Quoting Nichelle Collins:" I was with my bd for 2 years and then foung out I was prego in december. I haven't seen him since. He ... [snip!] ... when she gets here but I doubt it. I wish I knew how to get over him but how do you let go of 2 years of memories and love?"
I'm still not 100% but I know I will be in due time. Memories are what hold us back. However, I threw out any piece of clothing, gift, and letters he gave me or what I wrote him. It's in a garbage disposal now. You need to remember the good things and remember how much you loved him, how much you cared, don't even think about what he felt, because sometimes you'll never know. Just know how good you were to him and how good you'll be to someone else who will love you back. There's a rainbow on the other side of the road, keep looking!
the memories of "us" still haunt me and i will never understand how he just threw it all away out of nowhere and how he could just dismiss all our memories and history together.. to him its like i dont even exist anymore...
however, i like to think that "every moment of sadness is joy in disguise" and yes itll take time but eventually you will find happiness again.
Its so hard though because when I think about the good times it reminds me of how much I'm still in love with him. So I try to think about all he has done to me during this pregnancy so I can get over him.
Quoting Nichelle Collins:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ivana ♥:</b>" I'm still not 100% but I know I will be ... [snip!] ... how much I'm still in love with him. So I try to think about all he has done to me during this pregnancy so I can get over him."
I know. But you have to convince yourself it was what he showed, what he wanted you to perceive. You loved what he was. WHAT HE MADE YOU BELIEVE, which, sorry to be so blunt, could have been all a lie. Regardless of that, he's a jerk now. You don't love this jerk. You love what you knew. Don't think about him just think about your baby. That's pretty much what I'm doing & I'm more happy day by day. Keep your chin up.
Quoting Mamacita♥:" totally know what that feeling is like...BD left me when i was pregnant and a week later started dating ... [snip!] ... to think that "every moment of sadness is joy in disguise" and yes itll take time but eventually you will find happiness again."
They try to convince themselves they don't care or try to replace the love they had for us with someone else. It won't work. It might for a while; a few months, a year, a few years, but eventually just like it expired with us, it'll expire with someone else. I'd like to think regardless of anything, these men donated s***m to make beautiful babies. So he did do one good thing for me: He's giving me a son that's due very soon. And I'm happy, you girls should try to be too. Easier said than done though, I know. It's taken me almost two months of misery and depression to slap myself in the face and realize. LIVE YOUR LIFE; THESE GUYS ARE OBVIOUSLY LIVING THEIRS!
Quoting Ivana ♥:" They try to convince themselves they don't care or try to replace the love they had for us with someone ... [snip!] ... months of misery and depression to slap myself in the face and realize. LIVE YOUR LIFE; THESE GUYS ARE OBVIOUSLY LIVING THEIRS!"
thanks :) that really helped me alot. i know itll take time just right now its hard..
Quoting Mamacita♥:" thanks :) that really helped me alot. i know itll take time just right now its hard.."
No problem! :) I'm not 100% healed from anything but I'm taking the steps to be. I'm not letting that a*****e win, or affect what kind of mother I will be. I wish you the same luck.
My daughters bd and I were togethet for almost 2 years. He would go against me whenever it came to buying our little one things cause it had to be what his mom wanted not me but I made it clear I picked what my daughter was getting..I had asked him to get a family car and he comes back home with a Camero. we broke up when I was 8 month pregant then found out that same week he had hooked up with a 15 year old let alone he's 21. He was their to see his daughter be born, he held her for about 15 min then he left and never showed up again let alone my daughter is almost 2 months.How could you go from 2 years being togethet and saying your happy to start a family then turn around and denie your daughter cause she dosent have your last name and you don't love us anymore..How do I get over two years being with someone and having a family to just all at once walking out of my life??? The sad thing is I know I still love him