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Can't do this BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
1st Apr '12

I figured this was the best place to post this and I didn't want to use my account.
I am married and have two small children. I found out not long ago I was expecting again. At first I was very happy and excited. I couldn't wait to be a new mother again. But then I got so sick I wasn't able to take care of the kids I have. I was doing the best I could and just prayed it passed soon but I wasn't excited about having a baby anymore. Then I found out my husband has been lying to me about a woman he was friends with who is pregnant. I know now I have to leave him. But I also know that I can not take care of another child on my own. Also neither of my current children are his so I really don't want one that ties me to him for the rest of my life I don't think I could deal with that. I am a stay at home mom because my husband won't let me work and I have to ask every time I spend money. He would never let me get an abortion, let alone pay for it. I have no money of my own he uses it any time I get it because all of a sudden he is broke. The most I can get by with with out telling him exactly what it is for is 20$ here or there. I can't have this baby. I just can't. And don't tell me to put it up for adoption because he would never let me. Is there anyway I can cause a miscarriage at home?

Mone™ Due July 13; 2 kids; Washington, DC, United States 5486 posts
1st Apr '12

I'm sorry i can not advise you on how to give yourself a miscarriage. You need to talk to a professional and see what your funding options are.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
1st Apr '12

I'm not sure about causing a miscarriage at home... I wouldn't offer any suggestions even if I knew though. How far along are you?

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I figured this was the best place to post this and I didn't want to use my account. I am married and ... [snip!] ... And don't tell me to put it up for adoption because he would never let me. Is there anyway I can cause a miscarriage at home? "


Look into herbal abortion.
I know you can take vitamin C tablets, like one on the hour for five-ten days can do it. Everything else may kill you and is expensive.

Rumple Foreskin 3 kids; Kentucky 47763 posts
1st Apr '12

Call planned parenthood or various doctors and clinics and talk to them about the situation, see of they cant put you on a payment plan or something. I wish you the best of luck.

Momma R 2 kids; Washington 3631 posts
1st Apr '12

First of all, I'm sorry you are going through this. Its not safe to induce miscarriage at home. Please don't try. Is there any way you ca borrow money from somewhere or someone? Maybe there is a facility around your area that will take payments for the procedure? I hope everything works out in your best interest.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
1st Apr '12

He won't let you work? He won't let you have an abortion? He won't let you give the baby up for adoption?
OP, I know it seems like you can't do this on your own right now, but you need to leave. You need someone who is going to treat you like an equal, not like a child. You will be amazed at what you are capable of handling.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting Woah!:" I'm not sure about causing a miscarriage at home... I wouldn't offer any suggestions even if I knew though. How far along are you?"


I am not entirely sure but my guess would be 6 to 7 weeks.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
1st Apr '12

Call planned parenthood they will give you advice. You can also set up all types of payment plan for the future. I'm incredibly sorry.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I am not entirely sure but my guess would be 6 to 7 weeks."

How much does it cost to have an abortion in the states? In Canada it's free, that's why I'm asking.



There's different methods too, like the pill that might be cheaper?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting Because we fell in Love:" He won't let you work? He won't let you have an abortion? He won't let you give the baby up for adoption? ... [snip!] ... need someone who is going to treat you like an equal, not like a child. You will be amazed at what you are capable of handling."


I know it sounds bad but he always has an excuse for everything. I begged him to let me work because I need to get out of the house more and he said daycare is to expensive. He is 100% against abortions and called me a stupid selfish bitch when I told him that I didn't agree with him. I don't know what to do but once I found out about the "so-called friend" and the baby I knew I couldn't put up with it anymore.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting Woah!:" How much does it cost to have an abortion in the states? In Canada it's free, that's why I'm asking. There's different methods too, like the pill that might be cheaper?"


If I am not mistaken it is about 400$. I thought the pill was more expensive.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" If I am not mistaken it is about 400$. I thought the pill was more expensive."

I think your best bet is to call planned parenthood and see what they can do for you. I'm sure they can help, especially for the reasons you have for wanting it.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
1st Apr '12
Quoting AshleyXu:" Look into herbal abortion. I know you can take vitamin C tablets, like one on the hour for five-ten days can do it. Everything else may kill you and is expensive."

There is another member on here who knows about the Vitamin C method, but I'm not sure, apparently it does work though...

funshine bear 2 kids; Washington 244 posts
1st Apr '12

Do not try to cause a miscarriage at home. You could kill yourself and who would then watch your 2 children you do have. Call and talk to planned parenthood and explain your situation. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. My xhusband was very controlling and wouldn't let me have money. He honestly sounds like your husband. You do have to leave. Its not healthy for you or your 2 kids. I wish I had answers for you. Just please don't try to do anything at home to yourself