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Im not sure. BritLove Due August 8; Leesport, Pennsylvania 21 posts
8th Jan '12

If this goes here, Im still trying to figure this site out. Im 9 weeks along and I want a abortion, my mom is prolife and is threatening to kick me out if I get one, basically she wants me to keep it or put it up for adoption because "Its not the baby's fault so why should it have to die?". Some mama on here suggested I ask my uncle to sign for me to get one, I talked to him about it and he agreed to help me out. He said he would pay for it and sign the papers if I promised to pay him back. Now all I have to do is schedule a appointment, and Im dead scared to, and figure out what Im going to do if my mom sends me off to military school. What if I die while getting one!? That would be my luck. My moms filled my head with all these bad thoughts about abortion so Im scared to death. I need some advice from mamas in similar situations.

Mellissa28 Due September 3 (boy); 1 child; Sussex, Wisconsin 795 posts
8th Jan '12

You need to do whats best for you. I had an abortion and its a hard thing to do. But if ur not ready and dont want the child then its ur choice not hers! Remember that. Also you sure you need ur parent to sign off on the abortion? I believe you can go by urself without a parent. I wish u luck in whatever u choose. Its a hard thing to do but your not going to die. Your mom is just scaring you.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
8th Jan '12

I think you should do what you think is best for YOU. Its gonna be hard no matter what.

Kylamommy89 Due June 19; 1 child; South Carolina 117 posts
8th Jan '12

if you werent ready for children and didnt want to be put in this situation, you ahouldnt have had sex or should have been using affective birth control. I know some people get put in a bad situation. But if your considering it out of your own selfishness than you should have been more causcious. i can understand where your mother is coming from, if you are unable to take care of a child the least you could do is give it a chance and let somebody who wants children and cant have them a chance. either way you need to figure it out soon because doctors only do abortions within a certain time period. good luck to you and that baby.

BritLove Due August 8; Leesport, Pennsylvania 21 posts
8th Jan '12
Quoting AshleyNHBarrios:" I think you should do what you think is best for YOU. Its gonna be hard no matter what."


Thanks, Im trying to but my mother is being so difficult. I understand shes disappointed in me and I know she is prolife but Im not. I dont think I should be forced to carry a baby and wonder what that baby is doing for the rest of my life.

BritLove Due August 8; Leesport, Pennsylvania 21 posts
8th Jan '12
Quoting Kylamommy89:" if you werent ready for children and didnt want to be put in this situation, you ahouldnt have had sex ... [snip!] ... you need to figure it out soon because doctors only do abortions within a certain time period. good luck to you and that baby."


Well, I was using condoms, and it broke. I didnt think anything of it until my period was late. My mom wont let me get on birth control because she considers it to be just like abortion. Im a little past that now anyway, after this I will be getting on it no matter what she says. I dont want to have this baby, Im not strong enough to give it up, plain in simple, I dont care how selfish that sounds.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
8th Jan '12
Quoting BritLove:" Thanks, Im trying to but my mother is being so difficult. I understand shes disappointed in me and I ... [snip!] ... prolife but Im not. I dont think I should be forced to carry a baby and wonder what that baby is doing for the rest of my life."


Abortion is def not for me. But I do believe a woman has the right to her body and life. I also dont know your entire story. All you can do is what you think is best.

BritLove Due August 8; Leesport, Pennsylvania 21 posts
8th Jan '12
Quoting Mellissa27:" You need to do whats best for you. I had an abortion and its a hard thing to do. But if ur not ready ... [snip!] ... a parent. I wish u luck in whatever u choose. Its a hard thing to do but your not going to die. Your mom is just scaring you."

Im almost positive I need one of my parents to sign the papers for me to get one because Im only 15. And thanks, I know its going to be hard but I think adoption will be so much harder.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
8th Jan '12
Quoting BritLove:" Im almost positive I need one of my parents to sign the papers for me to get one because Im only 15. And thanks, I know its going to be hard but I think adoption will be so much harder."


I had my 1st baby at 15 and my 2nd at 16. I am now 21 pregnant with my 3rd. I sure did sacrifice my entire teen years. Luckily I had a good man and a supporting family, it was hard, but I made it. Whatever you decide, it will be hard, but always do what YOU think is best.

Mellissa28 Due September 3 (boy); 1 child; Sussex, Wisconsin 795 posts
8th Jan '12

I couldnt carry a baby for 9 months and give it up either. Dont listen to the people on here that are giving u shit because of wha u want to do. If ur uncle will help you I would go that route. Your mom isnt going o hate u for ever. Its ur life your body. Just have this be a life changer and make sure you dont ebnd up in this situation again. I will pray for you that everything goes well.

Sam H. 17 kids; New York 560 posts
8th Jan '12

you can always tell your mom you miscarried. she'd rather you raise a child at 15 rather then trying to make something of yourself? I had an abortion almost 14 months ago, and yes it was a very hard decision and hard to live with. Do I regret it? sometimes, but I live my life on my terms. You gotta do what is best for you. And abortions are pretty safe, especially if you go somewhere reputable.

Lizzy23 1 child; New Jersey 252 posts
8th Jan '12

Im almost certain you dont need a parent to sign for you, but different states have different laws i guess. But def do what u feel is best for you.

Noneya Business Due August 29; 1 child; Pennsylvania 11952 posts
8th Jan '12

I live in PA and I'm pretty sure at 15 you don't need a parent to sign for you. I'm not 100% sure though. The only thing you will need is to have someone drive you home after. But you need to do what is best for you. And if your mom can't see that, then she's the one being selfish. Carrying a baby for 9 months then giving it away is extremely hard. And abortions are consider just as safe or even more safe than giving birth vaginally. You just need to take care of yourself after to make sure everything heals fine. I'm glad you have some support with your decision. And if you need anything you can PM me. Good luck OP.