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confusedandpregnant Due October 13; Henderson, Nevada 46 posts
30th Apr '12

go to college travel and have a serious career not be a housewife to a construction worker as the main income I want to become something too this makes it so much harder. And that's why I'm resenting it.



yes stat rape or unlawful sexual intercourse or w.e.

Cassidy & Canaan's momma Due June 14; 2 kids; Marianna, 2713 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" go to college travel and have a serious career not be a housewife to a construction worker as the main ... [snip!] ... too this makes it so much harder. And that's why I'm resenting it. yes stat rape or unlawful sexual intercourse or w.e."


You my dear are an ADULT. Go get this abortion in Nevada if that is what you want..no one can stop you. Your parents might get mad or w/e but this is up to YOU AND ONLY YOU!

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
30th Apr '12

Errr... 16 weeks is late for an abortion. Even if it's legal... it's late.
I would look into adoption. Maybe talk to your parents. Maybe they would like to adopt the baby?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" go to college travel and have a serious career not be a housewife to a construction worker as the main ... [snip!] ... too this makes it so much harder. And that's why I'm resenting it. yes stat rape or unlawful sexual intercourse or w.e."


Why does having a baby mean you would have to be a housewife? And that you would have to be with this person you are with now?



There are wonderful single moms.
And MANY of these single moms still manage to take care of their babies, go to school, travel, whatever... You'd just have a companion along the way.

confusedandpregnant Due October 13; Henderson, Nevada 46 posts
30th Apr '12

I guess I just care a lot about what people at school think friends and all... I'm not the kind of girl people would expect to get pregnant especially by him. I want to leave with a good reputation great friends so badly. My fiance says we can get away with everything secretly I want to believe that yet I don't feel I'll be happy that way I guess I got to choose which one means more... I don't want his friends to put me down for him to see me in a different light either.

Cassidy & Canaan's momma Due June 14; 2 kids; Marianna, 2713 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" I guess I just care a lot about what people at school think friends and all... I'm not the kind of girl ... [snip!] ... I got to choose which one means more... I don't want his friends to put me down for him to see me in a different light either."


your true friends will stay your friends no matter what...and again screw what everyone else thinks. You arent going to keep a big belly a secret from everyone and then one day show up to hang out with friends with a baby...I would be upset personally if my good friends hid such a secret from me because they thought I would judge them poorly.

confusedandpregnant Due October 13; Henderson, Nevada 46 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Hey, He's Here!:" Why does having a baby mean you would have to be a housewife? And that you would have to be with this ... [snip!] ... moms still manage to take care of their babies, go to school, travel, whatever... You'd just have a companion along the way."


I'm happy I have him actually he makes the situation better. I will marry him either way it's just I wanted pursue the career I wanted not raise a child and have it harder and maybe give up.....

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" I guess I just care a lot about what people at school think friends and all... I'm not the kind of girl ... [snip!] ... I got to choose which one means more... I don't want his friends to put me down for him to see me in a different light either."


Wait... so is it your fiance's child?
If so... why are you marrying someone that you are ashamed to let anyone know you got pregnant by?



More-so.... you shouldn't be worrying about what other people think about you. Who cares? Let them live their life, you live yours.

Cassidy & Canaan's momma Due June 14; 2 kids; Marianna, 2713 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Hey, He's Here!:" Wait... so is it your fiance's child? If so... why are you marrying someone that you are ashamed to ... [snip!] ... you shouldn't be worrying about what other people think about you. Who cares? Let them live their life, you live yours."


That is a good question...kind of sad for him.

IMHO 2 kids; Ontario 7746 posts
30th Apr '12

So, what am I missing here? You had sex with a 16-year-old, got pregnant. Now he's taking you to court for stat rape? And where does the fiance come in?

confusedandpregnant Due October 13; Henderson, Nevada 46 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting ~*Newly noobish*~:" your true friends will stay your friends no matter what...and again screw what everyone else thinks. ... [snip!] ... would be upset personally if my good friends hid such a secret from me because they thought I would judge them poorly. "


you're right if I keep it I have only 6 more weeks to hide. I'm not showing still pretty much the same so hiding seems ok parenting plan seems ok yet ugly for me plus the actual dad could make this hell. Abortion could make me lose my man I feel like he's against this stuff too. Plus if his friend pressured him and he thought not the same girl he fell in love with I just fear of being isolated I guess I give in to pressure. Usually I am then pressure so it's just not a familiar thing for me who I am at school idk I keep trying to make myself like it maybe I will when it moves. idk

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" I'm happy I have him actually he makes the situation better. I will marry him either way it's just I wanted pursue the career I wanted not raise a child and have it harder and maybe give up....."


Im sorry, but that's just a bullshit excuse.
If I can manage to go to college and work to provide for my family with THREE children, than anyone can with one. It really doesn't make it that much harder. It is what you make of it. It all depends on how much effort you are willing to put forward. If you are a lazy f**k who intends to spend their college life drinking and partying, than yeah, maybe a baby would make that harder. But otherwise, no.



Who the hell cares what anyone else thinks. Anyone who would ditch your friendship or talk trash about you because of your pregnancy obviously isn;t worth your time. No?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" you're right if I keep it I have only 6 more weeks to hide. I'm not showing still pretty much the ... [snip!] ... just not a familiar thing for me who I am at school idk I keep trying to make myself like it maybe I will when it moves. idk"


Do you not understand that all of that shouldn't matter?
Who the hell cares?
If people are that shitty that they would isolate you, and wouldn't be by your side they are NOT worth the friendship anyways. You should have already tossed them to the curb. Baby or no baby. You are 16 weeks pregnant. At this point they can already tell the sex of the baby. It's beyond a simple "abortion." Sorry, but this isn't in abortion survivors so I'll gladly speak my mind. Your actions are selfish and you are not thinking about what is in your best interest either... you are thinking about what is best for EVERYONE ELSE on the planet. You are feeding their fire. It's idiotic.



WAKE UP AND SMELL THE ROSES!
You have a baby growing inside if you.
Either start looking for adoptive parents, or start getting your shit together.
Should have rode the abortion train a LONG time ago.

confusedandpregnant Due October 13; Henderson, Nevada 46 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Hey, He's Here!:" Wait... so is it your fiance's child? If so... why are you marrying someone that you are ashamed to ... [snip!] ... you shouldn't be worrying about what other people think about you. Who cares? Let them live their life, you live yours."


no my fiance might be likely is not my child's father... We've dated I've always ended it. I was with the other guy then he was horrible to me like physically abusive when he found out I was saying I thought I was pregnant late period but negative test and then I finally had something that seemed like a period. he wasn't nice about it. we broke up and I got with him my current fiance like 6 days later I find out I'm actually pregnant

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55076 posts
status 30th Apr '12
Quoting confusedandpregnant:" no my fiance might be likely is not my child's father... We've dated I've always ended it. I was with ... [snip!] ... he wasn't nice about it. we broke up and I got with him my current fiance like 6 days later I find out I'm actually pregnant"



You really need to just forget everyone elses opinion and do what is best for YOU. Nobody else matters.