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Cast Your Vote:

    • I was abused as a child & am looking for support -- Votes: 29
    • I was abused as a child & can support others who've suffered -- Votes: 89
    • I have abused my children & am looking to change -- Votes: 16
    • I'm not sure if I'm being abusive, but I'm worried I might be -- Votes: 43
    • I was abused & am worried I'll start abusing in the future -- Votes: 22
    • I was not abused & am looking to give support -- Votes: 127
**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18644 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting My Son's My Life!:" My mother still wont talk with me about what her ex did. I cried my heart out one day to her, and it didn't phase her at all. Its amazes me how detached some people are."


Thats how my mom is..I have tried talking to her about some of the things she did in the past and she will say it never happened..then her Fiance who was not even THERE will stand up fo rher...

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
15th Dec '11

i was not abused by my mother in the way that we define abuse.



i was probably somewhat neglected b/c she was a single mom w/ six kids... my brothers were "abusive" when they watched me... they'd lock me in my room and i'd have to pee in a paint container b/c i'd be in there so long. i figured out how to pick my lock w/ a coat-hanger and climbed out the window a few times as well.



anyway, i'm willing to give non-judgmental support, advice, and just listen if anyone needs it... i grew up in poverty around all sorts of failed individuals -- some of whom took it out on me and my family.



if you're afraid you're hurting your children w/ your anger, please please PM me at any time and i will be more than happy to talk to you w/out judgment to try and find ways to help you cope and not take it out on your children.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting Vanessa ♥:" Sounds like you pulled it out of my own head and posted it. Give me a little bit to type up my story."


I'm glad we can relate. Okay girl.

~DP~ 2 kids; South Padre Island, Texas 17360 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting Mara:" i thought you seemed particularly even-keel... and awesome job woman!"


Thank you! I know, I've been a horrendous t**t in the past, and I don't mean to place blame on anything, but obviously, if you're drinking/drugs you're not going to be in the right frame of mind.



I'm really glad you've noticed Mara 8)

Cassi♥DLKA♥ 4 kids; Victoria, Texas 23081 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting ~DP~:" I'm also willing to share my personal experiences with this. I was mainly emotionally abused and believe ... [snip!] ... Now I'm done with that. I've been sober almost 5 months now (alcohol/pills). I've recently kicked marijuana to the curb too. "


I don't want you to take offence to this in any way, but I can tell a difference! And that is AWESOME. Great job!

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
15th Dec '11

i've updated the OP w/ the BG secrets password/login details.

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting Vanessa ♥:" Exactly. It's not something I go around talking about, especially because my mother blames it on her ... [snip!] ... judge me. BUT, if someone has been through it or is going through it and can genuinely understand, then I'm all for sharing. :)"


You are incredibly brave for saying all of this, and for offering to tell your story. <3

user banned 2 kids; Saint Catharines, Ontario 151075 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting Super Kame Guru:" My Mother tries to deny it and will immediately change the subject if you bring it up. She'll kind ... [snip!] ... go to the bar then!" I finally got to the point where I just shrugged and told her to go right ahead and f**k her life up."


My dad said "you'll make mistakes too".



Gee, thanks.



C.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting **Pregnancy Addiction **:" Yeah its horrible...and for me it was not even some of the things that were said but that I SEEN...and ... [snip!] ... for getting married and having a family..being told I am ignorant and intolerant because I am LDS..it still has not stopped."


I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You are an awesome mother. Not many people could deal with six kids and you are doing a kick ass job. Remember that you are not THEM and you don't have to become them.

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
15th Dec '11

I was abused by my Father for years, and my Mother never knew.
I told her recently and I regret it, because it has made her ill and she constantly feels guilt.



My Sister and I were abused in different ways.
Everything from getting hit with a belt to being locked in a closet for days.



So if anyone needs support or would like to know more, you can PM me or ask me here. No judgement. Promise.

Cassi♥DLKA♥ 4 kids; Victoria, Texas 23081 posts
15th Dec '11

I wasn't abused as a child, in any way, by my parents, but was sexually abused by a cousin.



I have anger issues, that I believe could be fixed by getting on some sort of mood stabilizer, though that's not an option right now. I find myself yelling at my kids, quite often, and feel horrible about it. I have a very short fuse, and my kids are normal kids...so that makes it even shorter.



I DID recently threaten to leave my SO because he was spanking my older two with a belt. The more I thought about it, the more pissed I became, and I told him that he needed to stop or we would leave.



Thank you, Mara, for making this. Maybe I can come here to vent my frustrations instead of yelling at them, or spanking.



I am here for support as well, if ANYONE needs to talk, feel free to shoot me a PM, or message me on FB, since I'm not always on here (http://www.facebook.com/cassi.campbell)

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
15th Dec '11

This is great. I'd be more than happy to open up and share my experience of being an abused child, and finding healing/forgiveness.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 11762 posts
status 15th Dec '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting My Son's My Life!:</b>" I am here if you ever want to chat honey"</blockquote>




Thank you <3

Disappearing Meemz 15 kids; Indiana 88176 posts
15th Dec '11

I was abused as a child, emotionally, sexually, and there was some neglect as I got older. Although, if you ask my parents, they don't remember any of it, even though my sister and I do, and others that were around us do. So...IDK.

But anyway, I'm always willing to listen to others and support them however I can. I hope that at least one child can be spared what I went through.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18644 posts
15th Dec '11
Quoting * Sara *:" I am so sorry you have to deal with that. You are an awesome mother. Not many people could deal with ... [snip!] ... could deal with six kids and you are doing a kick ass job. Remember that you are not THEM and you don't have to become them."



thnk you hun..I know I am nothing like my mom..or my sister for that matter...my sister was phyiscally abusive to me as well growing up..I have scares from her beating my face with a phone..or stabbing me with an exacto blade..I know I would never do anything like that to my kids..BUT i do find myself yelling at them alot. Yelling is abusive and in my opinion unacceptable.