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Relief? MomMommyMa+1 Elizabeth, New Jersey 23 posts
26th Mar '12

Just curious if anyone felt relieved after going through with an abortion? I know that it's natural to feel regret but there are different levels of it. And for some, it seems like they feel awful and just want their baby back and for others, they feel a bit of relief because they knew pregnancy wasn't right for them at the time, although the abortion itself is never an easy thing.

When I was younger and had my abortion, I was so sick. I struggled with the decision. But afterwards, I honestly did feel a bit of relief. My SO at the time even held me that night and said, " I feel like you're back". I had been a total wreck during pregnancy and for some reason couldn't stand him. He was supportive in either decision btw.

I started focusing on my health more, lost a lot of weight by eating healthy and got back in school. I remember seeing a friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a while and she had a baby boy and I remember thinking that I was right in my decision because I was not in any shape to have a child at the time.

Just wanted to share. Abortion is never an easy thing, so whether you felt relief or regret or a little of both, you ladies are very strong. HUGS!

Puff the Magic Dragon! 15 kids; Ontario 14235 posts
26th Mar '12

yes, major relief, relief more than anything else.



So relieving, i can not even tell you, I felt like when i got pregnant... for a third time, i had failed. Having been a teenage mother, i can tell you, you feel like nothing but a failure.



I was, (as crazy as it seems) looking forward to the procedure, of course i felt scared, and sad, and made sure i knew what i was going to be feeling.



It was the best decision for me, and i have never had a regret.

Kea O_O 4 kids; British Columbia 1480 posts
26th Mar '12

I don't know first hand but I did an artical for a class once and did my own little research project with some of the teen mothers and the people who went to the young planned parents class for abortion support after the fact, for the most part the girls I talked to didn't regret the decision some wished things could have been different but knew that that wasn't the time and they did what they needed to. the only ones I talked to that really regreted it were the ones who were pushed into it by someone else.

MomMommyMa+1 Elizabeth, New Jersey 23 posts
26th Mar '12

Good for you! :D I think there is nothing wrong with feeling some relief. I'd take relief over regret and depression any day.
And you had two kids at a young age and you not wanting to have another is totally understandable. I'd probably do the same if I wasn't ready. it's about what's best for your family too.

MomMommyMa+1 Elizabeth, New Jersey 23 posts
26th Mar '12
Quoting Kea D:" I don't know first hand but I did an artical for a class once and did my own little research project ... [snip!] ... what they needed to. the only ones I talked to that really regreted it were the ones who were pushed into it by someone else."


That's really interesting. I knew a few who were really young and regretted and struggled with it more than older women. I was a little older and already out of high school when it happened, I was about 19. In my area there were so many young mothers already so that is what made me struggle with my decision too. It seemed like everyone was supposed to have babies by 20.

Puff the Magic Dragon! 15 kids; Ontario 14235 posts
26th Mar '12
Quoting MomMommyMa+1:" Good for you! :D I think there is nothing wrong with feeling some relief. I'd take relief over regret ... [snip!] ... another is totally understandable. I'd probably do the same if I wasn't ready. it's about what's best for your family too. "


Oh absolutely, my living children came first. Having a third child would have taken the little i am already struggling to give, away.. and who am i to do that to my children, i needed ultimately to do what's best for all three of my children. It's not a ..pleasant way of protecting a child, but that's how i thought about it. When i was struggling with the choice at first, i told my self this was/is what's best for the entire family. Fetus was included.



I have no regrets, and i don't think i ever will, even in a place where i am no longer struggling to feed my living children, will i sit and dwell on the fact i chose abortion.



It's only what's best for the mother, and her family.
oh, and thank you.

Kea O_O 4 kids; British Columbia 1480 posts
26th Mar '12
Quoting MomMommyMa+1:" That's really interesting. I knew a few who were really young and regretted and struggled with it more ... [snip!] ... already so that is what made me struggle with my decision too. It seemed like everyone was supposed to have babies by 20."

I was 16 when I had my daughter so I was in a young parents class I mostly met people who were between 14-23 with some sort of pregnancy behind them