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CourtneyNS Due November 7 (boy); 3 kids; Alberta 236 posts
Mar 28th '12

It really wasn't meant to be rude. (2 am and tired :? sorry)

I was just meaning it might help you focus on what wrong with your relationship if you're having a freak out about a baby right now. I wasn't trying to force you to think to keep it.

If you know its not right-maybe nows the best time to figure out why.

It will be okay you're early enough that there is a tonne of options-just need to get into a doc quick. Are you able to talk to your hubby about what to do? That might help you feel better and less freaked out. Able to make a decision about which route to go-the pill, or traditional.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Would it be better to go in? Omg. I don't know anymore! My friend almost took the pill once, so that's ... [snip!] ... to do. I can't call my Mom for help or my SO's Mom. So I'm kinda just hoping some of you ladies would know what I could do."


I know in the phone book there are plenty of places you could call and see what they would suggest. But in the end YOU need to make the decision, we can only be here to support you and give advice.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Oh my bad. :) Well, I understand that. Sometimes, when you've been with someone for a long time, you ... [snip!] ... probably all you two need. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now and we definitely need some rekindling."


:!: I think any marriage that NEVER needs a bit is a phony. DH and I had a really bad rough patch few years back. We found a counselor while looking for divorce attorneys. We still see the counselor a few times a year just for that refresher. It's hard work!

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting Yellow Diamond:" Just make sure you are clear about what you want to do because you sound like you
BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Oh my bad. :) Well, I understand that. Sometimes, when you've been with someone for a long time, you ... [snip!] ... probably all you two need. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now and we definitely need some rekindling."

God, I don't know what to do. I want to make things work because before know I never had a reason to even think to get...it done. I mean, I always though "no matter what." I feel like I'm being somewhat selfish in making this decision. SO's just going to run around like a chicken without it's head til it's too late to make a decision.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting ... :/ ...:" Well i know that you feel it won't be right to bring another child into this world with the way things ... [snip!] ... pregnancy? Honestly i think you need to sit down and think about what's best for you, because i'm sure you're still shocked."

I am still shocked! SO's running around like a chicken with it's head cut off :? So he's really no help, I think he wants to be there for me no matter what...but it's hard to read him right now.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Well, that's where it gets really hard. Because I can see both pro's and con's to both sides. It's just ... [snip!] ... because he knows we love each other, then the next second he can't understand how we can even think about having another baby."


I suggest that the two of you sit down and talk about it, you don't have to make your minds up right this second but soon.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I am still shocked! SO's running around like a chicken with it's head cut off :? So he's really no help, I think he wants to be there for me no matter what...but it's hard to read him right now."


When i found out i was pregnant with this baby i was in shock for a few weeks actually, i know DH was the same way.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Well, that's where it gets really hard. Because I can see both pro's and con's to both sides. It's just ... [snip!] ... because he knows we love each other, then the next second he can't understand how we can even think about having another baby."


Have to say that I agree with a few other posts, you have a bit of time to think and talk this all through; you don

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Mar 28th '12
Quoting CLJ304:" You need to relax, we can't really tell you what to do, it depends mainly on what you feel is right. ... [snip!] ... stress, I know its hard for you to even think about what to do. You don't want to do something you will maybe regret later on."

That's what I'm afraid of, but at the same time, I think I might regret it if I don't do it

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Mar 28th '12

Thanks ladies :) I'll have to sit down with SO and really discuss what we should do.

October2011 Due August 5; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 8340 posts
Mar 28th '12

Why dont you try some relationship counseling. If you guys love eachother..you can work through it..everyone has tough times. Who's to say you guys wont be back to your old selves 9 months from now? You don't want to so anything you will regret...if the only thing hanging over your head about this is your relationship...start with that. Hope you and your man get back to your happy place. good luck.

.Sweet Dee. 1 child; New York City, NY, Hong Kong 4492 posts
Mar 28th '12

the abortion pill is an option till 8 weeks.

Cheyenne Bruder Due September 10; 1 child; Cheboygan, Michigan 84 posts
Mar 29th '12

I think you should keep it, I have a 17 month old and I 'm 16 weeks pregant and going to school. I was shocked at first but I got really happy knowing I get to see and hold something thats apart of me :) dont let others that are near and dear to you pressure you into something. Its your choice and plus its just sad killing a baby lol well good luck hope this helped.

Cheyenne Bruder Due September 10; 1 child; Cheboygan, Michigan 84 posts
Mar 29th '12

I think you should keep it, I have a 17 month old and I 'm 16 weeks pregant and going to school. I was shocked at first but I got really happy knowing I get to see and hold something thats apart of me :) dont let others that are near and dear to you pressure you into something. Its your choice and plus its just sad killing a baby lol well good luck hope this helped.