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Is it true or BS 1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
24th Apr '12

Dh's parents tried to tell me that I can not get an abortion in the state of louisiana if I was married unless my husband signed off on it. True or BS? And if it is true can I go out of state to somewhere that does not have that stipulation?

user banned California 36390 posts
24th Apr '12

I have never heard of that.

FastAss, The Virgin 42123 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" Dh's parents tried to tell me that I can not get an abortion in the state of louisiana if I was married ... [snip!] ... husband signed off on it. True or BS? And if it is true can I go out of state to somewhere that does not have that stipulation?"


I am not even going to attempt to answer your question, but instead ask one of my own.



Why wouldn't he sign off on it, should that be the law?

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting Mrs. Weasley [tech probz]:" I have never heard of that."


They said if I tried they would get a restraining order against it.

★ Irishewwie 1 child; Tokeland, Washington 67058 posts
24th Apr '12

I just looked it up to make sure. And I see nothing about that.
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/sfaa/louisiana.html
http://www.abortion-new-orleans.com/articles/new-orleans-abortion-clinic.htm (that one directly says NO. ) "Do I need to obtain permission from my husband or partner in order to have an abortion? Will my provider need to contact him?No. The United States Supreme Court has ruled that it is unconstitutional to require spousal consent in order to seek an abortion. Of course, the patient may decide to tell her husband or partner, but the clinic will not contact him."

user banned California 36390 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" They said if I tried they would get a restraining order against it."


You know how long that would take? Just go do it asap. Is your DH not supportive?

Deborah Stechschulte 3 kids; Ohio 2565 posts
24th Apr '12

I don't think that is true anywhere honestly...

3M'smom 3 kids; Illinois 28879 posts
24th Apr '12

They are bullshitting you.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
24th Apr '12

I'm pretty sure they're lying. If it somehow is true, you can always drive just across the border into another state and get one done there.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting Sam, The Virgin.:" I am not even going to attempt to answer your question, but instead ask one of my own. Why wouldn't he sign off on it, should that be the law?"


No I don't think it should. He became abusive a onth into our marriage and when I told him I wanted out because of it he got us throw out of our house and left me stranded with no where to go with two kids to take care of. I can't take care of another one alone. And I want to get this marriage annuled instead of going threw a messy divorce which I can't do while I am pregnant.

user banned TTC since Jan 2001; Japan 107255 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" Dh's parents tried to tell me that I can not get an abortion in the state of louisiana if I was married ... [snip!] ... husband signed off on it. True or BS? And if it is true can I go out of state to somewhere that does not have that stipulation?"


I've never heard of that... last I checked you don't need anyone's permission to have one.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" They said if I tried they would get a restraining order against it."



How would they know? Is your husband included? And no court would hold that up I don't think.

user banned California 36390 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" No I don't think it should. He became abusive a onth into our marriage and when I told him I wanted ... [snip!] ... one alone. And I want to get this marriage annuled instead of going threw a messy divorce which I can't do while I am pregnant."


They can't stop you. Good luck.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
24th Apr '12
Quoting 1inpink1inblue:" No I don't think it should. He became abusive a onth into our marriage and when I told him I wanted ... [snip!] ... one alone. And I want to get this marriage annuled instead of going threw a messy divorce which I can't do while I am pregnant."


Your dd is mu bday. But anyway my initial thought was be prepared for a divorce if you did it without dh wanting it but I see you don't have that worry. Im really sorry hun :( you don't need anyone to sign for it. Just go do it.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
24th Apr '12

thanks everyone i thought it was bs.