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The toughest decision ever.... Hailee(: 1 child; Georgia 682 posts
11th Apr '12

Please no hateful comments...



I have decided that I am not going to follow through with the pregnancy. I talked to my doctor and there is so much risk to keep going with this pregnancy. I have already had two scares, and been hospitalized once, and had surgery and I'm only 4 weeks along. With Wyatt it was a VERY complicated and miserable pregnancy. i was in the hospital ever other week and had pre-term labor three times and it all ended in an emergency c-section. I think that all in all this is the best decision. I have talked with the father and he agrees 100%. We had to put our emotions aside to think about our life.. Right now, I have a living breathing child that needs me, and if something happens to me (which my DR told me is definitely possible) that Wyatt will not have a parent. and this is just a yolk sac inside me. Thats how I have to think to get through this. Plus I still am only 18 and BD is only 19. I'm not financially and emotionally ready for two. Hell I wasn't ready for one. I know people aren't going to agree. But i think this is what I have to do for me and my family. I have prayed about it.. and I had a dream last night about me dying on the delivery table, and I feel like maybe it was a sign. I'm so scared though. I have done my research, and I think I'm going to do the RU-486. This has been the toughest and most impacting decisions of my life. Please no rude comments. I just had to get it out.. Thanks for listening I guess... and please feel free to leave any advice, or personal stories with the pill or anything?

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
11th Apr '12

Youre making a difficult decision for the sake of your family and you're a very strong woman at 18 for it. Good luck and I hope it goes smoothly.

Lexi-Avery-Dylan-Gabe 4 kids; Evansville, Indiana 2218 posts
11th Apr '12

Sorry you are having to make this difficult decision! I wish you the best!
** hugs**

user banned 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 21095 posts
11th Apr '12

I am sorry this is such a hard decision for you. I can tell you are making the right decision for you and your family.I hope everything goes well for you.

RadioactiveCat Due November 8 (boy); 1 child; Roanoke, VA, United States 22772 posts
11th Apr '12

Abortion is safer than a pregnancy in the best of times. With all your complications, I am sure no one would blame you.
I did a mifeprex abortion and it was fine. Just some nausea and cramps. Really, it was just like a really heavy period.

Piecey. Due May 13; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 64519 posts
status 11th Apr '12

Best of luck! I think I'd probably do the same in your position.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36540 posts
status 11th Apr '12

I had the pill. and I would go with the pill. but I would have someone take your son for overnight. I had cramps but I mean its just like being in labor but only for a few short hours.

Hailee(: 1 child; Georgia 682 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting MommaSav2:" Youre making a difficult decision for the sake of your family and you're a very strong woman at 18 for it. Good luck and I hope it goes smoothly."


Thank you. That means alot. i hope so too!

Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys} 3 kids; Cincinnati, Oh, United States 24256 posts
11th Apr '12

i'd probably do the same in your situation.



my cousin took the pill. she had "worst period of her life" symptoms she said

Hailee(: 1 child; Georgia 682 posts
11th Apr '12
Quoting Y[♥]:" I had the pill. and I would go with the pill. but I would have someone take your son for overnight. I had cramps but I mean its just like being in labor but only for a few short hours."



Well, i moved back in with my parents for the time being because my dad had spinal surgery and I'm taking care of him.. So I might just let them keep him and go back home or something.. because I know it's going to be emotional!

Petit tabernac clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107788 posts
status 11th Apr '12
Quoting Hailee(::" Please no hateful comments... I have decided that I am not going to follow through with the pregnancy. ... [snip!] ... out.. Thanks for listening I guess... and please feel free to leave any advice, or personal stories with the pill or anything?"

Best of luck to you all, it seems you have both thought this through pretty well.

~RJS~ Stockholm, Sweden 4528 posts
11th Apr '12

I wish you all the best and that this goes as well as it possibly can. You are making a good decision, in your situation I would do the same

Hailee(: 1 child; Georgia 682 posts
11th Apr '12

Thank you everyone for the advice. I did a lot of research on it so far. They say they give you that, and a follow up pill for it to move out of you and antibiotics and pain pills. I know this is going to weigh heavy on my heart. ): I appreciate all the reassurance!!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36540 posts
status 11th Apr '12
Quoting Hailee(::" Well, i moved back in with my parents for the time being because my dad had spinal surgery and I'm ... [snip!] ... care of him.. So I might just let them keep him and go back home or something.. because I know it's going to be emotional!"


I think that is for the best. :) GL mama!

Mirah 1 child; Mississippi 913 posts
11th Apr '12

I have to admit, I'm normally prolife, but situtations like yours are the exception. It's an awful and difficult decision you're faced with. I don't think there is any easy solution to something like this.
I try not to bring religion into BG but I'll pray for you, that whatever decision you end up making you have peace about it in your heart.
{{{HUGS}}}