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Mixed emotions.. ThatMama. Due October 9 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; California 166 posts
16th Mar '12

Hello ladies. I have a 18 month old son whom I love more than life. We recently found out im 10 weeks pregnant nd I have a termination apt. Scheduled. At first I felt it would be better for us to wait but now im having secobd guesses. This is a huge choice I will have to live with and I feel alone. . Im scared I will forever regret it. This is a veryy sensitive subject for me and im not asking for any neg. Feedback. Can some of yu ladies who have been in this situation tell me your stories

JΔS Georgia 75343 posts
status 16th Mar '12

I had an abortion when I was 15. I don't ever regret my decision but at 15, I didn't want to have an abortion. I didn't want to go through the procedure but I knew I couldn't keep that pregnancy. I was too young, still in high school and the pregnancy was a result from a rape so I was very traumatized at the time. My situation is very different from yours but I always tell women that if they are second guessing their decision, don't abort. That's a sure fire way to live with regret.

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
16th Mar '12

I've never had an abortion, but good luck whatever you decide. Make sure you are completely sure before you do it... or else you will regret it. I do know many people who have had an abortion & say they do not regret it at all...

Rae's mama *USMC* 17 kids; Fort Walton Beach, Florida 5538 posts
16th Mar '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama e.:</b>" Hello ladies. I have a 18 month old son whom I love more than life. We recently found out im 10 weeks ... [snip!] ... for me and im not asking for any neg. Feedback. Can some of yu ladies who have been in this situation tell me your stories"</blockquote>




Was in the same boat (except my daughter was 20 months) needless to say I'm now 14 weeks along. It was scary and stressful at first and I considered abortion a couple times, but I figures why not I want more in the future, no reason to abort now and just get pregnant down again down the road. And I know I won't regret my child. But that's me. I'm also married a sahm and financially stable.

Rae's mama *USMC* 17 kids; Fort Walton Beach, Florida 5538 posts
16th Mar '12

BTW I have had an abortion before (completely different situation though) and I do not regret it at all.

ThatMama. Due October 9 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; California 166 posts
16th Mar '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rae's mama *USMC*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting mama e.:</b>" Hello ladies. I have a 18 month old son whom I ... [snip!] ... down again down the road. And I know I won't regret my child. But that's me. I'm also married a sahm and financially stable."</blockquote>




I feel I was born to be a mother and want 1-2 more kids. We live in an apartment but plan on getting into a house within the next few months.

Zinnia Lila Colorado 1 posts
16th Mar '12

It sounds like you're feeling really torn up right now. I have not had an abortion (blessed with 3 wonderful children), however my sister did have an abortion and was unable to conceive afterwards thus killing her dream of eventually having children. This is a huge decision and I really feel for you.
I want to urge you to take the time to look at the situation from all possible angles and to weigh your options carefully. During my time working with Focus on the Family I met caring licensed counselors that are actually available to consult at no cost. Simply call Monday through Friday between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. Mountain time at 1-855-771-HELP (4357). They

JΔS Georgia 75343 posts
status 16th Mar '12
Quoting Zinnia Lila:" ."


I know you're new and everything so I won't dig into you but that type of stuff is not allowed in this forum. I know you're trying to help but you need to read the rules of this forum before posting. That website you posted is very anti abortion. OP needs support, not pro life propaganda.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
16th Mar '12

I had an abortion 7 weeks ago, and I have to say I have been through every emotion and back again, including regret. I do realise, however, that I did what I felt was right for me (and, to be honest, what I felt was right for the LO). You can only do what is right for you. Maybe consider talking to someone before you make you decision so you can be sure it is what you really want, and if you do go ahead with it, talk to someone again to work through the emotions you may go through.



As far as my experience went, I was fortunate enough to have an understanding and kind medical team who made me feel very comfortable, I never felt any judgement. The procedure went well, and I physically healed really well and fast. Emotionally, only my best friend knows everything I went through, and even though she couldn

Sugar. 17 kids; New Zealand 779 posts
16th Mar '12

I had an abortion a couple of years ago, completely different circumstances but all in all it's the same thing. It is a terrible thing to have to go through but in the end you need to do what is right for you and your family. You are not a bad person for having an abortion, if it's too soon it's too soon. Talk to someone close to you and see what they think. I'm sorry you are going through this tough time!

Mellissa28 Due September 3 (boy); 1 child; Sussex, Wisconsin 795 posts
16th Mar '12

I was 14 wks and had an abortation. I didnt know I was pregnant. I know it sounds crazy but i seriously had no signs that I was pregnant. I was on alot of medications that u shouldnt take while pregnant and just got diagnosed with a illness. So our choice was to abort. I didnt have time to think about it and if I did have time and knew I was pregnant I think I would of kept it cuz I would of gotten off the medication to make sure baby was healthy. But at that time is was the best choice for me. If you have any doubts dont do it because you might have some regrets in the end and it might end up effecting you. Good luck mama. Just make sure your ok with ur decision and thats all that matters.

ThatMama. Due October 9 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; California 166 posts
17th Mar '12

Thank yu ladies. Its just something im going to have to think about hard. Im glad my SO is here for me even though I know he doesnt really understand he tries.

CottonCandyVodka Due September 26 (girl); 2 kids; Louisiana 157 posts
17th Mar '12

I got pregnant right After I just had my last she will be 5 months on the 28th and I'm 16 weeks pregnant ... I too considered abortion and I kept changing my mind I knew it would be best to abort but I knew I would regret it very much and yesterday I went for my first ob appt. And I saw the baby and I'm so glad u didn't do that to it. I will find out on Tuesday what we're having hoping a boy cuz I already have two girls but goodluck with whatever u choose..

thats me. :) 18 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 3235 posts
25th Mar '12

I found out I was pregnant when my son was about 18 months old.
I was very confused on what to do.
I just finished my schooling!
I found out December 14th 2010.
I decided to keep the baby.
Now my 2 boys are 2.5 years apart. I love it.
My oldest adores his younger brother.
Some days I do wonder what it would be like to just have Caleb.
How much easier it would be.
But ive only had those thoughts about 3 times in the last 8 months.
I really wouldnt change anything, in fact I would have had Joel that much sooner if I knew how easy it would have been :D

Good Luckwith any decision you should choose.


ps I did have a pregnancy scare when my youngest was 5 weeks..
I most likely would have choosen abortion....3 kids would have been hard.
Now, I think a 3rd and final would make a great addition to the family.