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How to Prove A Father Unfit Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11

Well, I made this because I know a lot of Mother's have the same question and maybe we can all review this fourum if we need any sort of help.
Anyways, what are some ways to prove an unfit father?
What IS an unfit?
How to catch an unfit father?

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
1st Jul '11

Drugs would be the number one way to prove a father (or mother) is unfit. Have him take a regular drug test & it has to always be clean.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
1st Jul '11

psh here apparently it's fucking impossible...
I had pictures,videos, recordings, police reports



but apparent I was just "picking on him" :roll::roll::roll::roll:

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting ma ♥:" Drugs would be the number one way to prove a father (or mother) is unfit. Have him take a regular drug test & it has to always be clean."


How do you propose to make him(or her) take regular drug tests? If you're making one parent, then make both.

Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting InkDMomma:" psh here apparently it's fucking impossible... I had pictures,videos, recordings, police reports but apparent I was just "picking on him" :roll::roll::roll::roll:"


Where do u live???? Is that what the court said?!

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting Ninja"the tank"Shahinda:" How do you propose to make him(or her) take regular drug tests? If you're making one parent, then make both."


The courts will make him. & yes, both parents.

Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11

Make sure that you are not exposing your children to unsafe or unhealthy environments when they are with you. Are you involved in another relationship? Has there been more than one? Be very careful about exposing your children to your companion(s). Many judges, professionals, and other parents object to the children being subjected to other relationships too early in that process. More important, if you really want to win at custody, it should be because you want to spend time with your children parenting them. Spending time with someone else when you have the children is a recipe for losing at custody in court. Other issues that can and do affect custody determinations include the number and frequency of romantic relationships and the epxosure of the children to those relationship

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting ma ♥:" The courts will make him. & yes, both parents."


The courts won't just make somebody because the other parent tells them to. There has to be a reason behind it like previous drug use that is already documented. Even then they aren't going to do it forever, just a few months as a probationary precaution. It doesn't prove the father unfit if he can go a few months with clean drug tests.

Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting Namine *Lucy's Mommy*:" Make sure that you are not exposing your children to unsafe or unhealthy environments when they are with ... [snip!] ... include the number and frequency of romantic relationships and the epxosure of the children to those relationship"


I took pictures of my BD's house and it's a complete gross mess!

and he's involved in another relationship. They dated a month after LO was born

Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting Ninja"the tank"Shahinda:" The courts won't just make somebody because the other parent tells them to. There has to be a reason ... [snip!] ... a few months as a probationary precaution. It doesn't prove the father unfit if he can go a few months with clean drug tests."

I thought you coud filed for a test to be done. And you could probably file over and over again until they fail it. They won't want to stop doing drugs forever unless they really care about their children

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
1st Jul '11

It goes both ways. If you try and prove one to be unfit then be prepared to have your shit scrutinized also. Parenthood is a double edged sword. You are damned if you do and damned if you dont. When trying to prove one parent unfit there is always going to be a battle between the two parents.
I never had to prove him to be unfit because he did it for me in court and in real life. Child Abuse charges, Child endangerment, attempted vehicular homiside...it was easy but it is never always that easy. I think when the issues revolve around the safety and wellbeing of a child then it can be proven but if it is just lack of time with the child, or pretending they dont exist, or failing to pay child support then they will never consider a parent unfit.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting Ninja"the tank"Shahinda:" The courts won't just make somebody because the other parent tells them to. There has to be a reason ... [snip!] ... a few months as a probationary precaution. It doesn't prove the father unfit if he can go a few months with clean drug tests."


You can ask for a drug test anytime you want if the father (or mother) has visitation with the child..... It doesn't matter if there is past history or not.

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting ma ♥:" You can ask for a drug test anytime you want if the father (or mother) has visitation with the child..... It doesn't matter if there is past history or not."


No you can't.
Correction, you can ask all you want, but they're not going to do it all the the time on the whim of a parent who is hell bent on proving the other parent unfit.

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting Ninja"the tank"Shahinda:" No you can't. Correction, you can ask all you want, but they're not going to do it all the the time on the whim of a parent who is hell bent on proving the other parent unfit."

:!:

Fluttershy~ 1 child; Hilliard, Ohio 1168 posts
1st Jul '11
Quoting My Lil' Monster:" It goes both ways. If you try and prove one to be unfit then be prepared to have your shit scrutinized ... [snip!] ... with the child, or pretending they dont exist, or failing to pay child support then they will never consider a parent unfit."


I guess the thing to do is make sure you're picture perfect for the court to see.
What are small things that prove a father unfit