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We prepared our children for 1% of the danger... user banned
25th Jan '11

Criminal Minds Season One Episode 12 "What Fresh Hell"



Gideon: "You know what program did the most harm to this country in terms of crimes like this - child abduction?"
Woman: "No."
Reid: "Stranger Danger."
Gideon: "A lot of the schools with it."
Reid: "I remember them coming to my classroom, it was Officer Friendly with the stranger danger coloring books."
Gideon: "Told a whole generation about a scary man in a trench coat hiding behind a tree. Then we learn that strangers are only a fraction of the offenders out there. Most are people you see every day. Family, your neighbors, school teachers. You know the rest... We prepared our children for 1% of the danger and made them more vulnerable than 99%. So we've been wrong before all we can do is learn from it and hope to do better next time."



Discuss.



C.

[Gryffinwhore♥] 3 kids; Poulsbo, Washington 32885 posts
status 25th Jan '11

Makes sense.
And I like that show. lol.

Likeursoperfect [CNL] 2 kids; Gardnerville, Nevada 10260 posts
25th Jan '11

I will teach my children to be wary of strangers, but to always come and tell me if ANYONE does anything that makes them uncomfortable. Whether it's a friend, a family member, a teacher, a doctor, or a stranger.



But I agree. Most kids don't understand that it's not just strangers that can be dangerous to them.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6804 posts
25th Jan '11

Well it's kind of of a double edged sword. If you teach your kids to fear everyone they know or are close to you're just going to make them paranoid.

I was raped by a "friend" at 16 and I want to prepare my daughter to be aware, but I'm so worried about making her paranoid. I have no idea how I'm going to approach this as she gets older...

thisunrest India 10364 posts
25th Jan '11

I can see that.Nine times out of ten, the person who hurts you is someone you know.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66650 posts
25th Jan '11

I agree with that. Children are more apt to trusting people they know, which is why there are more instances of kidnap, rape, abuse, etc with people the children know versus strangers.

Halpert 3 kids; Ohio 34411 posts
25th Jan '11

That is so true, our kids are in more danger being around people we know and trust more than complete strangers.Which is scary

Likeursoperfect [CNL] 2 kids; Gardnerville, Nevada 10260 posts
25th Jan '11

Also, we will do the "password" thing. We'll have a word that a person will have to use. If the person knows that password, it's ok to go with them. If they don't, then DO NOT go anywhere with that person, even if it's Grandma.

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
25th Jan '11

Same deal for child molesters, rapists, and murderers. It's more likely the perp is someone you know instead of a stranger.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74788 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting TristanLynn [EBFB]:" I will teach my children to be wary of strangers, but to always come and tell me if ANYONE does anything ... [snip!] ... a doctor, or a stranger. But I agree. Most kids don't understand that it's not just strangers that can be dangerous to them."

:!:
I'm just paranoid of everyone :lol: :P

milf and c00kies ツ 33 kids; San Clemente, California 24501 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting kthx.:" I agree with that. Children are more apt to trusting people they know, which is why there are more instances of kidnap, rape, abuse, etc with people the children know versus strangers. "


:!:
That's why it amuses me when people get so worked up about online pedophiles and such. It's baffling.

Halpert 3 kids; Ohio 34411 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting TristanLynn [EBFB]:" Also, we will do the "password" thing. We'll have a word that a person will have to use. If the person ... [snip!] ... knows that password, it's ok to go with them. If they don't, then DO NOT go anywhere with that person, even if it's Grandma."


My mom did this with my brother and I when we were kids and I'm going to do it with mine

yo moyo 1 child; Ishim, Russian Federation 1335 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting TristanLynn [EBFB]:" Also, we will do the "password" thing. We'll have a word that a person will have to use. If the person ... [snip!] ... knows that password, it's ok to go with them. If they don't, then DO NOT go anywhere with that person, even if it's Grandma."


That's a really good idea.

milf and c00kies ツ 33 kids; San Clemente, California 24501 posts
25th Jan '11
Quoting TristanLynn [EBFB]:" Also, we will do the "password" thing. We'll have a word that a person will have to use. If the person ... [snip!] ... knows that password, it's ok to go with them. If they don't, then DO NOT go anywhere with that person, even if it's Grandma."


My mom, sister and I have a password. Lol.
We've actually had to use it once and the guy didn't know it :shock:
I'm so glad we had that system, that day could've turned for the worse that day.

My Brain On Drugs TTC since Sep 2013; 33 kids; Elephant Butte, New Mexico 15758 posts
25th Jan '11

So true. Rapists of adult women are normally someone she knows.

Shows like this and these messages that "strangers" are bad are part of the culture that have made young women these days so very naive.