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calling your boyfriend your husband user banned
13th Nov '11

First off SO and I have been together for 6 years now. We aren't engaged or married. And I'm starting to think I don't ever want to get married legally. But I HATE calling him my BOYfriend...esepcially when I'm out I public with all our kids and people will talk to me and I have to refer to my SO as my boyfriend...people automatically assume my kids have different dads because of it.....



So how long do you have to be with someone and not be legally married and call them your husband?

Gripp540 {GDS} Due May 25 (girl); 17 kids; Waterloo, Illinois 4274 posts
13th Nov '11

I think never. But that's me. I don't think you should even call a fiance your husband until you leagally tie the knot. But I'm very religious

B) 1 child; San Diego, California 12049 posts
13th Nov '11

I think it's like 10-20 years or so I'm not sure.

user banned 2 kids; Brooklyn, New York 19 posts
13th Nov '11
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" First off SO and I have been together for 6 years now. We aren't engaged or married. And I'm starting ... [snip!] ... dads because of it..... So how long do you have to be with someone and not be legally married and call them your husband?"


mee.. only sometimes though



ive been with my SO going on 6 years in december and it feels weird calling him my boyfriend sometimes but we are engaged and plan on getting married sometime after christmas

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
13th Nov '11

No amount of time. If you're married, you're husband and wife. If you're not married, you are not husband and wife.

MarissaPayne 2 kids; British Columbia 9950 posts
13th Nov '11

Well according to the government we are common law married so I call his my husband sometimes. Or I call him my fiance. I also hate calling him my boyfriend.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
13th Nov '11

The common law marriage does not exist in some states. The states that do acknowledge it, I believe it's seven years.

It's Ashleyyyy! 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Savannah, Georgia 14297 posts
13th Nov '11

I call my SO my husband to strangers because I don't want to get the 'look'. We're devoted & engaged but no plans to actually get married. He's much more than my boyfriend.. he's my other half, my spouse.

Nessy, Nova, and Bam Due March 4 (boy); 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Spokane, WA, United States 5241 posts
13th Nov '11

i'm engaged, but there are points where i *almost* call him hubby or something. haha. can't wait for the day until he actually is :)

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46847 posts
13th Nov '11

You shouldn't call them their husband unless they ARE your husband. LOL.
Doesn't matter if you are with them 20 years, they are still not your husband unless they are married to you.

[38 weeks!] Due May 31 (boy); 1 child; Colorado 3032 posts
13th Nov '11

If you aren't married, he is your boyfriend. Who cares what strangers think? Why lie?

Amy ♥ 4 kids; Texas 4054 posts
13th Nov '11

Here in Texas, there are a certain number of months of living with your SO that you will legally be married. Of course, it's common law marriage...but after that you HAVE to get a divorce and do the whole custody thing with kids (if there are any).

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
13th Nov '11

I think you should call your husband your husband when that is the case until then, like me he is your boyfriend/partner/significant other. :D

MarissaPayne 2 kids; British Columbia 9950 posts
13th Nov '11
Quoting ~Mama knows best!~:" The common law marriage does not exist in some states. The states that do acknowledge it, I believe it's seven years."

Pft here you are considered common law after like 6 months. Bull crap.

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
13th Nov '11
Quoting WeenieMachine:" No amount of time. If you're married, you're husband and wife. If you're not married, you are not husband and wife."


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