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daddys???? Courtney Renae Ford 1 child; Lebanon, Missouri 23 posts
15th Apr '12

ok i am a new mom of a preemie my little man was born eleven weeks early i was just wonderin if anyone else has encountered this problem and how they dealt with it my fiancee does not like to stay in wit our little boy very long and he wants to skip times when we would get to do things with him and gets mad at me for wanting to be there of course i go regardless. Last night he asked if he could go to our touch time, where we get to change his daper and all kinds of stuff, by himself in order to bond and spend some alone time with our little guy.this was at eleven and he did not come back til four in the morning. I find out today he went to a strip club with his friends. I am not even sure he went to the touch time. I do not understand his behavior or why he is acting out when we were fine before little Jesse came i know its stressful but i am here all week by myself dealing with this while he is working.

Kea O_O 4 kids; British Columbia 1480 posts
15th Apr '12

I'm not one to put up with any amount of lieing and going to strip clubs, I understand that maybe he doesn't want to get to attached incase something bad happens and that maybe that he's worryed but honestly if my SO went to a strip club when he told me he was somewheres else I'd leave, I just don't put up with that kind of stuff. but as for not wantting to see your baby he might just be worryed that something may happen and scared to go see him

MamaTiffy[20-weeks] Due August 2; 2 kids; Sunnyvale, CA, United States 8725 posts
15th Apr '12
Quoting Courtney Renae Ford:" ok i am a new mom of a preemie my little man was born eleven weeks early i was just wonderin if anyone ... [snip!] ... were fine before little Jesse came i know its stressful but i am here all week by myself dealing with this while he is working."


I have no advice, but I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I don't know why he would be acting that way and even worse use seeing his son as an excuse to go out to a strip club. I would be furious, his ass would be out the door for sure

Hannah & Haylee's Mommy! 18 kids; Riverview, Florida 1995 posts
15th Apr '12

I can't judge him because i don't know the background. it could be one of two things, He's scared and it bothers him looking at his baby hooked up to a bunch of tubes and things, but even if it is that going to a strip club is extremely unacceptable in this kind of situation, My daughter was born 13 weeks early and if my SO did let me go through that alone i would be very upset, and probably left him. The other thing it could be is that he just doesn't care(which i really hope not) Its a long road but I feel like it helps a lot if the parent spends a lot of time with the baby in the NICU and prayers help keeping positive helps! If it helps any my daughter is a healthy two year old very smart! No problems. She was on oxygen and remained in the NICU for three months. If you need to talk to me feel free to pm me!

Courtney Renae Ford 1 child; Lebanon, Missouri 23 posts
24th Apr '12

thank you guys i know its not because he does not care about him because he loves him so much. I am thinkin other things are distractin him two days ago his phone went off so i picked it up only to discover an interesting text. i am not proud to say i proceeded to snoop and discover a whole conversation with someone he had under his male cousins name who he was assuring i was an ex that he was only up here to visit his baby at which time i confronted him and he told me he would go home if thats what i wanted. of course i do not want him to go home i want him here with his child and not talking to some excuse my language but skank