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Step daughter being ignored. Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
11th Feb '12

I'm getting really really pissed off that my 11 year old 'step daughter' gets ignored (she will officially be my step daughter when I marry her Dad).
As far as I'm concerned, the moment I got together with her Dad I took her into my life too. So when people refuse to acknowledge her as being a part of this family it hurts. She got left out of all the christmas cards we received. I had to write her name on them before she came to our house (she's here every weekend). I realise that in the eyes of the law she is not my family until that wedding ring is on my finger but I hate that she's being pushed out. Am I right to get mad about this?

knotty and snotty 1 child; Hooker, Oklahoma 13428 posts
11th Feb '12

Just let everyone in your family know that you would like her included in things like that.

rossandsteph Due May 30 (boy); Japan 32 posts
11th Feb '12
Quoting Emmiboo&Eva:" I'm getting really really pissed off that my 11 year old 'step daughter' gets ignored (she will officially ... [snip!] ... not my family until that wedding ring is on my finger but I hate that she's being pushed out. Am I right to get mad about this?"


most definatly. maybe try talking too her dad about it?

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20287 posts
status 11th Feb '12

I'd talk to my family about it and let them know how you feel. I was the ignored step daughter for seven years and I wish my ex step mom would have cared more. Let them know you claim her and they should too. Family is more than just blood and wedding rings!

White Jesus +2 & 3/4 Due December 4 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 24000 posts
11th Feb '12

Speak up, let them know how you feel and that if they are going to do such things for your family that they should be sure to include your whole family.

Sweet Baby Jesus + 1 1 child; El Paso, TX, United States 613 posts
11th Feb '12

Being a stepdaughter I have dealt with this. My dad's new wife family took me and my brother in before there was a wedding. Yet my mom's new husband's mother doesn't even want us to call her grandma . I call her Mrs. ______ . It kind of hurt at first but now I am to the point where I don't even care. Seeing that you feel so strong about this then I will say let family and everyone else know now. Blood is not always thicker then water and a ring doesn't always mean family.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '12

Open a can of whoop ass on em lady! She's your daughter too and damn it they need to include her!

Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
13th Feb '12

Aaaaaw on a plus-note.....It was her 11th Birthday recently and my Mum had hidden a card in her room the last time she stayed. Kylie found it yesterday and it had money in and was a card to a wonderful Grand-daughter. I almost cried. My mum called her her Grand daughter! I take it all back. She IS included! :D :D :D
Just got to work on the rest of my family lol.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
13th Feb '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emmiboo&Eva:</b>" Aaaaaw on a plus-note.....It was her 11th Birthday recently and my Mum had hidden a card in her room ... [snip!] ... mum called her her Grand daughter! I take it all back. She IS included! :D :D :D Just got to work on the rest of my family lol."</blockquote>




Awwhhhh yay!! That's so awesome!

Kelly13086 1 child; Southbridge, Massachusetts 191 posts
13th Feb '12

I also have a step-daughter and some of my family is really accepting while others are not.. and i have spoken with my mom and she just says that it takes time for them to grow into the family... just like if you were dating someone... u can't just throw someone in and instantly there family... i know it sucks but im sure with time it will work out

Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
14th Feb '12
Quoting Kelly13086:" I also have a step-daughter and some of my family is really accepting while others are not.. and i have ... [snip!] ... someone... u can't just throw someone in and instantly there family... i know it sucks but im sure with time it will work out"


I know it will take time for them to accept her as family but I've been with her dad almost 2 years now and they still leave her off of Christmas cards etc. I hope they love her as much as I do soon.