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Do you have regrets? Nooneliveshere Texas 60 posts
14th Dec '11

This is for young or even adult parents. I'm 19, pregnant, and now have a million thoughts running through my mind. I haven't slept in a week..



If you could do it all over again, would you? PLEASE be 100% honest and if you don't feel comfortable being honest in the open, PM me anytime.

Momma Tee... 2 kids; Arkansas 1418 posts
14th Dec '11

I have regrets of things before I got pregnant, like not finishing school. But I never regret having my baby. She is absolutly the best thing in my life and I'm so happy to be having another one. Don't let it worry you and keep you up.

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
14th Dec '11

Yeah, I would.

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
14th Dec '11

I would never change my life in a million, no trillion years.
No regrets.
My life may have had its ups and downs but with every down the height of the ups was even greater and more exhilarating than imaginable.

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
14th Dec '11

If I KNEW that the night we conceived would result in that pregnancy, I'd not have had sex.



I wasn't prepared in ANY way for a child. My NOW husband and I had just basically met, decided to give a relationship a shot, and got pregnant the first time having sex, despite protection being used.



My marriage sprouted from becoming pregnant, but it was and still is a struggle not being/having been prepared.



I don't regret my son in the least. He's made me a better person. I regret my irresponsibility which happened to result in pregnancy.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
14th Dec '11

I have regrets and I'm not even that young.



If I could do it over I'd have focused on my college more, have gotten a good career first. I'd still be a SAHM, but it would make me feel better if I was able to support my self and my kids if smething ever happened to my husband. Also, I'd have been more careful with my and my husbands credit when we were younger.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15522 posts
14th Dec '11

I had my son at 16 i don't regret it at all. Yeah it was hard at times but i cant imagine my life without him!!

Rea Due January 9; 3 kids; Missouri 4228 posts
14th Dec '11

Regrets? not really. I mean we could have done a million things differently to make life easier on us now...but that is in the past. We got married when we were both 18 and had our first 9 months later. Our 5th anniversary is in a few weeks and we have 3 kids (4,3and 1). It is not really a matter of if it is hard...it is but i would not go back and do it any differently. We are getting thru school (i am starting grad school in jan) and work and whatever else. It is not about age it is about your willingness to work your butt of for your kids and for yourself.

AmandaYvonne~ Due July 26; 16 kids; Puyallup, Washington 59 posts
23rd Dec '11

I regret not finishing school before I got pregnant because it's going to be really difficult to finish up. I don't regret my baby though. I'm happy that I'm going to have my little angel. My family is happy, my friends are happy... The only person that isn't happy is the babies father but that doesn't matter. He isn't in my life, and he won't be in the babies life.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
23rd Dec '11

I'm glad that I am WAITING (as in, right now) to have a baby. I'm glad that I will be finished with college and possibly even a graduate degree before having children. I see so many girls my age who have little to know choice, have very little education and limited opportunities. I'm proud to say that when I DO have my first child, I will have traveled the world and have a higher degree and a great job and that I will be able to enjoy motherhood more so than the young, struggling mother who didn't have their life together before bringing another life into this world.

Rea Due January 9; 3 kids; Missouri 4228 posts
3rd Jan '12
Quoting Shakespeare's Tragedy:" I'm glad that I am WAITING (as in, right now) to have a baby. I'm glad that I will be finished with college ... [snip!] ... more so than the young, struggling mother who didn't have their life together before bringing another life into this world."


i know i am way late on this one but this is one thing that makes me sad about our culture. We value all of these things above having kids, dont get me wrong you have a right to do what you want and i am not advocating for girls to have kids when they are not ready but having kids does not mean you are no longer able to do things. We had our kids young, and are still having them, but i am enjoying them (except right not when i have some virus and just want to sleep forever but cant) We will both have high degrees and be able to travel the world, but that is not really number one on my bucket list. I would rather be remembered as someones Mother than a tourist in Paris or a student of Harvard.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
3rd Jan '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rea:</b>" i know i am way late on this one but this is one thing that makes me sad about our culture. We value ... [snip!] ... number one on my bucket list. I would rather be remembered as someones Mother than a tourist in Paris or a student of Harvard."</blockquote>




And I will be someone's mother after I travel. It will give me more life experience, a different perspective from the world and it will help me be a better parent. How are you going to teach your child to be a citizen of the world if you haven't seen it yourself?



At twenty, I have plenty of time to have children. There is more to this life than popping out kids.

OliViAs Mommii Due September 10; 1 child; Austin, Texas 63 posts
4th Jan '12

I would say I wish i Could have waited having kids. Just finishing school first because Im 17 years old with a 9 month old baby girl and know Im pregnant again. Theres alot to think about and alot of stress just wishing you could have did things different but if your that cruel to regret being pregnant and wish you never had your baby if just wrong. You have about 9 months just to feel close to your little one getting hes or her things ready for when they arrive and just knowing no matter what your babys are a gift from god what else can you ask for !

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Jan '12
Quoting Shakespeare's Tragedy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rea:</b>" i know i am way late on this one but this is one ... [snip!] ... haven't seen it yourself? At twenty, I have plenty of time to have children. There is more to this life than popping out kids."


See, I don't think doing those things makes a person a better parent. At least not of themselves. I plan to do those things when my kids grow up. For me, I wanted my kids when I was younger, but of course after we were financially stable enough for them. I felt like I could be a better parent at that point then later. Not to mention, who knows what could have happened that might have made me unable to have kids later. I don't think I'm a worse parent because I haven't traveled. I think I just have a different set of priorities in my life. To me, if I never do one thing, I'd rather have never traveled then to have never had children.

Rea Due January 9; 3 kids; Missouri 4228 posts
4th Jan '12
Quoting Teagans_Mom:" See, I don't think doing those things makes a person a better parent. At least not of themselves. I ... [snip!] ... set of priorities in my life. To me, if I never do one thing, I'd rather have never traveled then to have never had children."


See that's how I think, life is short, do the important things first. In addition, there is no rule that says you cant see the world and get an education while you have kids.