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Considering Abortion, please help don't judge BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
28th Feb '12

I am married with no children, 33 years old and 10 weeks along. I was never sure if I ever wanted children. Now that I'm pregnant I have mixed feelings bc I obviously don't have an easy choice either way. My concerns are that I don't feel 100% confident in my marriage. We've only been married 6 mo's and we have some issues. I left my prestigious career and all my family and friends in another state to move here for his career. Now I don't work and I am alone ALL of the time. I already resent that I gave up my life. Plus he knew long ago I never intended to stay here long term. But he always tries to talk me into it and now I just feel more trapped and a little manipulated. I can't leave bc we need his insurance if I carry to term. All my biggest life events are spent alone, while he has his family and friends here. (this is his home) I feel so out of place and like I'm living someone else's life completely. This is not what I ever wanted. It's not a bad life, per say. It's just everything he wants and nothing I want. I can't imagine being home alone all day with a baby. I just don't want that life. Not yet at least. I still have my own set of needs. Plus, I definitely would not ever have kids knowing I would be single, and we may very well not make it. This just makes me think I would only have it bc he wanted to, not bc I really did. That doesn't seem healthy to me. So I'm considering abortion. Most days I feel that's what I want for sure, but some I get confused. I can not seem to embrace or get excited about pregnancy. Even baby stores and magazines upset me. The clock is ticking and I need to decide.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
28th Feb '12

I think you need to have a serious talk with him. Does HE want this baby? If so, I would tell him that if he wants you to keep this baby, that he needs to understand that you are not happy living where you are.



Maybe he will understand.

Charity_Amber 4 kids; Cottage Grove, Oregon 45 posts
28th Feb '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I am married with no children, 33 years old and 10 weeks along. I was never sure if I ever wanted children. ... [snip!] ... to embrace or get excited about pregnancy. Even baby stores and magazines upset me. The clock is ticking and I need to decide. "


If you have mixed feelings don't do it. Will your husbands insurance cover a therapy visit? They might be able to help you work through this to sort out your feelings. If you are not 100% positive then you might regret it for the rest of your life and that my dear is one heavy cross to bear.

yo gabby gabby 4 kids; Arizona 42570 posts
28th Feb '12

it has to be something you are sure you want to do I think.



if it was me.
I would leave and go back to my job....no one should ever have to feel like they are settling.
the abortion thing though..you have to figure out what you want..and would this be something he would use as a pawn to keep you and manipulate you?

user banned Due April 15 (boy); Carmichael, California 14 posts
28th Feb '12

i think that's kinda selfish of the both you your baby didn't ask to be here why don't you consider adoption that baby in your uterus has a heartbeat already God said thou shall not kill think what if that baby was you wouldn't you want life . truth hurts don't take it in a bad way but you don't know what might turn out .

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
28th Feb '12




This is abortion survivors, therefor this post that you just made is entirely inappropriate and unacceptable. Delete.

Charity_Amber 4 kids; Cottage Grove, Oregon 45 posts
28th Feb '12
You have no idea if she was on bc or anything. She's asking for advice not judgement. Why the hell would you be in this forum if you just want to make people feel bad?!
user banned Due April 15 (boy); Carmichael, California 14 posts
28th Feb '12

idc how you feel it's the truth i'm not here to please you ! so take it anyway you want i can't lie to someone to make them feel better so how about you delete!

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
28th Feb '12
Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "


It's a protected forum, miss. Have all the opinions that you want on the matter, but don't bring them here. It's a forum for support, not sly persuasion.

user banned Due April 15 (boy); Carmichael, California 14 posts
28th Feb '12

simple as this if you don't want a kid don't have sex birth control ain' t 100% it doesn't matter grow up !!! woman up there ain't nothing new under the sun ! GOODBYE

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46816 posts
28th Feb '12

You don't seem to understand. Babygaga has rules, and posting anti-abortion crap in "Abortion Survivors" is not allowed and will result in your posts being moderated. You DO have to delete, or it will be removed by moderators FOR YOU. It's not acceptable and not tolerated here.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
28th Feb '12
Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "


It's absolutely unreasonable to think that everyone who doesn't want a child is going to abstain from having sex. Please stop.

user banned Due April 15 (boy); Carmichael, California 14 posts
28th Feb '12

i don't care about babygaga rules IF YOU DON''T STAND FOR SOMETHING THAN YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING!! HAVE A NICE DAY

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
28th Feb '12
Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "


If you don't care about the rules, stop using your account.

Jessica 15 kids; Colorado Springs, Colorado 26006 posts
28th Feb '12

Unquote her.