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Hardest decision Halloween_Surprise Due October 30 (boy); Warrensburg, Missouri 115 posts
7th Jan '12

I have a 3 month old with my fiance whom I have recently been separated from and got back together. We just found out that I was pregnant again (only a couple weeks) and he is encouraging me to end the pregnancy. I see his point of view with our financial situation and being young but I am not sure that is the decision I want to make. He says he will be supportive of whatever I decide but I am so confused and hurt. I know we need to work on our relationship and be stable but I'm not sure if an abortion is the answer. Anyone ever been in a similar situation? Any advice?

Mombom 4 kids; Minnesota 2588 posts
7th Jan '12

Two wrongs don't make a right. The guilt you'll feel over killing your child will drive you apart, rather than give you "space" to get back together.

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65630 posts
7th Jan '12

Don't let him pressure you into doing it if you don't want to do it. There are options and help out there for you if you decide to keep it.

A, E & W's mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Bulgaria 15672 posts
7th Jan '12

I'm pretty sure that your relationship would have an even harder time healing from something you may end up feeling resentful of him over if you are not 100% on board with the decision.

loves E.A.S.E.C Due June 5; 5 kids; 3 angel babies; United Kingdom 1558 posts
7th Jan '12

have a 4 moth old and im 11 weeks pregnant

its up to you dont be forced to make a decision that you dont want to make


im still getting my head around the fact im pregnant so soon
but i know that its the right choice for me to keep the pregnancy

Jenna 2012 1 child; Missouri 1013 posts
7th Jan '12

I PERSONALLY don't believe abortion is ever the answer. Finances change, how do you know you won't be better off in 9 months? we don't... My suggestion is instead of aborting the baby, carry it to term and if you don't want to keep baby, give it up for adoption.



I was one of those women who just couldn't seem to get pregnant but my DH and I have wanted a baby of our own for a long time. We were looking into adoption when I got pregnant. I was wanting to adopt a newborn baby but newborns are not common in the adoption agencies.



I'm not condemming you if you do get an abortion, I just don't think it's a good answer because I've seen so many stories about how it was such a mistake and how much the women regretted it later. Adoption gives you ample time to think it over and it also gives you a chance to really consider everything thoroughly.

La~La 4 kids; Houston, Texas 22034 posts
7th Jan '12
Quoting Halloween_Surprise:" I have a 3 month old with my fiance whom I have recently been separated from and got back together. We ... [snip!] ... relationship and be stable but I'm not sure if an abortion is the answer. Anyone ever been in a similar situation? Any advice?"


BD tried to push me to get an abortion when i found out i was preg with our second one when our first was only 3 months. i told him that if thats how he really felt then he could go jump off a bridge

EskimoKiss TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Texas 11221 posts
7th Jan '12

You need to be 100% sure before you abort. Bc the regret will eat you alive good luck on your decision.

missbutterscotch Due March 9; 1 child; Hull, Massachusetts 55 posts
7th Jan '12

I was in the same situation and still in it .We been together 9 years one son that is 2 and next one will be born in 9 weeks .money is tight but will make it work.. I really do not care what he has to say that child was made from us .just because he wants to end it means nothing to me this could either help your relationship or break it more... You just need to be strong!! sit and think whats best for you and the other baby can you handle it? i told my self i can handle it and work 2 jobs go to school and save and pinch all money i have.. with no help from him

Halloween_Surprise Due October 30 (boy); Warrensburg, Missouri 115 posts
9th Jan '12

Thank you all so much for your input. This is such a just my luck kind of thing to happen to me lol. I'm trying to decide when a good time to tell him that I want to keep the baby would be. It's not that he will run or anything like that, he just does not handle stress well!! I guess its time to make a doctors appointment this week. Thanks again everyone.

Halloween_Surprise Due October 30 (boy); Warrensburg, Missouri 115 posts
10th Jan '12

:) he told me he wanted me to keep the baby before I even said anything. He said he was sorry he had even suggested it and that he was happy. It's a relief but still scary and a little hard to wrap my head around!! I'm hoping for a girl this time :)

Jenna 2012 1 child; Missouri 1013 posts
10th Jan '12

Congrats! i'm so happy it worked out the way you wanted. :)

G&G's Mommy 66 kids; Michigan 1186 posts
11th Jan '12

Fantastic! Prayers for a healthy pregnancy!