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4yr old still in diapers user banned
6th Mar '12

so my daughter is 4 adn still wears diapers.. im trying not to have 3 kids in diapers but my daughter is terrified to sit on the toilet.. she is also considered Specialy needs because of her seizures and her delays.



she knows when she has to pee, because if i dont keep a diaper on her she will hold it and see " uh oh, pee" but when i sit her on the toilet she freaks.. we have tried her own little toilet, a toilet seat in the big toilet and even let her pick out her own toilet.... ive tried candy...



if i try to force she flails and kicks and screams like she is being murdered.. idk what to do.... i dont want to make it scary, but she is 4 and should learn to use the big girl potty..
my 21 month old is more interested in potty training..

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
6th Mar '12

Maybe have het watch the 20 month old. Then she can see its ok

*Mrs. Varicose Veins* 5 kids; Chunky, Mississippi 22987 posts
6th Mar '12

My 3 year old is still in diapers. There are only like 3 kids in his preschool class that aren't potty trained. He has a severe speech delay so for awhile we weren't sure when he had to go but now that he talks and talks a lot I don't know what to do. He can tell me when he goes, he tells me "Ewwww! Gross!" when I change a poop diaper but he is so stubborn. He will stay dry and not potty on the toilet then randomly start peeing out of nowhere within seconds of getting off the potty.

Kansas Bonanno 2 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2055 posts
6th Mar '12

have you tried taking her and letting her pick out her own little potty? and maybe getting some stickers to decorate it with, that way she can see it going potty is fun??? Also letting her pick out big girl panty's that way she doesn't wanna mess them up.

enoel13 3 kids; somewhere hot in, AL, United States 7694 posts
6th Mar '12

I have a 4 yr old and 2 1/2 yr old and the 2 1/2 yr old learned by watching the 4 yr old. Big sister sits on the regular toilet and little brother sits on the little potty and they sit there and talk and giggle and after she pees, wipes, and flushes, she tells him its his turn and he just does. He used to be terrified of the toilet but she made him brave. lol

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
6th Mar '12

Have you tried having her sit on her lofty while you are on the big one?

NinjaSAPIOSEXUALShahinda 5 kids; Strongsville, Ohio 34460 posts
6th Mar '12

*potty darn kindle autocorrect.

JΔS Georgia 72959 posts
6th Mar '12

Has she ever felt herself being wet before? That's what did it for Sera. I put her in panties or let her go bottomless and she did not like peeing on herself.

tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
6th Mar '12

My son will be 4 this June and up until 2 weeks ago he was the same. Terrefied of the potty and would scream and put up a fight so I just waited until he felt like doing it. He always complained about wet or poopy diapers but could care less about going on the potty but I guess it finally clicked in his head that the potty isnt so bad and has been using it daily now with very little problems and lots of stickers for rewards! I guess Im not much help but for my son waiting until he was ready was what needed to happen. Good luck!

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
6th Mar '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Has she ever felt herself being wet before? That's what did it for Sera. I put her in panties or let her go bottomless and she did not like peeing on herself."


yeah she starts crying and freaking out and saying diaper. lol

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
6th Mar '12

Have you tried getting a cover for the potty chair or toilet. My son hated it at first cause it was cold and uncomfortable. Took me forever to figure it out because he also has a significant speech delay. He turned 4 in December and is just now fully trained.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
6th Mar '12

Is she verbal enough to tell you why the toilet scares her? You may be able to find a solution if you know why she's scared. One of my LOs was afraid he'd fall off so we had to get him a seat that fits on the big toilet with handles. One of my other LOs (with special needs) was terrified of the flushing sound. I had to promise to let him flush the toilet himself. Having another little kid help them or show them can be really helpful. Sometimes peers can give them more motivation than an adult can.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
6th Mar '12

Xavier showed more interest then Anna so we started potty training him and dropped trying to train her. One morning Xavier went and Anna was like, I want to pee in the potty mama but they're still not completely out of diapers because daddy is lazy grrrr

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
6th Mar '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:</b>" Is she verbal enough to tell you why the toilet scares her? You may be able to find a solution if you ... [snip!] ... little kid help them or show them can be really helpful. Sometimes peers can give them more motivation than an adult can."</blockquote>



My youngest is still scared of the flushing noise and she has been potty trained for a month. She pees and runs out of the bathroom as fast as she can before I can flush it, lol.

enoel13 3 kids; somewhere hot in, AL, United States 7694 posts
6th Mar '12
Quoting 3 little monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Mom of 4:</b>" Is she verbal enough to tell you why ... [snip!] ... she has been potty trained for a month. She pees and runs out of the bathroom as fast as she can before I can flush it, lol."


I was scared of the sound of a flushing toilet til I was like 5 or 6. lol. No idea why.