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Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15798 posts
26th Dec '12

Oh hun I'm so sorry. I just lost my baby girl due to IC at almost 16 weeks on the very same day as you, December 19th. This is a pain like no other that I have felt in my life. I would suggest joining the FB group linked in the OP as it's much more active and they ladies there have been so wonderful and helpful.

Cassorino TTC since Feb 2013; 32 kids; Michigan 168 posts
26th Dec '12
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Oh hun I'm so sorry. I just lost my baby girl due to IC at almost 16 weeks on the very same day as you, ... [snip!] ... joining the FB group linked in the OP as it's much more active and they ladies there have been so wonderful and helpful."

Thank you! I'm sorry about your loss as well it is a pain like no other. Especially when the holidays came I just felt so sad and angry. My sister has an 8 yr old and a 9 month old. It took us 3 years to get pregnant with our son so it was even harder when we had to say goodbye.

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42503 posts
26th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cassorino:</b>" I just lost my 2nd son at 17 weeks 3days December 19. They are saying Incompetent cervix possibly. I ... [snip!] ... to a 2 or higher and never lose they bag of water or have it bulge is there something else that can cause this other than IC?"</blockquote>



Some women are just born with it. I an and my water broke the first time (I was also contracting) and 2nd time it was bulging with contractions. From your story sounds like IC.



ETA I am on my laptop now so I can type better. With IC you have painless dilation ( some do feel pressure as you described or heaviness) but some start contracting once the bag is bulging. Your description sounds like a pretty typical case. It sucks but it is also a blessing in disguise because yes, you have to have a stitch but you also have a way to prevent it from happening again! Some women never have answers as to why they lose babies or have no way to prevent it. No, thats not a huge comfort, especially when the pain is so fresh but I would say 95% sure (always room for error) you have IC. I have done a lot of research on it and you sound like a case where you were just born with this crap like me.

Mrs.Jones25 Due July 17 (boy); 49 kids; Washington 26 posts
28th Dec '12

My daughter was born at 36wks 5 days!

MissAshley+2 Due October 11 (boy); TTC since Jan 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Quesnel, British Columbia 1423 posts
3rd Jan '13

Can you have an IC after having 2 normal pregnancies?

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42503 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting MissAshley+3:" Can you have an IC after having 2 normal pregnancies?"


Yes, we have a few momma's in the fb group that have. Did you ever have a hard delivery?

MissAshley+2 Due October 11 (boy); TTC since Jan 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Quesnel, British Columbia 1423 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Yes, we have a few momma's in the fb group that have. Did you ever have a hard delivery?"


With my 2nd it was a little rough. He came out REALLY fast. Literally shot out of me. I didn't even push twice.



And then I had an abortion in October (long story... manipulative boyfriend.. lets not go there) but was told that the type of abortion i had didn't leave any damage or trauma...

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42503 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting MissAshley+3:" With my 2nd it was a little rough. He came out REALLY fast. Literally shot out of me. I didn't even ... [snip!] ... manipulative boyfriend.. lets not go there) but was told that the type of abortion i had didn't leave any damage or trauma..."


What kind? Did they go into your cervix at all because anything that goes in can cause damage which can cause scar tissue which can cause ic.

MissAshley+2 Due October 11 (boy); TTC since Jan 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Quesnel, British Columbia 1423 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" What kind? Did they go into your cervix at all because anything that goes in can cause damage which can cause scar tissue which can cause ic. "


It was a suction abortion. I noticed some weird stuff with my cervix the other day entirely by accident, and I hanven't stopped thinking about it. I haven't had an ultrasound yet either. I'm still waiting to hear when it's scheduled for..

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42503 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting MissAshley+3:" It was a suction abortion. I noticed some weird stuff with my cervix the other day entirely by accident, ... [snip!] ... stopped thinking about it. I haven't had an ultrasound yet either. I'm still waiting to hear when it's scheduled for.. "


Whaats going on with it? A suction thing might not be hazardous but I am not sure to be honest. I would definitely ask to be checked just to be sure.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15798 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" What kind? Did they go into your cervix at all because anything that goes in can cause damage which can cause scar tissue which can cause ic. "


I also read that any time they dilate your cervix it can weaken it. I'm fairly sure that contributed to my IC because I've had so many D&Cs.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15798 posts
3rd Jan '13

Please, please do ask them to check you if you are concerned, And don't let them lie to you and tell you can't be done before 18 weeks like mine did.

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42503 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I also read that any time they dilate your cervix it can weaken it. I'm fairly sure that contributed to my IC because I've had so many D&Cs."


I wouldn't doubt it! D&C's along can do it.

MissAshley+2 Due October 11 (boy); TTC since Jan 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Quesnel, British Columbia 1423 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Whaats going on with it? A suction thing might not be hazardous but I am not sure to be honest. I would definitely ask to be checked just to be sure."


well.. It was literally not even 2 inches from the opening of my lady bits one night. and it was really really soft and short. Which last time I checked, it's not supposed to be like that. I can still reach it, and it's still really really soft. and I've never been able to touch it before.



The way my Dr. explained it was that she stuck a tube up there, and it was basically just a little vacuum. I'm pretty sure she entered the cervix since I had to put stuff up there to open it. I've never had to do anything like that before.

MissAshley+2 Due October 11 (boy); TTC since Jan 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Quesnel, British Columbia 1423 posts
3rd Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Please, please do ask them to check you if you are concerned, And don't let them lie to you and tell you can't be done before 18 weeks like mine did."


I'm not going to. I'm on the phone right now finding out when my ultrasound is, and then I'll just ask the tech when I go in... I need to know, so I can prepare myself. I don't do well with on the spot things.