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Egg Donation Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
19th Apr '12

Thought this would be a good question to ask about egg donation. I am really hoping that someone has gone through this or knows of anyone that has done this in order to get pregnant. My sister is 33 and has been trying for 3 years to get pregnant she had one failed IVF and was in the process of doing it again however last month she only had 2 eggs with the injections so they decided it was best to wait another cycle. Well now she has a large cyst so her period hasn't came so everything is on hold at the moment. She also had more labs done today b/c they said one of her ovaries is smaller than norm and they believe her reserve is getting very low and that she may be premenapausal. So I told her that if she was okay with it I would be willing to donate some of my eggs to her. That is if her and her husband are comfortable with it and only if it comes down to the doctors telling her she doesn't have any more eggs left :( I was just curious about the process and if anyone knew of the price for the procedure b/c I will not have her pay me but she would have to pay for the procedure to harvest the eggs. I also told her that I wouldn't be able to do this until I stop breastfeeding which would be closer to the end of the year if we decide to go this route. Any advice would be great!

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32448 posts
19th Apr '12

are you and your husband as well as her and her husband okay with the fact that you would have a biological child with your brother in law first and foremost?

Nina Turley Due September 20 (boy); 1 child; Reno, Nevada 136 posts
19th Apr '12

yea, I know its cheaper to get a donated egg than it is to use your own eggs.
My friend asked me about it. I told her I would carry for her, then I am pregnant. Like a reminder from GOD how harsh my pregnancies are so now I hate to say it but I renege it...I can't handle being pregnant again..Though it would be cheaper for me to carry egg and all than to donate eggs or use hers

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
19th Apr '12
Quoting Squid Kid:" are you and your husband as well as her and her husband okay with the fact that you would have a biological child with your brother in law first and foremost?"



yeah. We are aware of this but I would not feel as if this child would be mine biologically b/c of her having the child. I just look at it as just eggs. It is the closest thing to her DNA as she would be able to get if she no longer produces her own. Plus she knows our genetic background and etc.

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
19th Apr '12
Quoting Nina Turley:" yea, I know its cheaper to get a donated egg than it is to use your own eggs. My friend asked me about ... [snip!] ... can't handle being pregnant again..Though it would be cheaper for me to carry egg and all than to donate eggs or use hers"


right well I always wanted to be a surrogate mother but it is much easier to donate than to be pregnant for that long. I did clomid for both my kids and reacted very well to it...actually too well b/c one month I had 8 eggs :shock: So I figured one month of injections and the process would be over. My sister has a 10 year old daughter so I think if she just had good eggs she wouldn't have a problem getting pregnant but then again she just might not be meant to have anymore. But I just want her to have all options before giving up.

Mama*of*3 Due April 22; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; London, ON, Canada 315 posts
19th Apr '12

I would wait till she gets her tests back & if it is found that she is pre-menopausal then your best option would probably be the Surrogate option. Cause as far as I know for a women who is pre-menopausal it is very hard for them to keep/carry a pregnancy. If you have no problems carrying then I would suggest just going the surrogate route.

It's my turn♥ 34 kids; Greenback, Tennessee 24868 posts
19th Apr '12

I think the cost would vary, as many RE's are willing to work with women who are long time patients. Being that she will have been through so many other treatments through her doctor, he may give her some sort of discount or deal for the retrieval if you go that route.



Good luck, I think it's amazing if you do this for her!

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em):" Thought this would be a good question to ask about egg donation. I am really hoping that someone has ... [snip!] ... I stop breastfeeding which would be closer to the end of the year if we decide to go this route. Any advice would be great!"

My little sister donated her eggs to me. It's the kind of gift you can give your sister for which there will never be compensation, and you will forever have changed her life for the better. :)



I don't think there's a way for them to tell if a woman is down to zero eggs, just if she is in ovarian failure. But even just diminished ovarian reserve (more than zero eggs) can make a woman quite infertile.



As for price, for us it was the following: ~$800 for all the testing and consultation for my sister (I had already undergone all the testing, as will have your sister), ~$2,000 for the meds (I used ivfmeds.com - totally worth it and saved about another $2,000), $6,000 for my sister's cycle monitoring and egg retrieval, and $1,500 for my monitoring and transfer. We had family friends who were able to do the legal contract and psych eval for us but that's about another $1,000-$2,000. And it should be about $500 for cryopreservation if you have some embryos left over to freeze. So in total you're looking at about $12,000 bare minimum. We definitely did whatever we could to cut costs and my RE's prices are very competitive.



It's definitely not cheaper to use donated eggs though because of all the other costs associated with 3rd party reproduction. They only place it would be cheaper is with meds, as you would likely need a lot less meds to stim you than your sister.



I'm pretty familiar with the process and am happy to answer any questions you might have. :)

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Mz Momma:" I would wait till she gets her tests back & if it is found that she is pre-menopausal then your best ... [snip!] ... hard for them to keep/carry a pregnancy. If you have no problems carrying then I would suggest just going the surrogate route."


This is not true at all. Because in doing an embryo transfer, there is no ovulation, therefore all hormones have to be provided synthetically anyway. As long as her sister has a functioning uterus it doesn't matter how shitty her ovaries are. That has nothing to do with being able to carry.



Some 70 year old lady from a remote village in India sold her cows do IVF and had twins lmao.

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Uh-milly'Yuh:" My little sister donated her eggs to me. It's the kind of gift you can give your sister for which there ... [snip!] ... to stim you than your sister. I'm pretty familiar with the process and am happy to answer any questions you might have. :)"


Thank you so much for the info. I will def get in touch with you if we go this route. I had a feeling I would be able to find someone who had gone through this on here :) Thank you so much and Good luck with everything!

Mama*of*3 Due April 22; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; London, ON, Canada 315 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Uh-milly'Yuh:" This is not true at all. Because in doing an embryo transfer, there is no ovulation, therefore all hormones ... [snip!] ... to do with being able to carry. Some 70 year old lady from a remote village in India sold her cows do IVF and had twins lmao."

I was simply saying if her sister is already having problems carrying her own babies then why spend all the money on doing an egg transfer where there is most likely the risk of her not being able to carry it either. I would simply save the hassle & the risk, pain & hurt of losing another when the other sister can be a surrogate & have a better chance of carrying for her sister.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
20th Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mz Momma:</b>" I was simply saying if her sister is already having problems carrying her own babies then why spend all ... [snip!] ... & hurt of losing another when the other sister can be a surrogate & have a better chance of carrying for her sister."</blockquote>




I don't think she said anything about her sister having trouble carrying to term. It sounds like an egg issue to me. Two eggs at retrieval? Yeah that's an egg issue.

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Uh-milly'Yuh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mz Momma:</b>" I was simply saying if her sister is already ... [snip!] ... sister having trouble carrying to term. It sounds like an egg issue to me. Two eggs at retrieval? Yeah that's an egg issue."


Yeah it is just an egg issue. She did do one IVF a year ago but she had an infection in one of her tubes and her first specialist failed to notice it and when she got a second opinion they had to remove that fallopian tube and in the process they said it may have damaged the ovary and her reserve. She didn't have problems with her pregnancy at the age of 22 but she wasn't married and just got married at the age of 30 and they have been trying since and she didn't respond to clomid and with injections is lucky if she gets 2 eggs :(

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
20th Apr '12

I got exactly two eggs with my IVF cycle using my own eggs. That's when I decided to fire my ovaries.

Zoe&Harper's Mom (Em) 2 kids; Alabama 16920 posts
20th Apr '12
Quoting Uh-milly'Yuh:" I got exactly two eggs with my IVF cycle using my own eggs. That's when I decided to fire my ovaries."



lol at firing your ovaries. She feels that way as well. She told me that she just wanted to give up b/c it wasn't going to happen b/c it's really bad when you do injections and only get 2 eggs. Oh and then she gets cysts from it as well. Right now she has a very large cyst and her period is MIA.