So my hormones are raging (of course lol) and I've been finding myself horny as hell this entire pregnancy. Problem is we haven't had sex since July. At first I thought it was because my husband was stressed out from work and tonight he finally admitted to me that I gross him out. My pregnant body apparently is disgusting and he can't bring himself to have sex with me and hasn't been able to since July. I do things for him like bj's but when it comes to my needs, well they've gone completely out of the window. He keeps telling me once I have the baby and my body is back to normal that we can start having sex again but I'm at the point where I don't even want to have sex with him when the doctor gives the okay at the six week check up. Half of it is me being mad and spiteful and the other half of me is really hurt. Am I wrong for not wanting to touch him at all now? He won't even make out with me. We live like roommates rather than husband and wife. I've never felt so disgusted with my body or myself now. Any shred of self esteem I had just vanished when he said that. I even told him he could have worded it nicer than "the thought of having sex with you is gross" I would have settled for "it could hurt the baby" or "you could go into labor" but he didn't even bother sugar coating it for me. I know I'm extra hormonal and emotional because of the pregnancy but I didn't need to hear outright the thought of having sex with me is disgusting. Am I over reacting? I'm sorry it's so long but I honestly have no friends where we live and no family to talk to so I'm kinda at a loss on who to talk to about this.
Aww, that sucks :?
Shit, I'm 25 weeks in an hour and SO and I can't keep our hands off of each other.
That is absolutely uncalled for. You are pregnant with HIS child. Butthole (sorry!).
you're lucky as hell. he won't even let me change in front of him right now and even when i try to initiate a bj he just turns over and goes to bed. idk what to do anymore but go on strike after baby is born. and i'm not fat at all either. I look like i have a basketball under my shirt and that's it. i get complimented daily on how nice i look and how i take care of myself (make up and hair) and he doesn't even notice or care. it sucks.
If SO ad said it to me like that I probably would have made him sleep on the couch for the rest of the pregnancy.
Did you ask him what he finds gross about it? Is it that there is a baby, or is it the weight gain?
Quoting AndBabyMakesThree4522:" you're lucky as hell. he won't even let me change in front of him right now and even when i try to initiate ... [snip!] ... daily on how nice i look and how i take care of myself (make up and hair) and he doesn't even notice or care. it sucks. "
:? Damn, what a douche.
that's what i said! i asked him if he'll have sex with me if i go overdue to help labor come along and he said hell no. so i think i'm going on strike once my body is back to normal. i'd rather go without than have sex with him at this point. i just feel cheated. he's state side not deployed and still won't have sex with me knowing that he'll be without for at least seven months the next time he goes to afghanistan.
Honey, I am so sorry! A lot of men think that their wives or girlfriends are just as sexy if not sexier when they're pregnant. Your husband, I think, needs to talk to someone about why he's feeling this way. Hope it gets better for you!
i've barely gained any weight that's the thing. i asked him if it was my weight, the baby, and he said i'm just gross. he's not afraid he'll hurt the baby but he said my body is gross pregnant. i still shave my legs and everything and still take pride in my looks. so it's not like i'm some french lady with hairy arm pits either. i've tried everything. idk what else to do except for castrate him with a spork. :D
My SO can not keep his hands off me, I'm the one who has to say no to him, I've become self concious with my body especially with my stretch marks
:( Sorry your going through this. I'd beat my DH. He helped me get into this shape lol. I can honestly say nothing has changed with our sex life....except for maybe positions....for obvious reasons. Tell him to throw on a damn blind fold and have at him!!
like i'm 100% ashamed of my body now. I don't even want to do my hair or make up anymore. or even try to wear nice clothes. If he thinks I'm so gross I'll become gross. I just want to feel loved and not in a roommate type of way. I would kill to just makeout with him to just feel some sort of passion.
Quoting AndBabyMakesThree4522:" like i'm 100% ashamed of my body now. I don't even want to do my hair or make up anymore. or even try ... [snip!] ... want to feel loved and not in a roommate type of way. I would kill to just makeout with him to just feel some sort of passion. "
Don't let him bring you down. Keep taking care of yourself, and let him be a doucher and enjoy his hand.
he obviously has some psycological issues. i am sure your body wasnt shaped that differently all the way back in july so it seems like the ''gross' aspect to him has more to do w/whats going on inside your body during pregnancy than the outside. the outward appearance is more than likely just a vivid reminder to him of the changes going on and the baby growing on the inside. i hope i am making sense to you....... i had a good friend have the same issues w/her SO and he finally admitted that it was the psycological aspect of ''doing it'' w/a baby growing in there. of course your SO could just be a nutcase cause lots of men find pregnant women extremely attractive .
He's being a complete ass. Does he realize your body may not go back to being how it was right away? 2 years later, and I still have a bit of saggy skin from my first pregnancy. I think you should have a serious talk with him and let him know he's hurting you. Let him know your feeling like his physical love is only skin deep.