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I know I can only make this decision but... whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
9th Feb '12

Long story short: I'm 5 weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy



I am lost, scared and confused and dont know what to do. The father doesn't want me to keep it and my family is pressuring me telling me its just a cluster of cells and that I should derail my life.



My gut instinct is to keep it. I am 24 currently in law school, and the baby would be due the first semester of my final year. My concern, or perhaps other people's concern is how will I have time considering how rigorous both law school and the law field is.



I know people say not to get an abortion unless i'm 100% sure, but I'm not sure I will ever be... I feel like i've disappointed enough people, and that it would make things "right" and put my life back on track. It's a battle between my head (that since to abort) and my heart (that says not too).



What is a girl to do?

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46064 posts
9th Feb '12

In your situation, I would have an abortion.



At 5 weeks, it is a clump of cells....and the early you have an abortion, the easier and quicker recovery time is.



I've had an abortion at 6 weeks before, and it was the best decision I've ever made. The recovery time was a couple of days (tops) and I don't regret it for a moment.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
9th Feb '12

I don't think you should make a decision like that unless you're a thousand percent sure that's it's what you want, that's it's something you can handle. It's not a decision anyone else can make. So don't listen to others who try to pressure you to go one way or the other. It's possibly the biggest decision you'll ever make so make sure it is YOUR decision. Good luck I hope things turn out the best for you.

user banned New York 15996 posts
9th Feb '12

You're thinking off of emotions right now. Give it just a little more time to sink in. That's a MAJOR decision that you should be 100% about because its irreversible. Good luck

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
9th Feb '12

You've already said it.
You want baby not everyone else.
Its YOUR life, you choose bc you deal with the after effects.

Piecey. Due May 13; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 64447 posts
9th Feb '12

I think if I were in your position, I would have the abortion. GL in your decision making.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
9th Feb '12

I would have an abortion.

But this is a choice that only you can make. Don't let anyone pressure you one way or the other.

Petit tabernac clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107730 posts
9th Feb '12

I would try to base my decision in what I feel is best for ME and forget about what you think others will feel/think.

At the end of the day, you need to make a decision YOU can live with.

Jo&M 2 kids; Delaware 3311 posts
9th Feb '12

Give yourself some time to calm down about it a little, and stop listening to the pressure put on you by other people. Seriously think to yourself- what do YOU want, what can you live with? Both options are do-able. Both will be challenging.

Rock Paper Scissors Lizar Due April 10 (boy); Fareham, United Kingdom 1448 posts
9th Feb '12
Quoting whoknowsx:" Long story short: I'm 5 weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy I am lost, scared and confused and ... [snip!] ... back on track. It's a battle between my head (that since to abort) and my heart (that says not too). What is a girl to do? "


Always listen to your gut instinct. At the end of the day it's your choice, your body and your baby. Don't be put under preassure of your family buy them saying it's "just a cluster of cells" It has a heartbeat at 6 weeks. If you decide to keep it when baby is born it's will be their grandchild, not "just a cluster of cells".



I know you can do some schooling online, could this be applied to your course?



If you get an abortion not 100% sure then you can be forever wondering what if, what would they look like, what would they be like, eye colour, smiles etc. Some people don't have this though.



I'd personally listen to my heart and not get an abortion, My pregnancy was unplanned, I was on the pill I got pregnant. I was scared, excited and worried and the father didn't want him. I feel him kick, roll around, punch, I hear his heartbeat and it's amazing and I love him so much already.

Rhia Leigh 33 kids; Massachusetts 1312 posts
9th Feb '12

I'd try not to let others pressure you mama. It's a lot to think about but only you can decide. Whichever you choose try to base it off whats right for you and not what others scare you into thinking.



From your post it sounds like you'd like to keep the baby and it's more of other peoples opinions making you unsure. If that's the case don't worry about what they think. If you do keep the baby they'll come around to the idea. It's your life and only you know what's best for you. My pregnancy wasn't exactly planned and I was terrified when I found out. SO wasn't thrilled at first but things worked out. Now we couldn't be more excited for our baby and my family that was upset in the beginning is now excited too. Feeling her kicks and seeing her little heart beat is the best thing that's ever happened to me. She's saved me from the life I was living before and I couldn't be happier for that.



There's no reason you can't have a baby and still finish school, plenty of women do it all the time. At the same time, if you feel like that's not the right time or that you couldn't take care of a baby right now then abortion might not be a bad choice. Just don't let others make the choice for you. Good luck <3

Jessica Lagor Due June 23 (boy); Bozeman, Montana 96 posts
13th Feb '12
Quoting whoknowsx:" Long story short: I'm 5 weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy I am lost, scared and confused and ... [snip!] ... back on track. It's a battle between my head (that since to abort) and my heart (that says not too). What is a girl to do? "


Before you do anything, educate yourself on both sides.
Take 30 minutes and watch this.
http://180movie.com/
:)

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46064 posts
14th Feb '12

This is pro-life propaganda and has no place in this protected forum. Please delete your comment.

Jessica Lagor Due June 23 (boy); Bozeman, Montana 96 posts
14th Feb '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica Lagor:</b>" Before you do anything, educate yourself ... [snip!] ... :)"</blockquote> This is pro-life propaganda and has no place in this protected forum. Please delete your comment."


You are entitled to your opinion and I respect that, but you are not entitled to attack mine and I am not obligated to delete my response to the person requesting advice.

user banned 2 kids; Kingsport, Tennessee 11075 posts
14th Feb '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:"


Please unquote. She's been modded.