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Not Sure About What I Should Do? Kansakuro_Angel18 Kentucky 2 posts
6th Mar '12

I'm only 18 years old and about to start college in August. I could possibly be pregnant and I'm scared. My first instinct is to keep the baby but I understand that this could potentially make my life difficult. My boyfriend is older then me and this pregnancy would greatly affect his life as well, We both love each very much and he's okay with whatever I decide but he wants me to consider an abortion. It goes against everything I believe in but I still need to think about this. What should I do?

John Mayer. 2 kids; Modesto, California 21992 posts
6th Mar '12

No one can tell you what you should do, as far as an ultimate decision.



Weigh the pros and cons, talk to your boyfriend about it more, and decide from there. Good luck.

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
6th Mar '12
Quoting Keyboard Warrior; 35.:" No one can tell you what you should do, as far as an ultimate decision. Weigh the pros and cons, talk to your boyfriend about it more, and decide from there. Good luck."

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☮live Due January 23; 2 kids; Nampa, Idaho 14721 posts
6th Mar '12

I think you should go over all the scenarios and talk it through seriously with your boyfriend. You are the only one that can make a decision like this. Best of luck.

Bizzle. 1 child; Lake Havasu City, Arizona 18341 posts
6th Mar '12

Sit down with him and talk about it. Ultimately, it is up to you.
Try not to stress about that for right now though. First find out if you are actually pregnant.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
6th Mar '12

Do whatever you are most comfortable with but please know that a baby is way more time and work than you will ever understand until you have one. And that's the healthy ones. God forbid your child has a health issue. If I were in your shoes I would abort. Fast.
I got pregnant at 19 and I love my son but if I had it to do over again and could have the exact same kid a few years later, I would have aborted.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
6th Mar '12

I wouldn't worry too much until you find out whether or not you're pregnant, but if you test positive, I'd suggest thinking about it on your own as well as with your boyfriend because ultimately, it's your body and you have to live with whatever choice you end up making (arguably more than he might). I don't think there's a right or wrong path and that both have their pros and their cons, but I do believe you should do whatever you find is best for you. I wish you the best of luck.

Chellie Due September 19 (boy); 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4706 posts
6th Mar '12

Talk it through with your boyfriend. I had an abortion as well when my husband and I were still dating. We were ok with getting pregnant so we didn't use protection. However I lost my job after that and freaked out about it, and the financial aspect of having a baby. I told him I wanted to get an abortion, I told him why. he didn't really agree or disagree but supported my decision. It still hurts me that I did that, I cannot regret it because I know I made the best choice for us at the time but it still hurts knowing that I ended a pregnancy. I ended up finding a job about 3 months after that and we got married 4 months after I started working again. We decided to try for a baby again and we got pregnant the first shot. We kept the pregnancy even though I had to leave work while I was pregnant we have been making it work.



No one but you can decide what is best for you. That is just my story and maybe it will give you some insight on to how you really feel. Just remember in this day and age college is a very important aspect and if you can handle college and a baby by all means go for it but you don't want to end up in a dead end job with no education to support your baby.

Kansakuro_Angel18 Kentucky 2 posts
6th Mar '12

Thank you all for the help. I feel like I could handle college and a baby but yet I understand that it puts me in tough position. I think if I did have an abortion I coudn't live with that choice but yet... I'm so unsure what to do.
I really need to think about the pros and cons, just like some of you said.

☮live Due January 23; 2 kids; Nampa, Idaho 14721 posts
6th Mar '12
Quoting Kansakuro_Angel18:" Thank you all for the help. I feel like I could handle college and a baby but yet I understand that it ... [snip!] ... that choice but yet... I'm so unsure what to do. I really need to think about the pros and cons, just like some of you said."


I am going to college part-time, working full-time and basically the sole caretaker of my daughter. It is THE toughest thing ever, but I manage. I think you could manage too but it WILL be hard. I think even having a baby in the ideal moment would still be hard. I am pro-choice 110% but I would hate to see you or anyone else make a decision you are unhappy with. Just know that whatever you do is going to be the best thing FOR YOU and that is alllll that matters. You can do anything you put your mind to :)

Skylar'sMamaBear12 Due May 12 (girl); Oakland, Maryland 4 posts
6th Mar '12

You could consider adoption. I am against abortion completely, bt only because it took my sooo long to get pregnant and my sister can not get pregnant so i believe adoption is always a good choice. Bt its up to you and what you feel is right. You will be the one who will live with the choice forever no matter what it is! Best of luck!

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
7th Mar '12
Quoting Kansakuro_Angel18:" I'm only 18 years old and about to start college in August. I could possibly be pregnant and I'm scared. ... [snip!] ... me to consider an abortion. It goes against everything I believe in but I still need to think about this. What should I do?"

It really is up to you but I know plenty of people, including myself, who have a baby and work full time and go to college full time(I go part time but am going to go back to full time next semester). I take all online courses and it gives me the time I need to make sure I have time for work and my baby and school. It can be difficult but if you are able to get all your time planned out right its easier than most make it out to be. Like if you are going to beat yourself up over it then don't do it but if you think you can mentally handle it and are sure you want to abort then do that.

Lis Marie Jones Due August 6 (girl); 84 kids; Japan 2 posts
9th Mar '12
Quoting Kansakuro_Angel18:" I'm only 18 years old and about to start college in August. I could possibly be pregnant and I'm scared. ... [snip!] ... me to consider an abortion. It goes against everything I believe in but I still need to think about this. What should I do?"


I had what I believed in challenged a month ago when I was told I had a 25% chance of my baby having downs :( but after a lot of consideration and awareness of how hard it would be decided to keep it.
though the result came back that she is fine I know it seems to be the solution but please look at both sides before you make a decision as big as this my friend was really talked into one by her dr and has regretted it the rest of her life another friend had 2 also regreted it.
This may be one of the biggest decisions you make in your life Please for your sake make it a well educated and informed one look at the side drs are presenting you also look at info the prolife education presents you how can you truly be able to feel at peace with your decision without being able to make a fair judgement and how can you make this informed decision without hearing out both sides
drs and the nurses WONT tell you everything

T-Marie M New Zealand 5 posts
12th Mar '12

Quoting Kansakuro_Angel18:" I'm only 18 years old and about to start college in August. I could possibly be pregnant and I'm scared. ... [snip!] ... me to consider an abortion. It goes against everything I believe in but I still need to think about this. What should I do?"



First of all, the problem is never the problem. It's the whole thing around your age, college, boyfriends etc that's exacerbating the situation. If you could solve those issues or find way around them, would you still consider having an abortion?
If it goes against everything you believe, I would recommend you did not go through with it. Our moral conscience is not something that can be easily violated and then lived with. If that happens it will usually tear you apart emotionally and cause you more grief than you ever anticipated. I had an abortion when I was younger. I was not given accurate information. People had their own agendas, but I was the one living with the consequences. Single parenting is no fun, but neither is the regret of abortion easy to live with. Good decisions are made having as much ACCURATE information as we possibly can get. No one can make this decision for you. However, I think the comment you made about your beliefs has already answered your question. Be courageous. Don't keep this a secret from your parents. The secret will only put barriers up that will erode the relationship with them. Most eventually recover from the shock and enjoy the child as well.

TiffanyLynnx3 1 child; Hamlet, North Carolina 934 posts
17th Mar '12
Quoting Kansakuro_Angel18:" I'm only 18 years old and about to start college in August. I could possibly be pregnant and I'm scared. ... [snip!] ... me to consider an abortion. It goes against everything I believe in but I still need to think about this. What should I do?"


Hey, Im Tiffany. 17 years young, ill be 18 march 30th. I have one daughter born march 8 2011 . My boyfriend is 21 he works he doesnt go to school so I CAN go to school.
When i got pregnant i was 16 he was 19 & i was scared!! Ive had alot of emotional issues since i had her because i cant do what all the other teenagers do. I go to high school and college and occasionally get to go out with friends but in the end i wouldnt change a thing ♥ shes my world . Dont do something youll regret if your boyfriend supports you keeping the baby then i say have that baybay girll! if not then me personally would get a abortion i dont know what i would do without my babysdaddy he does soo much for me & her. I give major ups to single moms , it must be the hardest thing in the worldd.