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http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
24th Oct '11

I guess I feel that way based on my own experience. Just because I have intercourse with this guy when we do it in a threesome does NOT ok me having sex with him without my husband there. I'm not stupid, that's cheating. There's no way around that. It shouldn't even have to be spoken.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6828 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. G ♥:" My ex husband and I used to talk about having threesomes while we were doing it, dirty talk.. well then ... [snip!] ... with.. it really freaked me out so I said no. I went to Cali for my cousins wedding and he fucked that girl while I was gone.."


I'm sorry :( That's terrible.

Is that why you two split up? I think my DH and I are on the verge of at least seperating at this point...

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6828 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting ~Icat~:" how? I mean, maybe? but in MY opinion, those are two completely different sexual interactions....just ... [snip!] ... another one is ok....I don't see how that's your fault at all. And I'm pretty big on "equal share" in fault in situations. "


I agree with you. I don't see why anyone would think that's okay...

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. G ♥:" My ex husband and I used to talk about having threesomes while we were doing it, dirty talk.. well then ... [snip!] ... with.. it really freaked me out so I said no. I went to Cali for my cousins wedding and he fucked that girl while I was gone.."


:(

http://www.accountkiller. Minnesota 34665 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
*Anners* 3 kids; Texas 12319 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
-C.Lit-:) 64 kids; Italy 35513 posts
24th Oct '11

i had a guy-guy-me one.



and yeah if wed had a girl-me-him one id expect hi to have sex with her too, whats the point of a threesome if...it actually isnt?

SuckerPinch 2 kids; the desert, CA, United States 3643 posts
24th Oct '11

I couldn't have a threesome with my hubby with another women. I just care too much about him.



Now if I was single and wasn't committed to someone then I'd totally be down for a threesome with a man and women action or two men.



I'd probably only do a threesome with my DH if it was with another man. But I'm sure my DH would feel the same way I do about him fuckin another women infront if me.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6828 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting ~Icat~:" has he groveled and apologized? i mean, does he seriously realize that it wasn't ok? "


Yes, but it goes deeper than that for me. Because of my past, trusting him and feeling safe and protected by him was VERY important to me. It was the biggest thing that drew me to him: the fact that me made me feel safe and secure. After that happened I felt like everything I loved and cherished about him disappeared. Before that he was literally the PERFECT man, but now I just feel like he's the same as every other guy out there. I don't see him as the same man anymore and that's really difficult for me.

He apologized immediately and he knows he screwed up and I truly believe he regrets it and is sorry, but I'm so resentful because he doesn't have to deal with it everyday like I do. Half the time I look at him I just feel angry and resentful and it's so hard to "love" someone that you have so much negative energy towards.

I think it would do us good to see a therapist, but I'm too embarrassed to tell him/her what happened and why this is going on. Like I said, I feel like it's my fault and like the therapist would feel that way too...It's embarrassing...

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6828 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. G ♥:" Yes, we had a very nasty divorce. His family still to this day thinks I cheated on him. They're loyal ... [snip!] ... want to disappoint them.. smh I'm much happier now in my marriage with my new husband. Threesomes have never been brought up."


Wow. That's pretty messed up of him... I'm glad you're happy in your marriage now though.

Mamacita36 4 kids; Wisconsin 560 posts
24th Oct '11

I couldn't do it.

*Anners* 3 kids; Texas 12319 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6828 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. G ♥:" Yeah, he's on his second divorce now so lol I'm very happy with my hubsy. And from your other post, ... [snip!] ... harbor those feelings, it's not healthy. And another thing, there's weirder shit being told to them on a day to day basis."


LOL Probably.

Yeah I think it would help, but it's just weird because this happened almost a year ago, but I've only really started processing it these last couple months, so it's like I'm in that "angry" phase even though it's been 10+ months since it happened.

*Anners* 3 kids; Texas 12319 posts
24th Oct '11
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head