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Rose Barranco 19 kids; San Bernardino, California 1017 posts
23rd Apr '12

Obviously they had sex or she would not be concerned at all. Secondly she should consider all her options besides abortion, it is fine to educate her on adoption too. You aren't doing anything wrong by trying to tell her not to abort. Its still her choice

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" First of all - if she is AT ALL worried that its the other guys....then they had sex and shes a big old ... [snip!] ... further and further into a whole. Id say, be honest, tell her boyfriend what happened NOW, before this gets any worse. "</blockquote>



He knows she's pregnant... And considering not keeping it... But he has NOOOO CLUE why.



Its a MESS already :( this is my shortest summary.

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting regina_margot:</b>" national average cost of an abortion is $450. whatever information you're looking for is going to be ... [snip!] ... going to be specific to your location, just call planned parenthood and they will answer every single one of your questions. "</blockquote>




Thank you SO much!
I will.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
23rd Apr '12
Quoting Momma Sare!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" First of all - if she is AT ALL worried ... [snip!] ... pregnant... And considering not keeping it... But he has NOOOO CLUE why. Its a MESS already :( this is my shortest summary."


If she is positive she would keep the baby if its her boyfriends...Im telling you from personal experience the choice may haunt her FOREVER. Im not trying to scare her, just saying forever is a long time.



She fucked up. Everyone makes mistakes. I think she needs to tell her boyfriend what happened, and if this was my best friend...id tell her shes not fooling me, shes only trying to fool herself.



If her boyfriend loves her, and they want a future together, he will deal with it.



If she loves her boyfriend and wants a future with him...then why was she messing around in the first place.



Abortions are not and 'easy fix'. She should read through some A&S threads for a first hand view.



Wish her the best of luck

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *MamaDobbs*:</b>" I cant tell give you much advice on the situation other then I agree on what everyone has already posted. ... [snip!] ... hush hush that she was considering abortion. Best of luck to your friend and your a good person for trying to help her out."</blockquote>




Thank you SO SO SO much. I will tell her all of this, I will also help her research a place to go to see an ultra sound. Would there be a way the ultra sound would be nearly 4 weeks off??

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" If she is positive she would keep the baby if its her boyfriends...Im telling you from personal experience ... [snip!] ... are not and 'easy fix'. She should read through some A&S threads for a first hand view. Wish her the best of luck"</blockquote>




I COULDN'T AGREE MORE WITH ANYTHIG YOU JUST SAID.

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" It sounds like she did have sex with her ex and isn't willing to admit it. I don't know how much it'll ... [snip!] ... stages for the pill, now she will have to have a surgical abortion (costing more). Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, though."</blockquote>




So she is no longer a candidate for the pill?

Ecstasy 18 kids; Cuba 7748 posts
23rd Apr '12
Quoting Momma Sare!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *MamaDobbs*:</b>" I cant tell give you much advice on the situation ... [snip!] ... also help her research a place to go to see an ultra sound. Would there be a way the ultra sound would be nearly 4 weeks off??"


There is no way that early on that an ultrasound would detect the due date etc incorrectly.



The earlier the scan is done the more correct it is.



Once you get into your 2nd/3rd trimester the foetus size may be off my a week or so - they may be measuring ahead etc.

Ecstasy 18 kids; Cuba 7748 posts
23rd Apr '12
Quoting Momma Sare!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" It sounds like she did have sex with her ex and ... [snip!] ... more). Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, though."</blockquote> So she is no longer a candidate for the pill?"


I think you can only take the pill up until your 8th week?



My DR told me when i was high risk for miscarriage that any time past 9 weeks i'd need a D&C to remove the tissue because passing it naturally would be dangerous - heavy bleeding, clots etc.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Sare!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" It sounds like she did have sex with her ex and ... [snip!] ... more). Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, though."</blockquote> So she is no longer a candidate for the pill?"</blockquote>




I think most clinics stop offering at 7-9 weeks, I'm not sure though.

*oneblessedmama* Due July 23; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Fairview, North Carolina 956 posts
23rd Apr '12
Quoting Momma Sare!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *MamaDobbs*:</b>" I cant tell give you much advice on the situation ... [snip!] ... also help her research a place to go to see an ultra sound. Would there be a way the ultra sound would be nearly 4 weeks off??"


Nope. Ultrasounds are accurate within three days this early on. I would get her an appointment asap though because the longer she waits the harder its going to get for her to make a decision. And If you can go with her to the ultrasound, she will really need the support.

Mamas3(B's) Due December 17; 4 kids; Indiana 1972 posts
23rd Apr '12

I went to *consider* abortion and they were both over 600 dollars, my state doesnt offer any aid to that. Im in michigan. The pill is only up to 9 weeks. that cost 400-800 dollars. after that it is in clinic procedure which is much much more expensive going up to 995 dollars. But we all know a difference between a 9 week ultrasound and a six week ultrasound. If she doesnt, google it and let her see! I am also pro life, i was raped at 14 and kept my baby, there are so many different options and IMO she shouldnt abort just because of not knowing who the father is!

rosie has a vagina. 1 child; Crookston, Minnesota 15738 posts
23rd Apr '12

I have nothing to contribute concerning more of this thread but my first abortion cost $1204 and I think my second one was around $700, both were surgical.

Momma Sare! 1 child; Texas 790 posts
23rd Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting alis volat propriis.:</b>" I have nothing to contribute concerning more of this thread but my first abortion cost $1204 and I think my second one was around $700, both were surgical."</blockquote>



Omg!!! Almost 1,300$!! That's insane!!! If you don't mind...why did they cost so different? And where did you go? What did you experience? I had a D&C in December due to a miscarriage at 8 weeks, but carried the baby until 9 weeks and some days. I had a missed miscarriage.

rosie has a vagina. 1 child; Crookston, Minnesota 15738 posts
23rd Apr '12
Quoting Momma Sare!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting alis volat propriis.:</b>" I have nothing to contribute concerning ... [snip!] ... D&C in December due to a miscarriage at 8 weeks, but carried the baby until 9 weeks and some days. I had a missed miscarriage."


I went to Planned Parenthood both time. The first one, I was about six and a half weeks pregnant. My bill looks like this:



ABORTION <12 WEEKS 697.00
ULTRASOUND-TRANSVAGINAL 175.00
AB HEMOGLOBIN 8.00
AB RH FACTOR TESTING 25.00
AB FINGER STICK 13.00
DOXY 100MG #14 - AB ONLY 0.00
INJECTION PROMETHAZINE HC 6.00
TORADOL 15MG 18.00
INJ ADMIN -THER / PROPH / DIA 32.00
ECP: RX DUAL USE-H 132.00
DMPA 150 MG-H 66.00
INJ ADMIN -THER / PROPH / DIA 32.00



So the majority of the cost came from the actual abortion and the ultrasound and whatever that ECP: RX DUAL USE-H thing is. A lot of what's on that list of costs was unnecessary, too. I had severe hyperemesis gravidarum so I was puking really bad the entire time I was there. About a half hour before the procedure, the nurse took pity on me and gave me an injection of Toradol and an injection of anti-nausea medication. And something on the list is probably the Depo I got afterward. Here is the link to the entire story from my first abortion. My second one wasn't nearly as eventful so I didn't bother writing the story for that one.



I don't have the receipt for my second abortion on hand but I was eight and a half weeks and I didn't have any of the problems I had with the first one. I went in, filled out the papers, met with a counselor, got the ultrasound, went back out into the waiting room, watched Mean Girls, was called back, undressed, laid down, had the fetus sucked out of me, got dressed and left.



Both procedures were over in a matter of minutes but I ended up being there for four to five hours both times. There's a lot of waiting involved.