truly...
Has anyone else had this kind of a diagnosis?
I mean, I'm a big girl, don't get me wrong... I'm 5'10 250 lbs, and I don't want to gain lots more weight, but how do you stop the feeling like death when you can't eat to make it better?!

BTW, sorry i didn't post sooner... something had happened to my screen name, but its back now :)





Every doctor is different. My doctor for my first two babies freaked out when I lost weight. He asked me all kinds of questions thinking I was doing drugs or not eating. This time I have a different doctor and she told me that I should lose weight during pregnancy. I'm at 270 lbs, and since it was easy for me to lose weight with my first two I don't find that hard to do. It's better to have a doctor that focuses on nutrition instead of weight though. As long as you aren't eating a bunch of junk who cares what you weigh. Don't let your doctor bully you about your weight, and if it keeps coming up, tell him/her that it's really bothering you. When all someone sees is weight and doesn't ask about diet that's wrong and can be harassment, especially since you're pregnant.

shayna78 Due May 27; United States 8 posts
31st Dec

I know what you mean with the last part. I'm not too overweight but i've always had a little meat on my bones, weighing 180 pounds or so. now that I'm pregnant I weigh 178 ( I lost weight in the 1st trimester) now in my 2nd trimester I can only somewhat see where my baby bump is, but that's only because I know what my tummy looks like under my shirt. My hubby notices also, but that's it, no one else thinks i've just lost weight. no one even notices my bump.