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Terrified. Need help. BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12

I just found out today that I'm pregnant. My son is only 6 months old, and I had him by c section. I'm not mentally able to have another baby right now or financially. So my husband and I decided on abortion. I'm terrified because I never thought this would happen to me. We were very careful. Birth control and condoms, but it still managed to happen. My parents have already told me that abortion is a terrible thing to even think about and that they would help me financially, but I just can't do it. I didn't plan on having another baby, my son was going to be my one and only.



I need some support because I feel like this is going to destroy me. I've been through so much, and everyone thinks of me as strong, but I just feel like this is going to destroy me when I do it, but I know in my heart it's the right thing to do.



Any information or help about abortion would be nice. Does insurance cover it? I read a little bit about the pill. How well does that work?

user banned New York 15996 posts
29th Mar '12

Don't do it unless you're 100% on it.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
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WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
29th Mar '12

I'm sorry you're in a tough position, honey. I haven't heard of insurance covering abortion. I had one years ago or about $300 but it was surgical and through Planned Parenthood. I'm not sure of what they cost now. I wish you the best and hope you can find some peace.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 16073 posts
29th Mar '12

Insurance, I would think not.
Only do it if you think you are alright with you decision.
For me, if I was to do it...which I would right now in my point in life..I would not tell anybody but SO..and we would make the decision together, other peoples opinion would really effect what my decision would be.

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29th Mar '12
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BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
Quoting WeenieMachine:" I'm sorry you're in a tough position, honey. I haven't heard of insurance covering abortion. I had one ... [snip!] ... and through Planned Parenthood. I'm not sure of what they cost now. I wish you the best and hope you can find some peace."

I really do hope I can find peace too. I just want to be happy for once. I guess I just have to keep moving like I always have.

SpaghetiOhShux! TTC since Nov 2013; 128 kids; Harrisburg, SD, United States 483 posts
29th Mar '12

I can't add much but I feel really bad for you. Just remember whatever you do decide to do is whats best for you and the baby you already have, don't let people try and make you feel horrible about it. Is adoption an option?

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
29th Mar '12

Abortions can cause a lot of hurt, but if you are not mentally or financially ready another baby can be just as bad. If that is what you want to do then the earlier the better. I've never heard of insurance paying for an abortion. The pill works well. I'm not sure exactly what it does chemically but your body reacts like a miscarriage. I think now you take a total of 3 pills. You will start cramping and eventually pass clots and will bleed for a few days to a week afterwards. I would say that is probably the better/easier route to go.



Do what you feel is the best for you and your family.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
Quoting GrumpsMama.:" Insurance, I would think not. Only do it if you think you are alright with you decision. For me, if ... [snip!] ... anybody but SO..and we would make the decision together, other peoples opinion would really effect what my decision would be."

I only told those who I trust. My dad was against it, but the other two that I told besides DH told me that they think what I'm doing is right and they support me. It's just a terrifying thing to think about.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
Quoting Mrs. Barrios:" I can't add much but I feel really bad for you. Just remember whatever you do decide to do is whats best ... [snip!] ... best for you and the baby you already have, don't let people try and make you feel horrible about it. Is adoption an option?"

No, I couldn't do that. I decided when I saw my son. I couldn't bring a baby in this world and not take it home with me. I'd rather live with abortion then where my baby is at and how he/she is being treated.

not so derpy Ashley Due November 8 (boy); 1 child; Roanoke, VA, United States 22574 posts
29th Mar '12

If you're 100% on it don't let your parents know. Just take care of it privately. An early abortion is safer than giving birth even without a recent C-section.

Mrs.O! 18 kids; your moms ass, HI, United States 21386 posts
29th Mar '12

it sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place....I'm sorry for the problems you're going through and I always told DH that if I had gotten pregnant before LO was 2 that I would have an abortion, although I know it doesn't relate anything to your situation I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in the mindset...you're right for doing whats best for you and your family but the only thing it sounds like is that you don't want to have an abortion....I am totally pro choice but if you are hesitant I can honestly say I've never seen that go in a right way...are you 100% that this is what YOU want?....just remember you'll always have support here no matter what you choose..

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
Quoting Derpy Hooves:" If you're 100% on it don't let your parents know. Just take care of it privately. An early abortion is safer than giving birth even without a recent C-section."

I'm also scared because isn't there a high risk for c section patients that just had a baby that long ago to have another baby? That's what my doctor told me after I had my son.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
29th Mar '12
Quoting Mrs.O!:" it sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place....I'm sorry for the problems you're going ... [snip!] ... way...are you 100% that this is what YOU want?....just remember you'll always have support here no matter what you choose.."

I want it, but the only thing I hate is that it had to happen you know? I have medical problems and I just can't do it right now and I know it's the best thing to do, if it makes sense. My husband is the only one working because I take care of LO. I mean no one WANTS an abortion. It just sucks that I'm in this situation and that's probably why it seems like I'm not 100%. Because I'm still in total shock of everything.