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Getting my 5 month old to sleep alone Meow+1 1 child; Florida 524 posts
11th Apr '11

We have been co-sleeping since she was born because she refused/refuses to sleep in her crib or without someone there. I want to transition her to sleeping alone because she is too attached to me since she sleeps and eats from me and won't let daddy watch her for more than 45 minutes if that. She screams bloody murder(to the point she makes herself throw up sometimes) if I try to get her in the crib or put her to sleep in her swing- I try moving her later but she always wakes up.



Is it too young for me to try to get her to sleep alone when she cries like that? I have read CIO should start after 6 months but I don't know what to do to get her to be a little more independent. If it is okay, how should I go about it for a 5 month old? She is getting worse everyday I let her sleep with me and now even requires me to rock her to sleep and stay with her after eating each night...I just need a break...

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
11th Apr '11

IMO, a 5 month old shouldn't be independent.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
11th Apr '11

She's a baby :? Babies aren't independent..... & shouldn't be forced too. You are mommy, she needs you...

*domestic goddess* 2 kids; Illinois 6054 posts
11th Apr '11

I rocked DD to sleep until she was a year old! :)
She slept with me until she was 14m!

She never really slept in her crib until we made it into a "toddler bed" :)

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
11th Apr '11

I still rock and breastfeed my son to sleep every night and for naps. He gets put down to sleep in his bed, but when he wakes up in the middle of the night, I bring him in the bed with me.



He's only a baby once, so I will baby him. :D

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting DanielleIsACarnyMama:" I still rock and breastfeed my son to sleep every night and for naps. He gets put down to sleep in his ... [snip!] ... but when he wakes up in the middle of the night, I bring him in the bed with me. He's only a baby once, so I will baby him. :D"


Best thing I've heard all day. :)

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
11th Apr '11

Also OP I'm not sure if you are aware of how CIO can have negative effects on a young child. I'll give you some articles to read. Just in case!
In fact, studies have shown that attachment parenting when the child is young, & growing, actually makes them into more independent & well behaved teenagers/adults.



http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/



http://www.sleepnet.com/infant3/messages/534.html

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting Vindictive [raspberry]:" Best thing I've heard all day. :)"


I really believe it! There is plenty of time for him to be disciplined and grow independent when he has the capacity to understand "Mommy needs to [fill in the blank], play with your trucks."

Meow+1 1 child; Florida 524 posts
11th Apr '11

It has been fine but I recently started working from home and since she won't go in the crib or let anyone watch her for long it has been challenging.



And as far as "independent" goes- there are babies who do sleep in their crib and do not need to be held 24/7. I am there for my daughter and will continue to do what I need to to get her to bed but if I can get her to sleep in her crib at an acceptable age I will try it.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting DanielleIsACarnyMama:" I really believe it! There is plenty of time for him to be disciplined and grow independent when he has the capacity to understand "Mommy needs to [fill in the blank], play with your trucks.""


Absolutely.



My daughter just turned two, and she will still come to me when she's grumpy or tired and say, "Momma, can I be your baby?", and makes me sit there and rock her.
They're only this young once. I'm going to live it up.
I'll miss it when she's 16.

Angie Bear Due June 21; 17 kids; Deltona, Florida 5653 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting ma ♥:" She's a baby :? Babies aren't independent..... & shouldn't be forced too. You are mommy, she needs you..."

:!:

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting Meow+1:" It has been fine but I recently started working from home and since she won't go in the crib or let anyone ... [snip!] ... continue to do what I need to to get her to bed but if I can get her to sleep in her crib at an acceptable age I will try it."


There are babies like that, but not all babies are or have the ability to be like that. Maybe get a wrap so she can be close and your hands can be free?

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting Meow+1:" It has been fine but I recently started working from home and since she won't go in the crib or let anyone ... [snip!] ... continue to do what I need to to get her to bed but if I can get her to sleep in her crib at an acceptable age I will try it."


:?

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting Meow+1:" It has been fine but I recently started working from home and since she won't go in the crib or let anyone ... [snip!] ... continue to do what I need to to get her to bed but if I can get her to sleep in her crib at an acceptable age I will try it."


I feel very sorry for the babies that have been forced into "independence" as newborns. It's a shame.

Meow+1 1 child; Florida 524 posts
11th Apr '11
Quoting ma ♥:" Also OP I'm not sure if you are aware of how CIO can have negative effects on a young child. I'll give ... [snip!] ... teenagers/adults. http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/ http://www.sleepnet.com/infant3/messages/534.html"


I am aware of the negative effects which is why I questioned at what age is it okay for all this to go on. That is the part I get different answers about. Everyone tells me different ages :/