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Libertarian ♥ 19 kids; San Antonio, Texas 17690 posts
28th Jul '12
Quoting *...*...*...*:" From what I've gathered in a 100 page "should I ban them" thread from Mara a few BG's OG's and mods posted variations of someones real name. And somehow C played into that."


No C wanted to be banned. She didn't like that Mara essentially let people post the full name of a well known member.



She brought it to Mara's attention and Mara banned them and then let them come back. C didn't like how Mara handled the situation and asked to be banned.

*...*...*...* 1 child; Michigan 8230 posts
29th Jul '12
Quoting Libertarian ♥:" No C wanted to be banned. She didn't like that Mara essentially let people post the full name of a ... [snip!] ... and Mara banned them and then let them come back. C didn't like how Mara handled the situation and asked to be banned."


Thanks! I was trying to sift threw 106 pages and was just skimming.

*...*...*...* 1 child; Michigan 8230 posts
29th Jul '12

UO.



I hate the rationale of "You don't have it as bad as it could be so stop your bitching"



Disappointment and pain is all the same.



And I see it a lot specially on this site.



"Oh you didn't get a VBAC stop whining least you have a baby"



Or "So what you are miserable and pregnant at least you are pregnant."



"Oh your mad because you *insert rich people problem here* at least you can afford *this or that*"



Shut up. Seriously.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
29th Jul '12
Quoting *...*...*...*:" UO. I hate the rationale of "You don't have it as bad as it could be so stop your bitching" Disappointment ... [snip!] ... "Oh your mad because you *insert rich people problem here* at least you can afford *this or that*" Shut up. Seriously."

agreed...not everything is a pissig contest and everybody has the right to complain...about whatever they want..there is always somebody whose going to have it harder but hat doesn't mean anything

*...*...*...* 1 child; Michigan 8230 posts
29th Jul '12
Quoting Erica! Jake & Abby's mom!:" agreed...not everything is a pissig contest and everybody has the right to complain...about whatever they want..there is always somebody whose going to have it harder but hat doesn't mean anything"


There is also a difference between being disappointed or upset...and being a straight up brat about it.



But yea, I hate the pissing contest.

Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103409 posts
30th Jul '12
Quoting Libertarian ♥:" No C wanted to be banned. She didn't like that Mara essentially let people post the full name of a ... [snip!] ... and Mara banned them and then let them come back. C didn't like how Mara handled the situation and asked to be banned."

*partial, ftr

Nigel Thornberry 1 child; New Hampshire 6415 posts
1st Aug '12

I know it's been posted for but it still annoys me.
UO: It's annoying as f**k when a teen mom posts a thread looking for other teen moms in the teen mom forum and older moms swarm in like "Oh so what about older moms? why don't you like us?". It's not unreasonable for a teen mom to want other teen moms who are in the same situation (still in school, not legally able to do a good deal of things, etc). I don't see why everyone has to make a big deal about someone wanting friends their own age. :roll:

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
1st Aug '12

I guess this is an UO around some parts of BG:

I miss C. I thought she was an amazing woman and she gave me some really good advice on many occassions.

BG isn't the same without her.

empire state of mind New York, New York 12205 posts
1st Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:</b>" I guess this is an UO around some parts of BG: I miss C. I thought she was an amazing woman and she gave me some really good advice on many occassions. BG isn't the same without her."</blockquote>




Wait where'd she go? I liked her even though we are two very different people

*...*...*...* 1 child; Michigan 8230 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" I guess this is an UO around some parts of BG: I miss C. I thought she was an amazing woman and she gave me some really good advice on many occassions. BG isn't the same without her."


i do to! she was very thought provoking, and undeniably a good debater.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting empire state of mind:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:</b>" I guess this is an UO around some parts ... [snip!] ... the same without her."</blockquote> Wait where'd she go? I liked her even though we are two very different people"


I guess there was some big drama and C didn't like the way it was handled and from what I saw a lot of people were attacking her. Calling her all kinds of nasty things, bringing her kids and husband into it, and such. So she got herself banned.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" I guess there was some big drama and C didn't like the way it was handled and from what I saw a lot ... [snip!] ... her. Calling her all kinds of nasty things, bringing her kids and husband into it, and such. So she got herself banned."


that's a slightly ... unreal version.



some people got banned for playing w/ the "no personal data" posted rule, by posting part of a member's full name in a way that wasn't clearly identifying her (e.g. "what should we name our baby"). so - i banned but felt the silliness of the crime made it symbolic (especially b/c they were all long-time relatively decent members).



of course they asked to come back.



and then all hell broke loose b/c i didn't communicate clearly w/ either end (the mods/SMs or the returning members about what was happening and what was acceptable behavior upon returning).



there's a gory story in there i'm going to skip over and say this: ultimately c got herself banned by using my avi and making multiple accounts. so she left b/c she disagreed w/ my choice to let them stay after they came back and re-entered TDC (where most of them hang out) and some railed directly against her in there (as that's what TDC is classically for).



she's welcome if she wants to come back. i highly doubt that'll happen. she was pretty thorough about leaving.

*...*...*...* 1 child; Michigan 8230 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting Mara:" that's a slightly ... unreal version. some people got banned for playing w/ the "no personal data" ... [snip!] ... for). she's welcome if she wants to come back. i highly doubt that'll happen. she was pretty thorough about leaving. "


:cry:



Well I'm sorry all that stuff had to go down.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting Mara:" that's a slightly ... unreal version. some people got banned for playing w/ the "no personal data" ... [snip!] ... for). she's welcome if she wants to come back. i highly doubt that'll happen. she was pretty thorough about leaving. "


I'm not saying I agree with C's behavior towards the end there. But I just found it to be really sad that so many people were saying such awful things about her and her family.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
1st Aug '12
Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" I'm not saying I agree with C's behavior towards the end there. But I just found it to be really sad that so many people were saying such awful things about her and her family."


i only saw people saying awful things about her... not that that's better, i just didn't see them bagging on the fam, which is shit-tacular.