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Jazelle 1 child; North Carolina 2003 posts
14th Apr '11
Quoting [♥]Jessica[♥]:" I saw that too on Tyra. But, you know a lot of white women have similar issues. Thin lips, straight ... [snip!] ... with the way they are. It's normal. So I can see how people would come to the conclusion to mix races to get a better outcome."


like mrs von t said, i understand it, but i don't agree with it. of course there are things that we don't like about ourselves, but we can't start hating ourselves or letting other people's comments get to us. i could relax my hair, and get plastic surgery, but i choose to accept it and love myself (for the most part) because my features are part of who i am. just as i'll have to accept the fact that i'll never have a nice ghetto booty LOL (but i'll be in the gym trying).

That Elise Girl Due September 25; TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Springville, AL, United States 2927 posts
14th Apr '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Peitra* That b***h:</b>" To flip this around I am a really light skin black girl, both of my parents are darker brown. I feel ... [snip!] ... I hate when people are touching my hair because I have really curly hair. I hate feeling like I don't belong in my own family."</blockquote>




My kids father is black, as I stated and they look almost white for the most part. So I know their day will come when kids question their race as they grow up. But, you shouldn't feel out of place, your just lighter skin then your other family members. Your beautiful!

SerialKiller 2 kids; Virginia 23722 posts
14th Apr '11
Quoting ♥Elise♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Peitra* That b***h:</b>" To flip this around I am a really ... [snip!] ... as they grow up. But, you shouldn't feel out of place, your just lighter skin then your other family members. Your beautiful!"


Yea but sometimes they make me feel out of place. Like it is my fault that I was born light skinned. When I tell people I am black they look at me like I am crazy.

eta thanks for saying I'm beautiful :wink:

♥Mama to 2 2 kids; Georgia 10403 posts
14th Apr '11
Quoting Jazelle:" like mrs von t said, i understand it, but i don't agree with it. of course there are things that we ... [snip!] ... who i am. just as i'll have to accept the fact that i'll never have a nice ghetto booty LOL (but i'll be in the gym trying). "


Well of course you should accept it. All women should. But the truth is, most women will never be completely 100% satisfied with how they look.

What I think is sad is black women bleaching their skin... like Tyra had on there. Like these women were crying because they want to be lighter. But, I guess it's the same as white women tanning. IDK. I tan just because I can't stand to be so freakin white that I'm glowin!

That Elise Girl Due September 25; TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Springville, AL, United States 2927 posts
14th Apr '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Peitra* That b***h:</b>" Yea but sometimes they make me feel out of place. Like it is my fault that I was born light skinned. ... [snip!] ... light skinned. When I tell people I am black they look at me like I am crazy. eta thanks for saying I'm beautiful :wink:"</blockquote>




Well that sucks, that's your family members too. I hate that you feel that way girl. Just keep that pretty head up:) you never know, they just may have wanted to be blessed with your skin tone;)

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
14th Apr '11
Quoting Lovin my husband daughter:" I think you are absolutely correct it is much deeper....but it is pretty sad to see the obsession with ... [snip!] ... is. I am not speaking for wall women but I have come across a few that seem pretty desperate to have "certain type of baby""

Oh I definitely hear you on that. I think it's unfortunate, but it really is important to have those discussions with people and ask them how they reach these conclusions. I so want to keep typing and being in this conversation but I gotta go get ready for dinner with the inlaws. But I think it's a really interesting topic!

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
14th Apr '11

Sadly, mom is like that. My little brother is half black and he's beautiful, but she constantly talked about 'Because he's black' to everything lmao.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18895 posts
14th Apr '11
Quoting casey[is PREGNANT]:" We have some asian friends & everytime they come over the girl always says "I want a white baby so bad!!! ya'll get the blue eyes & the blonde hair!!""


We have an asian couple in our Ward whose daughter has blue eyes :D we also have a Bi racial couple in our ward, mother is white, father is black, they have 3 children who are darker like their father, but have their mothers blue eyes.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
14th Apr '11

When my ex (white) and I (black) started dating, he seemed obsessed over what our kids would look like. No more white "jungle-fever" guys for me, lol.

Honestly, as a single black woman with no kids or a mate, race is the furthest thing from my mind. Regardless of what race my sperm donor is from, my children will be considered black by most Americans. All I ask is for beautiful healthy children and they'll probably be fully black.

As for "black" names, I find that statement to be very ignorant. I have GREEK, ENGLISH, NATIVE AMERICAN names picked out for my BLACK babies. I have an India Indian name, my parents and brothers have English names.

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
15th Apr '11
Quoting ♫VoiceoReason♫:" When my ex (white) and I (black) started dating, he seemed obsessed over what our kids would look like. ... [snip!] ... NATIVE AMERICAN names picked out for my BLACK babies. I have an India Indian name, my parents and brothers have English names."

Regarding your ex, I remember several years ago when I first started dating my now-husband (he is White), my dad gave me a book about White men who date women of colour because of the "exotic" factor and other reasons. I remember being very offended by my dad giving me that book, because I knew DH wasn't like that. However, there really are men out there who only go for women of colour because they are "exotic," are "different," etc.... basically for all the wrong reasons. I wish I remembered the name of that book because it was actually interesting, looking back on it.

Slyminx 17 kids; Tacoma, Washington 1214 posts
15th Apr '11
Quoting CJulian:" I don't know about that OP. I think women want the baby of the man they love, whatever his race. Also IDK if it's just Chinese women, but for some reason they are always fawning over my son. "

I live in Korea and it's common here for Caucasian babies to get fawned over, much more than their own. I've heard that the Koreans think white babies are good luck, not sure if there's much truth in that or not. But regardless, most Caucasian babies will get a lot of attention and Korean women often want to touch them too.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
15th Apr '11
Quoting Charlie's Angels:" Regarding your ex, I remember several years ago when I first started dating my now-husband (he is White), ... [snip!] ... for all the wrong reasons. I wish I remembered the name of that book because it was actually interesting, looking back on it."


And those men are the one I want to avoid.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18895 posts
15th Apr '11
Quoting Slyminx:" I live in Korea and it's common here for Caucasian babies to get fawned over, much more than their own. ... [snip!] ... that or not. But regardless, most Caucasian babies will get a lot of attention and Korean women often want to touch them too. "


Well probably for the same reason we fawn over their babies too though. not because they like them more, but because its something "different"

user banned Texas 2 posts
13th Dec '12

I think all kids are cute,regardless or race.