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Godmother? *YourMom* Due September 14; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 7298 posts
28th Jun '10

Ok so my cousin aked me if I'd be the godmother for her child and of course I said yes. My question is about the father. If something happens to my cousin can I fight for custody? My cousin has been very sick lately and is the suicidal type. Though I would much rather have my cousin alive and happy of course I want to be prepared for the worst. Her real father does not take care of her. There is no custody agreement between them both. He still lives with her so he can be with his daughter everyday.

I just know I will never see my goddaughter again if he gets custody.

PotatoHead 1 child; Wisconsin 11230 posts
28th Jun '10

Pretty sure the father trumps you in that situation.

Atticus & Rhys's Mommy 2 kids; Westfield, Massachusetts 7414 posts
28th Jun '10

The only thing I can say is have her put it in a will?? But the father still may fight it. I dont know, I suggest speaking to a lawyer they may be able to help you out just in case something were to ever happen to her!

Regina George ♡ 1 child; New York, New York 20756 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting PotatoHead:
imot =) United Kingdom 25 posts
28th Jun '10

I think you need to discuss your worries with your cousin and if the father isn't the best person for the child to be with if something happens to your cousin, then maybe you need to get it all sorted out legally specifying a guardian for the child..

mommyluvbug *Wazhushk* 5 kids; Manitoba 27187 posts
28th Jun '10

uh no dad will be the one who gets custody unless he is proven unfit at which point likely someone in the family will gain custody . If she made a will and stipulated custody to you specifically then he would be able to contest it and likely still get custody because he is the dad .... least thats what i would be thinking as i have never been through this

rebldomakr 1 child; Maryland 47258 posts
28th Jun '10

i was told a Godparent is there in case something happens to BOTH parents.
but that may be for the courts to decide, idk.

*YourMom* Due September 14; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 7298 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting PotatoHead:
mommyluvbug *Wazhushk* 5 kids; Manitoba 27187 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting Yin-Yang Momma:
Mya's Mama 17 kids; Atlanta, Georgia 1730 posts
28th Jun '10

Well, I was going to say that the father would definalty have say. Although, if the father is not present, you may be able to get your cousin to have a letter notarized or something saying that if something happened to her, she would like you to care for her child. Although if she commits suicide or something crazy, they will claim it is not valid anyways.

*YourMom* Due September 14; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 7298 posts
28th Jun '10

The girl is my cousin by the way. So I am blood related.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting Yin-Yang Momma:
mommyluvbug *Wazhushk* 5 kids; Manitoba 27187 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting Luv2BeMomma2Be:
Emilyyy :) 1 child; Maryland 6751 posts
28th Jun '10

something would have to happen to both of the parents & i would uggestto her writing it in her will if she wants you to have the kid.

Kailyn's Mama 20 kids; Rochester, New York 19490 posts
28th Jun '10
Quoting cherokee ☠ mama: