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♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 6369 posts
11th Apr '12

Do what you think is best, we cant really help you decide. All we can do is offer support. Do they have councilors at the clinic that you could talk to before/after about your decision? Maybe that would help you feel more confident in your choice. Good luck hun! Stay strong.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46847 posts
11th Apr '12

Honestly hun, I would talk to your SO. Tell him the situation.
Be honest. Get his opinion. Maybe his opinion on the matter will make you feel better. Whatever it may be. Secrets are NEVER good for a relationship, so just tell him. You need his support. Even if you go through with an abortion and want to pretend like it never happened, some day you are going to need to talk to him about it. Your SO is generally your rock, no?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Brandie Dawne:" If your not sure then don't do it. You need to be sure. Have you thought about adoption?"


Maybe she cant do adoption. I suggest abortion over adoption ANYDAY of the week.



OP.. idk who you are or if you know who I am, but I am raising a child, I have had an abortion and I have placed a child for adoption.

yo gabby gabby 4 kids; Arizona 42570 posts
11th Apr '12

if it was me I probably would. if I couldn't afford another kid



but I do also think that you have to be 100 percent certain you want to do it.



but if you do it..think of how it will effect you in the long run



and if you don't do it think of how it will effect you in the long run..will you regret the child?



you have to weigh the pro's and cons and make the best decision from there..that can make you 100 percent positive of your decision (either way)

Anghellic Mama 4 kids; Iowa 1067 posts
11th Apr '12

It sounds like you don't want to do it, you feel you HAVE to. I think you may regret your decision afterwards. I would talk to a counselor first and make sure this is really what you WANT to do.

animaLibera_ 1 child; Ohio 7936 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Supaaa Pregnant:" if you're going to get an abortion you need to get it because it's what YOU want, and not what you want ... [snip!] ... have. An abortion cannot be undone. You need to do what YOU need to do, but make sure you're not doing it for anyone else. "


:!::!:
If you get an abortion to please someone else you will more than likely end up regretting it. If you get it because it's what you know is best for you and your daughter, then you will most likely not regret it, because you knew it was the best decision that you could have made at the time and you did it for no one else but your family.

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
11th Apr '12

In then end, if it's what's best for you, your child and your current situation, it may be a hard choice but the right one. I wish you the best.

Crystal Mom of 4 4 kids; New York 6309 posts
11th Apr '12

You need to do whatever you feel is best for you. Don't do it for or because of anyone else, do it because it is the right choice for yourself at this point in time. I'm sorry that you're in this situation right now. Good luck with your decision.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46847 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting One Lazy Bitch:" :!::!: If you get an abortion to please someone else you will more than likely end up regretting it. ... [snip!] ... because you knew it was the best decision that you could have made at the time and you did it for no one else but your family. "


EXACTLY!
I seriously considered aborting this baby. My husband was in a BAD place, mentally... and in the end, after driving around PLanned Parenthood 10 times, the day of my appointment, I went home. Why? Because I knew that I would love this baby no matter the circumstance and that I could make it work. I knew that my kids would love a baby- and that the only person I would please by getting the abortion would be my husband. In the end, abortion really wasn't what he wanted. I can only imagine the regret I would have felt if I had it done, simply to please him. Especially, when he finally came to his senses and realized that he really DID want this baby.



Don't do it to please anyone else.
Do it for YOU, and YOU alone.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Y[♥]:" Maybe she cant do adoption. I suggest abortion over adoption ANYDAY of the week. OP.. idk who you ... [snip!] ... who you are or if you know who I am, but I am raising a child, I have had an abortion and I have placed a child for adoption."


So you have gone done all three? I have only ever had one child and I ended up having her. There was never a question in my mind about keeping her or not.

I keep looking at her and getting all emotional because what if I would have gotten an abortion with her, I wouldn't have this wonderful child. But I was engaged and living with BD and so on.

I have thought about about adoption but it would be so hard for me.

Which was harder for you, if you don't mind me asking?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Hey, 36 Weeks!:" EXACTLY! I seriously considered aborting this baby. My husband was in a BAD place, mentally... and ... [snip!] ... his senses and realized that he really DID want this baby. Don't do it to please anyone else. Do it for YOU, and YOU alone."


Thank you all so much!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting One Lazy Bitch:" :!::!: If you get an abortion to please someone else you will more than likely end up regretting it. ... [snip!] ... because you knew it was the best decision that you could have made at the time and you did it for no one else but your family. "


I got an abortion to please someone else, I used to regret it but I dont anymore. Iknow that it was for the best.

Lyn-Z 2 kids; McDonough, Georgia 1000 posts
11th Apr '12

Pfffft. Sorry. I've been stupid today.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" So you have gone done all three? I have only ever had one child and I ended up having her. There was ... [snip!] ... I have thought about about adoption but it would be so hard for me. Which was harder for you, if you don't mind me asking?"


adoption... Hands down. My youngest son is only 5 months. Let me tell you the last YEAR has been pure hell for me emotionally.

animaLibera_ 1 child; Ohio 7936 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Y[♥]:" I got an abortion to please someone else, I used to regret it but I dont anymore. Iknow that it was for the best."


That's why I said more than likely. lol
Nothing is ever for sure.