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How hard (or easy) is it to get pregnant after abortion? C410 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
13th Oct '11

I have another question regarding about how many of you have had abortions but successful (or nonsuccessful) pregnancies after that. I had my abortion because the baby's father did not want to be with me anymore, and I made the tough decision to opt out of being a single mother. It's been two weeks; and although I feel sad from time to time, I do feel that it's the right thing for me to do. I have Depression, so it'd be hard to raise the child on my own. I don't want my Depression to relapse again (it's been stable...unless if I argued with the baby's father, then I'd get depressed again).



Anyway, we are not together anymore, but I have a question for y'all. How easy (or hard) was it to get pregnant again? I'm afraid and apprehensive that after my first abortion (2 weeks ago) that I can never get pregnant again. I know that can be in rarer cases, but I'd like some feedback from you real girls rather than from statistics books/sites. It might ease my Depression & anxiety a bit.



Thank you all!!!!

You're not my demographic 1 child; Wisconsin 26883 posts
13th Oct '11

I know girls who have gotten pregnant again within months of having an abortion. I had one 4 years before I had my daughter so I don't think my situation would help ease your mind, but I wasn't trying to have a child.

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
13th Oct '11

I had an abortion at 20 and got pregnant with no problem at 24. I miscarried twice before having my second, but the doctor never suggested the abortion before a successful pregnancy had anything to do with it. I had my second at 28 and my third and last at 30.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
13th Oct '11

It was easy... But dont go and get pregnant because you are sad... ya know what I mean?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46765 posts
13th Oct '11

I had a D&C... basically same thing. I was 11 weeks. 3 months later I got pregnant with the child I am carrying now. D&C was in the beginning of April. I got a pregnant beginning of August.

Armywife13 Due April 3; 17 kids; Allenhurst, Georgia 2442 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting C410:" I have another question regarding about how many of you have had abortions but successful (or nonsuccessful) ... [snip!] ... you real girls rather than from statistics books/sites. It might ease my Depression & anxiety a bit. Thank you all!!!!"

I had one and then 2 years later gave birth to my son and am now prego again. It isn't an easy decision to make but we wouldn't have been able to provide or give the first baby what it needed. I know it has to be hard on you right now and you will have good and bad days I do too still with my Depression.

adkjishaiu 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, California 42869 posts
13th Oct '11

I had one and got pregnant again later that same year.

C410 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting The Purple Tube.:" I had a D&C... basically same thing. I was 11 weeks. 3 months later I got pregnant with the child I am carrying now. D&C was in the beginning of April. I got a pregnant beginning of August."

May I ask what a D&C is?



I had a surgical abortion at 11 weeks 1 day. They said it was 'vacuum aspiration' but I'm confused now if they are the same.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46765 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting C410:" May I ask what a D&C is? I had a surgical abortion at 11 weeks 1 day. They said it was 'vacuum aspiration' but I'm confused now if they are the same."


D&C is the dilation, but instead of the vacuum they go in and scrape the walls of your uterus. I had a molar pregnancy. I was put to sleep for it.

C410 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting Armywife13:" I had one and then 2 years later gave birth to my son and am now prego again. It isn't an easy decision ... [snip!] ... it needed. I know it has to be hard on you right now and you will have good and bad days I do too still with my Depression."


Thank you for your support. It is soo relieving to know that somoene else has gone through that and has Depression. How did you cope with it?

C410 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting The Purple Tube.:" D&C is the dilation, but instead of the vacuum they go in and scrape the walls of your uterus. I had a molar pregnancy. I was put to sleep for it."


Did they have to dilate your uterus with any pill?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46765 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting C410:" Did they have to dilate your uterus with any pill?"


no.. metal rods.

Armywife13 Due April 3; 17 kids; Allenhurst, Georgia 2442 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting C410:" Thank you for your support. It is soo relieving to know that somoene else has gone through that and has Depression. How did you cope with it?"

At first I just held it in and didn't tell anyone but hubby (BF at the time) but I ended up becoming extremely depressed to the point of having to be hospitalized. I would highly recommend having a good support system that is the best thing you can do have someone you can go and talk to when you are having a horrible day. Don't think you can do it all alone not trying to say you aren't strong but some days it really overwhelms you. GL with everything and don't believe anyone when they start bashing or downing you we each make the decision for our own reasons your reasons were right for you.

Peppa pig Due August 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2227 posts
status 13th Oct '11
Quoting C410:" I have another question regarding about how many of you have had abortions but successful (or nonsuccessful) ... [snip!] ... you real girls rather than from statistics books/sites. It might ease my Depression & anxiety a bit. Thank you all!!!!"


It shouldn't be difficult at all, really.....Sometimes, if you are extremely far along, an abortion can increase the risks of placenta previa and possibly uterine scarring (if your doctor f**ks up), but that's incredibly rare...I had an abortion at 6 weeks, which is as early as you can get one (maybe five weeks), and all it took was one shot (no pun intended, ew), and here I am...don't worry about it...when you're ready and with the right person, you fertility will kick in again and you will have a nice healthy baby.

C410 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
13th Oct '11
Quoting Armywife13:" At first I just held it in and didn't tell anyone but hubby (BF at the time) but I ended up becoming ... [snip!] ... anyone when they start bashing or downing you we each make the decision for our own reasons your reasons were right for you."


Thanks so much for your support. My parents and one friend know about my decision; however, it's hard to cope right now since both of my coworkers (one being a good friend) is pregnant at around the same time I would have been. I have a few friends who I hang out with occassionally, but I find it hard to just outright tell them. You're right though that it's much harder to keep it within ourselves and not tell a soul! I am going to therapy, but would like to have actual people in my lives to know about it. However, going to these forums do help. Do you recommend any books or have found most helpful to you?