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laura-kaitlyn Due January 16 (boy); Randlett, Oklahoma 59 posts
3rd Jan '12
Quoting 6♥:" Hi I'm Sandra, I am not adopted, nor are any of my children or family. But I am currently pregnant, and ... [snip!] ... baby to a couple without children. They can't have children and are never approved to adopt oversea's due to lack of money. "

That is amazing :) you are givin a family the most special gift! Nd your strength to be able to do it is fanomanal. Good luck and i hope everything goes well for both you and the new family of your baby

Amanda A. 96 kids; South Carolina 35 posts
10th Jan '12
Quoting Ethanator's Mama:" i wasnt adopted but my dad was, and ive spent my life curious as to who my real grandparents are, and ... [snip!] ... real grandparents are, and if there is anything that could happen to my son because of their genetics that i dont know about..."


While being respectful, as a child who was adopted at birth and who knows first hand the unconditional love and support a family can provide regardless of biological relationship, it is frustrating to me to hear people say 'their real parents' or, 'their real family'. My family, my REAL family are the people who raised me. I understand about genetic concerns, but even if you know the grandparents, it doesnt mean your children are 'doomed' for the same genetic mishaps or that they wont fall sick or similar from something entirely different. Plus, environment plays a huge factor in conditions like high blood pressure, cardiac issues, etc. based on region, diet, exercise, etc. Just sayin'. You may want to find your dad's biological family for your own curiosity, but unless your child is suffering from some genetic-related condition, its not really relevant as it is 'curious'.



Mommyof4NYS Due July 30; 3 kids; Utica, New York 11 posts
18th Jan '12
Quoting Mommyof4NYS:" OK apparently I am not the ignorant one and some people can not read. I was giving my opinion. AND I ... [snip!] ... am the ignorant one here. Sounds more like there are some angry. biological parents that are upset regarding being called out."


And to clear up one other item. I also have 2 biological children with one on the way.

Amanda A. 96 kids; South Carolina 35 posts
18th Jan '12
Quoting Mommyof4NYS:" "

I would have to say adoption is probably one of the hardest decisions a bio family has to make. Its also the least selfish. Why keep a child simply because they are biologically related if you are not prepared to care for them or, they dont 'fit your lifestyle' or whatever other reason there is to be a half-ass parent by just keeping them vs. allowing them to be loved by a wonderful forever family who would otherwise not have the opportunity to be parents. I think God blesses parents with children for reasons -- some of the reasons are simply to allow women who are fertile to offer the gift of life for another woman who cant do the same. Its one of the greatest things and biggest blessings. Im adopted and I thank God I am, everyday.

Mom.to.PoohBear 1 child; Michigan 2392 posts
8th Feb '12

I was adopted at birth. When I turned 18, I met my biological siblings (from my birth mom) and my birth father. I'm really close with my siblings now, it's great. I'm close with my birth father too, he actually took me to Ireland 2 years ago. I decided not to meet my birth mom because my siblings told me that she was an awful person, ect. I feel terrible because she really wanted to meet me, and I am so thankful that she made the decision to give me up for adoption. She died last year, I have a lot of guilt for not meeting her.

Lexi-Avery-Dylan-Gabe 4 kids; Evansville, Indiana 2218 posts
8th Feb '12
Quoting Ashley..:" I was adopted at birth. When I turned 18, I met my biological siblings (from my birth mom) and my birth ... [snip!] ... thankful that she made the decision to give me up for adoption. She died last year, I have a lot of guilt for not meeting her."

Sorry that you never got the opportunity to meet her :( I have reunited with my b-mom and we have had our differences, but all in all I'm glad I met her! My half sister (from b-mom) is 21 and has 3 children already so my b-mom spends a lot of time helping her b/c her husband doesn't do what he should. I am grateful that my b-mom gave me up as she was 14 when she gave birth to me. Her mother died almost 2 years ago and I wish I would have gotten to meet her b/c she always wondered what happened to me. Anywho, welcome :)

Mom.to.PoohBear 1 child; Michigan 2392 posts
8th Feb '12
Quoting Lexi-Avery-Dylan-Gabe:" Sorry that you never got the opportunity to meet her :( I have reunited with my b-mom and we have had ... [snip!] ... almost 2 years ago and I wish I would have gotten to meet her b/c she always wondered what happened to me. Anywho, welcome :)"

Thank you! Well I'm glad that you met her, it sounds like it's been a great experience!

Lexi-Avery-Dylan-Gabe 4 kids; Evansville, Indiana 2218 posts
8th Feb '12
Quoting Ashley..:" Thank you! Well I'm glad that you met her, it sounds like it's been a great experience!"

It hasn't been perfect, but hey, what in life is? :)

CLC 27 Weeks Due October 23 (twins); TTC since Jul 2009; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1707 posts
8th Feb '12

For all you ladies that were adopted. In your opinion when is the best time to tell a child they are adopted or tell them about their birthparents. I am adopting soon.

Mom.to.PoohBear 1 child; Michigan 2392 posts
9th Feb '12
Quoting CLC:" For all you ladies that were adopted. In your opinion when is the best time to tell a child they are adopted or tell them about their birthparents. I am adopting soon."

I grew up always knowing that I was adopted, and I definitely think that's the way to do it. It was never a secret, there was never a big dramatic moment of being told "you were adopted, I just always knew and I never had a problem with it. I was always curious about my birthparents but I never once thought "why didn't they want me?" because my parents made me feel so loved.

Lexi-Avery-Dylan-Gabe 4 kids; Evansville, Indiana 2218 posts
9th Feb '12
Quoting CLC:" For all you ladies that were adopted. In your opinion when is the best time to tell a child they are adopted or tell them about their birthparents. I am adopting soon."

My parents started telling me when I was about 5-6. They just explained it in simple terms that I could understand. I remember them telling me that they couldn't have kids and wanted one so bad and waited so long and were so lucky to have finally gotten me. They also explained that my b-mom was so young and just couldn't take care of me and wanted me to have a better life.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
25th Feb '12

I was adopted at age 2 by my Grandparents. I did not actually know I was adopted until I was 14. Which was actually a bad idea on their part to keep it so hush hush but as an adult I understand why. My real Mother, their daughter, who weirdly enough I never met until a couple years ago, is like a spitting image of the same mind of Casey Anthony so the chances of me living a good life or living at all with my bio Mom would not have been good. I am glad I was adopted. I had a very happy childhood.

Brandy Marie 1 child; Hayward, California 3448 posts
25th Feb '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" I was adopted at age 2 by my Grandparents. I did not actually know I was adopted until I was 14. Which ... [snip!] ... a good life or living at all with my bio Mom would not have been good. I am glad I was adopted. I had a very happy childhood."


My parents are actually adoption my son.
I'm glad you feel like you had a great life being raised by them, because I know my son will have a better life with them.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
25th Feb '12
Quoting Brandy Marie:" My parents are actually adoption my son. I'm glad you feel like you had a great life being raised by them, because I know my son will have a better life with them."


Ya, I loved my life, and was very happy and spoiled. My Mom passed back in '06 and I met my real Mom in the winter of '10. When she put me up for adoption to her parents she left town to have her party years and then just got into a lot of shit, became a drug addict and drunk...all kinds of crazy shit. I finally felt I was able to meet her and she came to stay with me for awhile, which ended up being a really bad move. She was a psycho and I appreciated my childhood even more through meeting her. I also took up a relationship with my bio Dad when I had my daughter back in '08. I actually still have a great relationship with him to this day. It is nice to have him in my life, but still very happy with the childhood I had.
You will not be disappointed. If you are close with your parents than you will still be in their lives and be able to watch them grow, which I think would be nice. Good luck.

Brandy Marie 1 child; Hayward, California 3448 posts
25th Feb '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" Ya, I loved my life, and was very happy and spoiled. My Mom passed back in '06 and I met my real Mom ... [snip!] ... with your parents than you will still be in their lives and be able to watch them grow, which I think would be nice. Good luck."


Thank you.
He will know who I am, we already decided that.
And I can see him anytime I want.
I'm just thankful that I have such amazing parents.