I've always said after having my first one I didn't know if I could have another cuz i love my son more than anything and don't know if i could love another one as much as i do him, and i worry about my son not getting as much attention as he does now. I feel awful :( I mean i'm excited about this one but not nearly as excited as i wass with my son
I can't tell you how many times I have heard people say this. Those feelings are so normal to have, but from what I have heard, you will make time for both and love them both the same.
I just had my second 7 weeks ago and my oldest will be 2 next month. I had the exact feelings as you. My husband and I were just talking about this last night and it's amazing that you can have the exact feelings of love with the second. Transition at home with 2 has been much easier than I imagined. While the baby is napping, it's my one-on-one time with my oldest. He likes to help with the baby so I have him involved in everything so he never feels left out. You'll do great :)
Yep. Completely normal. I even broke down at like 34 weeks and hubby came home ot me crying and saying we had made a mistake. I felt like we were robbing Tate of his time with us and that I would never love my second as much.
Then she was born, and Tate was in love, and I quickly forgot about all my fears. I love this baby just as much as I ever loved my son and I love my son even more for being so wonderful with his little sister. He takes care of her and kisses her and brings her toys and cheers her on when she's doing something bad.
It's okay to feel that way. But i'm telling you, everything will change when he/she is born!
Thank God, I cried when I find out and told my SO what if my son doesn't get enough attention, what if I don't love the new baby as much. My LO will be just turning 2 when i have baby number 2 so its good to hear that they like to help out, I just hope mine is as accepting, He does pretty well with babies so i hope it lasts
I thought Tate would be so jealous. He started calling my belly "baby sissy" very early in my pregnancy. We did not find out what we were having until she was born. He was with us up until I started getting painful contractions, then he went out in the hallway with my sister and parents. Daddy brought him in the room by himself to meet sissy before everyone else. He walked in and daddy said "who does mommy have?" and he said "MY BABY SISSY!!"
He was so happy. He was 21 months when she was born. They fight a bit now because she is older and gets in his toys and gets in his way. But he's still very protective.
We are on baby boy number 3 due in May =) And it is completly normal to feel what you feel about number two, I had those fears and worries but they quickly went away once Chunks got here and it was such an amazing feeling loving both my sons the same and knowing that no matter what my heart could expand even though I didn't think it could before I had him. Just make sure that you spend some quality time with your oldest a special story time or play time just you and him so he knows that it's not all about the new baby, that is one thing we made sure to do and still do with both we spend "special time" with each boy when we can and they love it, it also gives us such a stronger bond with them individually. Our older boys are almost 6 and 4 and they are closer then anything, of course fight (alot somedays lol) but they are so close it amazes me. Your love can grow so much when this little one comes it'll will be fine and you will calm your fears to where they will dissapear =)
My son was 15 months about when my daughter was born. They're literally 3 months apart birthday wise. I felt this way when I found out I was pregnant with #2. I was afraid my son would be jealous as he never got a chance to be around a lot of kids (he was still an infant) and id had a bad birth experience with him so it made it worse. When my daughter was born, it was like shed always been there. They both get their share of attention (probably my daughter actually gets more because she's kinda a whiny kid) and now I parry with #3 on the way and my kids 4 yrs and 3 in April that they won't be accepting of the new baby. I know I will love them all equally but now I worry my daughter will have middle child syndrome lol. Its completely normal to have these fears. Pregnancy also makes us more sensitive so we overthink things. Everything will work out. I always said if you can handle one, you don't notice two pr three lol. In other words, as a parent you'll find a rhythm and have nothing to worry about.
Quoting tatesmommy09:" I thought Tate would be so jealous. He started calling my belly "baby sissy" very early in my pregnancy. ... [snip!] ... was born. They fight a bit now because she is older and gets in his toys and gets in his way. But he's still very protective."
thats adorable! now after reading all these posts im feeling alot better about it thank you ladies!
Quoting dirtylilhamster:" thats adorable! now after reading all these posts im feeling alot better about it thank you ladies!"
Haha! Im so glad we had a girl though. I just imagined him calling his brother "baby sissy" lol.
I feel the same way you do. I have a daughter who will be 3 in the begning of March. She has been miine and my whole familys whole world. She is the only grandbaby on both sides so she is spoiled out of control. I wanted to have another baby but once we found out we were expecting I started to get very nervous. Then we found out we were having another girl and I broke down. I felt like everyone already has all these nicknames for my daughter and everyone always tells her your my favorite little girl blah blah blah. I told my husband how am I going to have two princesses? How is he going to have two hunny bunnies? People can't tell my daughter that she is their favorite little girl anymore. But I'm sure once she gets here everything will be fine and my daughter is super super exctied about having her baby sister so that helps a lot too.