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Leaving Family Behind... [aLLy] Due July 15 (boy); 33 kids; California 899 posts
8th Feb '11

For those of you who have moved away (out of state) from your family [Parents, Siblings etc.] Was it difficult for you? Was your family upset? How did you break the news??

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
8th Feb '11

I left August of '09 and was back by December, I couldn't take it.

*-------*TBTM! Tucson, Arizona 1796 posts
8th Feb '11

I lived overseas for 4 years. It was very very hard. But internet was what kept me sane. Now i'm 19 hours away. Over time its gotten a lot easier.

Logan and Amanda's mom 2 kids; Adrian, Michigan 1998 posts
8th Feb '11

I lived 1.5 hours a way for a while and now we live 4 hours from my family. oh boy do i miss them greatly. if it were not for skype i dont know what i would do.

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20 (boy); 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6877 posts
status 8th Feb '11

My family is really tight knit. It was pretty hard on me and them. It really messed with my relationship with my husband. We were newlyweds and pregnant. But now I don't speak to my family and I actually like it. They were always in our business. With time you'll get used to it.

[aLLy] Due July 15 (boy); 33 kids; California 899 posts
8th Feb '11
Quoting JoAnna ♥'s Jett:" My family is really tight knit. It was pretty hard on me and them. It really messed with my relationship ... [snip!] ... But now I don't speak to my family and I actually like it. They were always in our business. With time you'll get used to it."


My mom has always tried to keep our family close but its really hard when dad is an alcoholic and there is constant fighting. We cant attend a family get together without someone getting into an argument most of the time its my parents and what really made it worse is when my brother started using drugs that tore the family up quite a bit he now lives in new mexico. I dont want my daughter or second child to have to experience what I did as a child. I love my family A LOT but I cant take it anymore. I know its gonna hurt my mom I just hope she understands. Husband and I have been planning to move to the east coast for the past couple years and i think this is the year we are actually gonna do it.

[aLLy] Due July 15 (boy); 33 kids; California 899 posts
8th Feb '11

Anyone else???

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20 (boy); 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6877 posts
status 9th Feb '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting [aLLy]:</b>" My mom has always tried to keep our family close but its really hard when dad is an alcoholic and there ... [snip!] ... been planning to move to the east coast for the past couple years and i think this is the year we are actually gonna do it."</blockquote>




Yeah sometimes yourfamily can be toxic. I think in the long run it will be so much better for you and your family to b away from them. It'll suck for a bit but at least you'll have your husband and kids. That's all you need.

kristylauren 1 child; New York 55 posts
9th Feb '11
Quoting [aLLy]:" For those of you who have moved away (out of state) from your family [Parents, Siblings etc.] Was it difficult for you? Was your family upset? How did you break the news??"


I'm currently in the same dilemma... my fiance and I are living apart and before the baby is born I am moving out of state to move in with him. It makes me feel awful.. leaving my family, my friends, and that I'll be with his family. But whats most important to me is that the 3 of us (baby, daddy and momma) are together.. you have to do whats best for you. I've gradually been telling my mom I've been thinking about it, and she's been upset.. but I've reassured her we'll stay in touch. I need my mommy! So of course we will... I'm sure you will stay close with your family too .. and remember to not feel bad if they don't handle it well, it is your life..

[aLLy] Due July 15 (boy); 33 kids; California 899 posts
10th Feb '11
Quoting JoAnna ♥'s Jett:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [aLLy]:</b>" My mom has always tried to keep our family close ... [snip!] ... and your family to b away from them. It'll suck for a bit but at least you'll have your husband and kids. That's all you need."


I feel that it will be better too. I know it will be hard for a while but I just wanna do whats best for my growing family.

[aLLy] Due July 15 (boy); 33 kids; California 899 posts
10th Feb '11
Quoting kristylauren:" I'm currently in the same dilemma... my fiance and I are living apart and before the baby is born I ... [snip!] ... sure you will stay close with your family too .. and remember to not feel bad if they don't handle it well, it is your life.."


I know my mom isnt gonna take it well but youre right I have to do whats best for us. And its not like Ill never visit them I just wont be around 24/7 365.

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20 (boy); 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6877 posts
status 10th Feb '11
Quoting [aLLy]:" I know my mom isnt gonna take it well but youre right I have to do whats best for us. And its not like Ill never visit them I just wont be around 24/7 365."



sometimes its best to not be around them 24/7 especially with a child. Everyone wants to give their opinions and it gets old really fast. Maybe its just me though, i've always been kind of a loner, and do my own thing, nothing like my family.