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I feel like such a loser BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
21st Mar '12

I try not to think about the fact I have no friends...



I try to just focus on my LO, and be content with my life as a stay at home mom...



but I'm a loser, and I know it. I hardly talk to any of my family, I talk to my few 'friends' once or twice a month through a few texts...



I feel like no one cares about me, and like the only person in the world who truly loves me unconditionally is my baby.



My husband loves me, but he's horrible at showing it, and he's got more friends than he can keep up with - which honestly I'm really jealous of...



every time he says, "Why don't you go out with a friend?" I feel like saying, "Are you trying to point out that I'm a loser, or are you really that ignorant to the fact that I don't have any friends!" But instead, I just avoid answer his question by changing the topic.



I'm too shy to go to mom groups or anything like that, not the mention my anxiety practically cripples me, so going anywhere is a challenge...



I've thought about getting a job, but again, my anxiety is just too much, I wouldn't be able to handle working - and that's the same reason I don't go to school...



actually besides doctors appointments or going out with the hubby, I pretty much do not leave the house...



I just needed to vent really since I have no one to talk to...

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
21st Mar '12

I think you have the definition of a loser wrong :wink: You are not a loser! Losing friends is a fairly common part of having children. It took me until my daughter 2 to start doing my hair and makeup again, and until she was 3 to start having a social life again. I understand where you're coming from with the anxiety though... Have you talked to anyone about it or are you on any meds?

♥T-D-A♥ 17 kids; Michigan 1888 posts
21st Mar '12

You can talk to me! You're not alone... I am pretty much in the same boat except my SO has no friends either. I have a couple friends that I see.. oh maybe once every 6 months IF that. I don't get along well with my family because they're nothing but drama... and my anxiety is awful. I can't go to mom groups or meet anyone new because my anxiety is just too much.



If you want I can give you my # and we can text or email or whatever.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
21st Mar '12
Quoting ♥T-D-A♥:" You can talk to me! You're not alone... I am pretty much in the same boat except my SO has no friends ... [snip!] ... or meet anyone new because my anxiety is just too much. If you want I can give you my # and we can text or email or whatever."

Mom groups are awful. I find they are so "cliquey" and hard to get in on! I've always been an outcast there, lol.

Selena Poomonkey Due June 18 (girl); 2 kids; Australia 426 posts
21st Mar '12

You poor thing! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. It sounds like you are suffering from depression with the way you said you are feeling. You are not a looser sweety, you just need to get back on track. Your husband probably doesn't mean to come across as trying to get rid of you, he may see that you need to get out there and enjoy life again. If I was you, I would go and see your doctor and tell them exactly how you are feeling, they could suggest councelling or anti depressants. Don't be afraid of telling your doctor how you feel as you are not alone in this. I was feeling the same way too and I am back on track and it feels great! All the best :)

Ashley R [[x3]] 3 kids; Greenville, South Carolina 1531 posts
21st Mar '12

I feel the same way, except I have 3 kids at 21, so I feel like a bigger loser. It sucks. The only people I talk to are my kids and dad and DH. Gets boring. Things will start getting better for you soon. I'm sure.