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...:::Brittany:::... Due August 28 (boy); 2 kids; Dawsonville, GA, United States 6603 posts
6th Oct '11

Id just let it go and not make a deal out of it. If she wnts to be like tht intentionally or not just dont go out of your way for her but just ignore the little things so it doesnt cause problems with your hubby. If she wants to be there and see her brother and sister shed make nore of an effort she clearly knows where you live so sounds to me like shes just looking for attention, i say dont give it to her by making a deal of anything. Hopefully she grows up and out of her bitchyness until the you gotta igbore it for your sanity.




Also im 21 and couldnt imagine being like that but some ppl are spoiled and bitches period.

Cracked out June Cleaver 1 child; Springfield, Oregon 61877 posts
6th Oct '11

I am amazed your husband doesn't say something to her

Amanda VanLoovan 2 kids; Oregon 172 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Cracked out June Cleaver:" She sounds like the step child from hell"


oh this is NOTHING to what she has done in past...I and repeat I paid for her sweet 16. she told me that i wasnt welcome at party cause i wasnt her family...HMMM well then me and all of MY food, MY pop, and MY presents went home, after she threw a fit and her dad told her to calm down she threw a FULL can of soda at his face and busted two teeth and both lips...at graduation i once again tried, we bought her a car, and everything in the world she would ever need for it. she refused to drive it cause it wasnt a two door.

~AJLR~ Due February 9 (boy); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Virginia Beach, VA, United States 2235 posts
6th Oct '11

I'd tell my SO he can either listen to what I say about his kid or he can kick rocks. If he won't listen to what you have to say then there's nothing you can do.

And I'd post all over facebook how all the "new clothes" from your stepdaughter were stained and laying in dog shit in the bags when you got them. But I'm a bitch and the little brat needs to be taught a fucking lesson.

Sebastian's Momma 1 child; La Porte, Indiana 2188 posts
6th Oct '11

i can understand feeling angry when your father goes off into another relationship but seriously i would not take it that far. I had a step mother from hell so its interesting to hear from the step mothers point of view. You have a complete and valid reason to smack the bitch. lol. Please shove the clothes at her and tell her to be alittle bit more considerate and check the clothes before giving them to you.

CrazyMomma0812 2 kids; Texas 5920 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Amanda VanLoovan:" I SOOOO badly want to say something, its not like I am goign to ruin any sort of relationship with ... [snip!] ... her daddy isnt all hers anymore...and that he dont fork over the csh right and left when she needs it cause i wont allow it. ."


She is obviously old enough to support herself. She needs a reality check. Anywho she is a bitch and you have every right to be pissed if you ask me.

Amanda VanLoovan 2 kids; Oregon 172 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs.Emily Mann:" i can understand feeling angry when your father goes off into another relationship but seriously i would ... [snip!] ... shove the clothes at her and tell her to be alittle bit more considerate and check the clothes before giving them to you."


I was froma divorced family i have alos had the step mother from hell, i refuse to be that person, I have always been there for her when she truly needed something, her water got shut off i refused to give her money but I went with her and paid the bill, apparently that makes me a bitch, I learned ALONG time ago never to give her or her mother money,

*Mommy for life* 68 kids; Franklin, Ohio 10536 posts
6th Oct '11

I would have an issue if my dad was with someone my age too. Maybe you should just talk to her maybe she is having a hard time with the fact her step mom is young enough to be her sister. I would want to have a big talk with my dad's wife/gf if that was the case. Just being honest.



*not saying there is anything wrong with the age difference*



ETA- she has taken it too far and I would say something to her but be considerate of her issues handling her father moving on to a new relationship.

Cracked out June Cleaver 1 child; Springfield, Oregon 61877 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Amanda VanLoovan:" oh this is NOTHING to what she has done in past...I and repeat I paid for her sweet 16. she told me ... [snip!] ... we bought her a car, and everything in the world she would ever need for it. she refused to drive it cause it wasnt a two door."


Wow i'm sorry,she is a plain out spoiled bitch

Amanda VanLoovan 2 kids; Oregon 172 posts
6th Oct '11

thanks girls I just wanted to see if i really was over reacting or not, I really didnt think i was, I have gave USED things to people for baby showers before but I always did it in private or told them ahead of time, I would NEVER give anything to anyone with stains much less Dog shit on them, and would definently not take credit for "spending tons of cash of my baby sister's baby shower" not show up or just give OBVIOUSLY used stained clothes.

Sebastian's Momma 1 child; La Porte, Indiana 2188 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Amanda VanLoovan:" I was froma divorced family i have alos had the step mother from hell, i refuse to be that person, ... [snip!] ... with her and paid the bill, apparently that makes me a bitch, I learned ALONG time ago never to give her or her mother money,"


exactly I commend you lady! I am a 20 and I couldn't imagine doing that to someone. I mean honestly. Where did she learn her manners. I may curse like a sailor but i can be a lady and have some common sense. To actually hit your father because you were an ungrateful brat. The hell! To complain about a car that was a gift is just unspeakable. She will get whats coming to her. I would definitely talk with your SO about this and bring up all the shit she has done in the past to remind him that this isn't uncommon for her to do. Hell I am spiteful i would say she wouldn't be allowed at the hospital when your baby is born. Sadly that would be wrong. This should be a joyous and happy time for you and your child. You do not need this stress and neither do your children.

Amanda VanLoovan 2 kids; Oregon 172 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Cracked out June Cleaver:" Wow i'm sorry,she is a plain out spoiled bitch "


Oh yes she is...
and I have no idea why? her mother is a freaking tweaker now and she has literally grown up in less desirable homes cause her mother choose the pipe over her dad and a family...When we first got together we asked her if she wanted to come live with us, that we would help her finish school and she wouldnt have to work or pay bills til she no longer attended school, she refused. So we tried to help whenever we could on TOP of paying outraeous child support. UGH i just get more furious the more i think about it.



...:::Brittany:::... Due August 28 (boy); 2 kids; Dawsonville, GA, United States 6603 posts
6th Oct '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda VanLoovan:</b>" oh this is NOTHING to what she has done in past...I and repeat I paid for her sweet 16. she told me ... [snip!] ... we bought her a car, and everything in the world she would ever need for it. she refused to drive it cause it wasnt a two door."</blockquote>




0.0 that isnt ignorable. Sounds like she needs a rude awakeing and a lesson in respect! I def wouldnt buy her anything or do anything for her!

Cracked out June Cleaver 1 child; Springfield, Oregon 61877 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting Amanda VanLoovan:" Oh yes she is... and I have no idea why? her mother is a freaking tweaker now and she has literally ... [snip!] ... help whenever we could on TOP of paying outraeous child support. UGH i just get more furious the more i think about it. "


Honestly i'd be super pissed with your husband too because he allowes it

Amanda VanLoovan 2 kids; Oregon 172 posts
6th Oct '11
Quoting *Mommy for life*:" I would have an issue if my dad was with someone my age too. Maybe you should just talk to her maybe ... [snip!] ... too far and I would say something to her but be considerate of her issues handling her father moving on to a new relationship."


we have had SEVERAL big talks about it, this is not a new situation, her father and I have been together for a little over 6 years...we lived together for 3 years before we had a son, we talked to both of his older children about it before we got pregnant with our son, they both agreed they had no issues with it, and would be excited to have younger brothers and sisters, his son is a POS and has seen us ONCE in4 years when i delevered stuff to HIS gf's baby shower, and his daughter well she is just a bitch, its all i have.
I have never tried to be her mom, i would never do that, I had step moms like that, nor do I act like they can walk all over me, I live here, its my home and I dont care of you are 115 or 3, or my 21 year old step daughter you will respect my home.