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Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, California 34988 posts
25th Jan '11

What would I do if my daughter was sexting? I'd Kick her ass, take away her cell phone & lock her in her room till she's 30. Same with my son.



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Pr0nkBeth 3 kids; Jacksonville, North Carolina 3724 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting ForbiddenFruitt:" Here is a question I have that has spurred from an incident I heard about recently in my town. What ... [snip!] ... im talking 5-6 guys or more). Or what would you do if you found out your son was one of the boys asking for those pictures."


I would try to get her charged with child pornography. I guess she'd learn then.

thisunrest India 10364 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting ForbiddenFruitt:" I think if my son EVER asked for pictures of a naked girl at 13 or 14, it would be the only time I would ... [snip!] ... old. And as for the girl. She needs some serious help I think. Btw these boys are like 13 year olds aswell. Not older guys."


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A-f**king -MEN!

Mommy 2 boogie bug! 17 kids; Elyria, Ohio 618 posts
25th Jan '11

I think this is the age when most people become curious about their sexuality and slapping them or telling them sex is naughty is only going to give them a complex. I agree that sending multiple guys at the same time pictures of herself isnt cool but there has to be some underlying reason behind that needs further exploration. Slapping your child is idiotic! What would that accomplish?

Cranky Face Kagu 18 kids; Ruther Glen, Virginia 296 posts
25th Jan '11

If it were my daughter sending them....Ohhh, I'd react exactly how my dad would've if it were me doing that. 1, the boy asking better hope to hell and back I don't find out who he is. I wouldn't press charges, kids will be kids, but I damn well will expect him to get the grounding and spanking of his life, and my daughter will get the same treatment, THEN, I'll give her the talk, my views and feelings on her behavior, and I'll tell her what age we'll discuss birth control

In the case of my son. He'd better learn how to run very quick. He will be grounded on the spot, maximum punishment. Spanking, an up in chores to keep his mind off the IDEA of girls, and I will show him what happens nowadays to even teenagers who do that stuff and how serious it's become. Then, I'll have his father give him the talk, and let him handle the rest. >_>...

Either way, if I were a parent in that situation, I would majorly feel disappointed in the lack of respect for themselves and others, and I'll make sure they know what happens nowadays, kids being kids or not.

DownWithMorons 1 child; Tauranga, New Zealand 5516 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting Lee0725:" I can understand teaching them consequences to their actions, but in my view taking away their technology ... [snip!] ... Given technology is so important to teenagers these days, depriving them of it may in fact cause the situation to escalate."


Yes, but of course it wouldnt just be "im taking your cellphones and other things off you, now go to school". I would actually talk to them about why they did what they did and get to the bottom of it. I have no idea what possesses a little girl to do things like that. But she/he WOULD need some form of punishment for it aswell. I feel like saying to my child "you have sent these pictures using your phone, but ill just let you keep your phone instead of taking it off you" as just a way to say "keep doing what your doing, I dont care" sort of thing.



I believe there must always be a consequence for actions, along with talking about the issue at hand. Having them understand WHY they are getting their privileges banned. Cellphones and computers are teenagers lives, and maybe if they were taken off them, they might actually think about their actions, along with proper discussions about the issue at hand. My cousin, when he gets punished, gets sent to his room to play on his XBOX on his flat screen TV. He was recently in a fight at school and was suspended for 2 weeks. In those 2 weeks he just sat in his room and played COD. That to me isnt punishment.



The girl in question was sending pictures to someone I know personally, and by the sounds of things, she was having sex at around 12 or so. My cousin (who goes to the same school as this girl, wasn't him involved though thank god) has told me some terrible terrible stories about girls at the age of 11-12 having sex in the toilets and bushes etc at school :l I dont know why girls or guys at this age are interested so deeply in this. God, when I was 11, all I cared about was school and my sports and music and hanging out with my friends. I never once thought about having sex with anyone, or even thought to send naked pictures of myself to boys. And the boys didnt even seem to give a crap about sex either.

DownWithMorons 1 child; Tauranga, New Zealand 5516 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting Noah & Kylie's Mom:" I agree completely! I'm not saying I wouldn't be pissed. I for sure would be very upset. I think the ... [snip!] ... need to teach our girls that just because a young boy says he will love you if you sleep with him, that doesn't mean he will!"


Do you not find it sad that we portray this image onto boys/men that doing that kind of thing is "normal".



Its a whole society driven idea, and idk the whole boys will be boys thing is a stupid excuse. I can guarantee you that back in like caveman times, there were not caveman sitting there wanking over some other cavewoman or something like that. I personally dont think males NATURALLY are creatures of sex. Of course it would have been done to create children, but I dont think it was anything like it was today, with the WHOLE worlds emphasis being on sex. Society has made them out to be natural creatures of sex, and sadly we raise our boys with the idea that asking a girl at 13-14 for naked pictures of herself is "normal" and we just shrug it off as if its no big deal. These are the boys that grow up to dis-respect woman completely. Its not normal. Men use this excuse to do pretty much anything. A guy cheats on his wife and says "boys will be boys, im a sexual creature". They can get away with anything, because of this idea we have placed in their heads and we just shrug our shoulders and accept it. I hate that. We wonder why our men cheat on us, but its us, society, and usually their parents that have planted the idea into their heads. We wonder how our sons could possibly cheat on their girlfriends, then you look back and realise that telling a 13 year old boy what he is doing is "normal" based on his sex, is giving him the right to do things like that because he is a 'sexual creature and needs sex all the time". In older older generations, you see a lot of respect from the husbands towards their wives in a sexual way. Now days its not like that, and men are just made to think its ok to do what they want sexually because they are males.



I plan on raising my son in a completely different way and this kind of behaviour would never be permissible or shrugged of because "hes a boy"

Kate & John 1 child; Gainesville, TX, United States 511 posts
25th Jan '11

A girl did this at the school I graduated from. She sent naked pics to several boys in school, and some who had graduated in the past few years. She has been given the nickname "Saggy Maggie" by her peers.



Sexting is bad, m'kay.

DownWithMorons 1 child; Tauranga, New Zealand 5516 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting Kate Dennis:" A girl did this at the school I graduated from. She sent naked pics to several boys in school, and some ... [snip!] ... who had graduated in the past few years. She has been given the nickname "Saggy Maggie" by her peers. Sexting is bad, m'kay."


These people just dont think



Its summer holidays here, and this incident happened over the summer holidays .School goes back next week, and I guartantee you this girl will get soooo much crap given to her. I can guarantee her pictures would have been spread throughout the school. What makes it worse is that shes one of the head deans daughters :l

EskimoKiss TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Texas 11221 posts
25th Jan '11

oh dear God i'd probably die,come back and kill her!! oh i feel sorry for that boy who ask for them idk if i'd be able to keep my SO from killing him too!



no but really my LO wont have pic msg on here phone ever! my mother doesn't allow my siblings to have it. my LO wont have a phone til high school. i hope i would have raised her better then that.

Cranky Face Kagu 18 kids; Ruther Glen, Virginia 296 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting EskimoKiss:" oh dear God i'd probably die,come back and kill her!! oh i feel sorry for that boy who ask for them idk ... [snip!] ... allow my siblings to have it. my LO wont have a phone til high school. i hope i would have raised her better then that. "

Agreed, I told my fiance' when he asked me our phone policy for the kids later on that it's the same as my view on tattoos and excessive piercings. 16-18 and a job to pay their own bill with. I didn't get a cellphone until I was 19, and that's because I had a job and could pay the bill.

DownWithMorons 1 child; Tauranga, New Zealand 5516 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting .:Mommy Kagu:.:" Agreed, I told my fiance' when he asked me our phone policy for the kids later on that it's the same ... [snip!] ... job to pay their own bill with. I didn't get a cellphone until I was 19, and that's because I had a job and could pay the bill."


Exactly. This is how it will be with my son when he is older. He can have a phone WHEN he can pay for the phone himself and when he can afford to pay the bill on it. Until then, he will just have to make do. If he needs to get in contact with his friends, he can either call them on the phone, or txt them off my phone. But hes not having one of his own until he can afford to pay for it himself. Thats how it was with me. Anything expensive I got, I paid for myself.

_in_the_flesh [Leela is h 1 child; Tennessee 474 posts
25th Jan '11

This kind of goes along the lines of what you all are speaking of, and I was wondering what opinions may be on this...or is it just bad if a girl does it?



My cousin is 13 (12 at the time) and she goes "look here britt" and there is a picture of a boy on her phone who texted her a picture of him showing off his six pack...the boy was clearly 11-13 years old, but apparently a jock. I told her not to show that to me considering he's a little boy. Do you think it's just as right for a boy to be doing this or is it less harsh? Either way it disturbed me that boys are turning to sexuality to have means of acceptance at such an early age as well.

Noneya Business Due August 29; 1 child; Pennsylvania 11991 posts
status 25th Jan '11

Honestly, I've have been in this situation, kind of. My camera was stolen at a school dance. I was trying to lose weight at the time so I had pictures of me standing in from of my mirror with a really small bikini. Well I guessed I pissed off a guy so much that he stole my camera, took the pictures off my camera and edited them and photoshopped b**bs on them. I wouldn't have sex with this guys and I told him it was because he was a disgusting loser with no life and laughed at him because, rumor had it, he has 2 a*****es. He sent them around the school. People didn't care fake or not, they made my life a living hell. I went to the cops and that didn't do anything.



But even before my LO can do anything like that, I'd tell them what happened and what could happen to them. Also, I wouldn't let them get a camera phone. You can actually get sending pictures of any kind restricted on phones.

AmberNMcKenzie Due August 1 (boy); 65 kids; Oregon 494 posts
26th Jan '11
Quoting ForbiddenFruitt:" Here is a question I have that has spurred from an incident I heard about recently in my town. What ... [snip!] ... im talking 5-6 guys or more). Or what would you do if you found out your son was one of the boys asking for those pictures."


First off..I have to say EWWW! I don't have a son yet, however if my daughter was doing that...first things first No computer, cell phone, and were going to the first old age store and finding a chasity belt, then I think I'd padilock her in her room for awhile...Okay so I wouldn't padilock her door ok, but she's not going anywhere till I can trust her again, and she can show me that she views her body as the most important thing to her.