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NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
12th Nov '11

*Bradley&NataliesMommy, it wouldn't let me quote you for some reason, but to answer your question, yes we're still together :-) I couldn't have gotten through that without him.

*Bradley&NataliesMommy* 18 kids; Odessa, Texas 2564 posts
13th Nov '11
Quoting nicolex:" *Bradley&NataliesMommy, it wouldn't let me quote you for some reason, but to answer your question, yes we're still together :-) I couldn't have gotten through that without him."


my post was modded, and it was voted not to hide, but i still cant edit it or be quoted. and im so happy that the two of you made it through that! its one of those things that can tear a couple apart or bring them closer!

Sarah Grace Martin Due March 24; Pennsylvania 4 posts
17th Dec '11

I want to let all the women out there who have had abortions and are hurting that Rachel's Vineyard is a wonderful organization. They can help you work through your abortion and find peace and healing in a non-judgmental atmosphere. It has helped several of my friends who had abortions and suffered a lot of grief afterwards. You have lost children and you have every right to grieve the loss of those children. I'm sorry to read all these heartbreaking stories.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
25th Dec '11
Quoting Sarah Grace Martin:" I want to let all the women out there who have had abortions and are hurting that Rachel's Vineyard ... [snip!] ... children and you have every right to grieve the loss of those children. I'm sorry to read all these heartbreaking stories. "


I never got a notification for your reply, but thanks I'll check it out. I love exhale.org they're great.

ETA: I checked it out and unfortunately not the direction I was expecting. Too religious for me, but thanks anyways.

Mirror Seeing 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kilgore, Texas 2507 posts
1st Jan '12

In my opinion, as soon as the cells start to form, that is a living thing... a baby. That at any gestation would be hard for me. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I know what it's like not to have support and be so confused. I pray that this time is easier for you and you don't drive yourself crazy with regret.

LRX 3 kids; Alaska 28050 posts
2nd Jan '12
Quoting NIC☮LE:" First let me start by saying that although I know there are many opinions on abortion, especially late ... [snip!] ... comments about late term abortion to yourselfs. It took a lot out of me to share. Thanks for reading, if you made it this far."


Your story sounds like a movie. Thank you for sharing your experience because I've never heard of one like that.... I also think it's good that you plan on sharing this story with your daughter... do you think if your mother had been supportive if it would have been different and you would have decided not to have the abortion? Do you think knowing what you know now of peoples true intentions (that you realized in hindsite) you would have still made the same decision? Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy! I don't think I will ever forget your story and it has taught me of a way I want to be sure not to be with my girls the way your mother was with you.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
3rd Jan '12
Quoting bobbibouche - 28 weeks!:" Your story sounds like a movie. Thank you for sharing your experience because I've never heard of one ... [snip!] ... forget your story and it has taught me of a way I want to be sure not to be with my girls the way your mother was with you."


I can't say it would have changed my decision because I absolutely believe it was the right one for me. However, if I would have been able to go to my mom I would have done things a lot sooner and perhaps saved myself from years of hell. It's done now though and I can't dwell on the past, just have to move on. I'm not sure I would have went to my MIL either had I known how things would've turned out because now I have a lot of resentment towards her, which makes things difficult because Charlie and I are still together and having a baby any time, and she has virtually nothing to do with us.
Thanks for your support! I will always be open with my baby girl and I hope that she will never be afraid to come to me with anything. If this experience taught me anything it taught me how important it is for your children to be comfortable coming to you for anything.

LRX 3 kids; Alaska 28050 posts
3rd Jan '12
Quoting NIC☮LE:" I can't say it would have changed my decision because I absolutely believe it was the right one for ... [snip!] ... experience taught me anything it taught me how important it is for your children to be comfortable coming to you for anything."

Thanks for responding! I don't mean to make you question your decision or think of what you would do know, but I was just curious as to knowing what you know now would you have done the same. Thank you for this learning experience.
I remember at 17, I thought I was pregnant, told my mom and she went out and bought me a pregnancy test. I took it and it was negative and we went on with it. She never got mad, never said she was disappointed or anything and we just sort of went on with our lives (although she did inform my father that I was having sex which was embarassing at the time). About a year ago I asked her about it, and she said she remembered and I asked her what she would of done if I was pregnant. She said "we would have had a baby", simple as that. I never realized my parents would be so supportive, but I'm glad that they were. I just think what am I going to do with my girls and I don't want them to be thinking "if I get pregnant, mom will take care of it." I do want them to come to me if they need to if they think they're pregnant or have an STI. I just hope that I can raise my girls to know better, and know how to protect themselves. I find it terrifying that one day they will be having sex, but I'm hoping that I'll grow into the idea as they get older because it's kind of inevitable (yes, they one day WILL lose their V-card). Hopefully it's later than sooner :)

dumpy poodle 1 child; California 144 posts
4th Jan '12

Thanks for sharing this story. I had an abortion about a year ago and now that I'm pregnant again I think about it, too. It's nice to have someone explain the feelings that I've been having all along. You're one strong woman :) And the most important thing is, since you went through all of this, you'll be sure to have an open relationship with your daughter so that she doesn't have to go through what you had to go through.



And congratulations!

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
4th Jan '12

your story has me crying. im so sorry it was so hard for you.
congrats on your current pregnancy though!!

MissJamie Lynn 5 kids; Utah 140 posts
3rd Apr '12

Wow, your story was very moving. I am at work and stopped working to read the whole thing. You are a very strong person and I am sure that was the hardest thing to go through. I am really sorry you didn't have the support you needed during that time. I can't even imagine. I am glad to hear that you and your boy are still together and have turned a sad story into a happier one. :) Best wishes for your future! :)

Sawyer Quinns mommy 1 child; Rogers City, Michigan 57 posts
3rd Apr '12

WOW. this story broke my heart. i am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. you should totally turn that into a book. i would buy it a million times. it is so heart breaking, but a good learning experience. i am so glad that you and Charlie are still together. I bet you love your new baby with your whole heart, and would do anything for her.

Sara Elizabeth Rose Bryan Due June 13 (boy); Hamilton, Ohio 55 posts
6th Apr '12

Although I think you are very strong for having overcome something like that, I don't agree with everyone saying "Sorry you had to go through that." Because honestly you didn't HAVE to go though it. Sorry that you chose to go through that, but I'm glad you could overcome the pain it caused you as 17 year olds are very naive.

kravenscookiejar 18 kids; Surprise, Arizona 20749 posts
7th Apr '12

I don't venture to this area of the forum often, so I realize that this is a very late response, but I wanted to thank you for sharing that experience. It was very emotional, and I appreciate the opportunity to see through the eyes of someone who has been through this.



So, thank you. *hugs*

Ashley~Marie Due July 28 (girl); 4 kids; Ontario 153 posts
9th Apr '12

I know this is late but your story was very moving. You are a very strong person and I am sure that was the hardest thing to go through. I am really sorry you didn't have the support you needed during that time. I can't even imagine.
Best wishes for your future!