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user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting *J*:" What hurdles do you have out in public??? Faith has anxiety around other adults. People are either ... [snip!] ... far from the case. she listens VERY well, doesnt hurt people (except me during meltdowns), doesnt run off or climb on stuff...."

People always try to talk to him and he's basically nonverbal. Getting a hi is like pulling teeth unless he REALLY likes you. I hate when people stand there and talk to him and he doesn't respond. So I have to step in and say wave hello. And he doesn't have strong face muscles so when he smiles real big he looks pissed and no one gets that either. I've been told on more than one occassion it's rude to not to say hello- in which I've responded well I teach him it's not okay to talk to talk to strangers to get the heat off him. That really makes me mad. Also, most of the time out shopping he screams like he's being tortured unless he has one of his thousand chewy tubes and he drools like mad. I hate the stares. I'm so thankful he's not aware right now. And going out to eat- we always get asked- 2 of these meals because of my older son and when we say no- we get a weird look and should we split the meal. Well only one drink then? We want to drinks one meal and a very small extra plate. And then well we can divide it it's no problem. And then the he has medical issues. Please just one small plate, 1 regular meal and 2 cups. And then the looks from tables. I mean my kid will only take a bite or two. And mostly not even that. We just want a plate to he can even poke it with his finger if that's what he wants to do. Sorry for my tangent there^^

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting My Lil' Monster:" The only issues in public is the meltdowns when I am unable to understand what he wants and when a stranger ... [snip!] ... her I asked you to not do that because he is "special" and doesnt like to feel confronted. She rolled her eyes and stormed off."


What a b***h!! People are ignorant.

*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting My Lil' Monster:" I am so excited to make this now! Thank you ladies! "


and THIS is why i needed this group. Why we all need it. Who knew a laminated little picture of a f**king apple would make us cry happily!? Its the little things that make the huge difference in our kids. Sharing that may help make this process a little easier on all of us.

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
30th Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *J*:</b>" Sorry to hear about your LO. It doesnt matter HOW severe it is, its still horrible. What may be easy ... [snip!] ... temperaments and OWN stuff in life. No need to compare in that way. I'm glad to hear Rocco has regular therapy. How old is he?"</blockquote>




That's true... & he is 3.5, 4 in august



Everyone in his class is full on talking... It is weird to me to see all these kids his age talking sooo much, & him only able to say words like mama, papa, hi, bye, please, more, tah-tah (Thomas the train lol). He definitely gets frustrated when he can't express himself. Anyone else in this boat ?

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting My Lil' Monster:" These are cool. My daughter was just here and saw these and said we need to do that for Dagon! So now she is excited to help me make them."

Awesome you have a helper!!!
♥ the name dagon BTW
My guy is Malakai

*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:" People always try to talk to him and he's basically nonverbal. Getting a hi is like pulling teeth unless ... [snip!] ... that. We just want a plate to he can even poke it with his finger if that's what he wants to do. Sorry for my tangent there^^"


tangents welcome.



Im blunt with people who dont pick up the subtle hint that my child isnt going to talk.



I will just say "she can't talk so you might as well stop" if someones rude to her then i say whatever smart ass thing that comes to mind. I have zero tolerance and zero patience. I enjoy making people feel like an ass when they have been in hopes they THINK a little bit before they try with the next person.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting *J*:" This is what we did. We made them for every food we ever have. Then put the ones that we have NOW that she could have on this "


great idea!! Right now I have them all around where the food is located LOL That way seems much more organized.

My Lil' Monsters 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Surprise, Arizona 4144 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting *J*:" and THIS is why i needed this group. Why we all need it. Who knew a laminated little picture of a f**king ... [snip!] ... little things that make the huge difference in our kids. Sharing that may help make this process a little easier on all of us."


Exactly! My daughter is already cutting things off the food packages from the cabinets. She is also very excited to teach him something new!

*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Mrs. Conan [getting fit]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *J*:</b>" Sorry to hear about your LO. It doesnt matter HOW ... [snip!] ... more, tah-tah (Thomas the train lol). He definitely gets frustrated when he can't express himself. Anyone else in this boat ?"


Thats typical of EVERYONE that cant express themselves. Child or adult.



I'm so used to faith being my "typical" kid..... that when my 2.5 year old started doing stuff and talking i was just like HOLY f**k HES GENIUS!!!!! ... no.. he's just typical.. the real kind of typical.

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
30th Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:</b>" People always try to talk to him and he's basically nonverbal. Getting a hi is like pulling teeth unless ... [snip!] ... that. We just want a plate to he can even poke it with his finger if that's what he wants to do. Sorry for my tangent there^^"</blockquote>




Wow, that is exactly how we are in public, people try to talk to my son too but of course I have to step in. That is so rude someone woukd say that to you. I would get Soo pissed off

user banned Due March 21; 1 child; Colorado 67779 posts
30th Apr '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *J*:</b>" Thats typical of EVERYONE that cant express themselves. Child or adult. I'm so used to faith being ... [snip!] ... doing stuff and talking i was just like HOLY f**k HES GENIUS!!!!! ... no.. he's just typical.. the real kind of typical."</blockquote>




LOL!!! That's funny :lol: I do want another kid but haven't yet because I know my kid needs the extra attention...

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting *J*:" tangents welcome. Im blunt with people who dont pick up the subtle hint that my child isnt going to ... [snip!] ... enjoy making people feel like an ass when they have been in hopes they THINK a little bit before they try with the next person."


I really hate when family says I just got him to say- he just said!! and it's like no- you're not his cure all. You wanted to hear that. He did not in fact say that. I was standing right here. :roll:

*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting My Lil' Monster:" Exactly! My daughter is already cutting things off the food packages from the cabinets. She is also very excited to teach him something new! "


what a sweetheart! Big kudos and LOTS of hugs to her for it!!!!!!



What you could also do for him since i mean for drink you could have 5 different things have one with all the drinks on it and one with all the food. so when he's looking he's not looking at 30 things at one time.break it into categories. depends on what kind of stuff and how much of it he eats. to my daughter a cracker is a cracker but to him it may mean a world of difference. I googled the images... made them about 1.5inches in size and printed them off.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Mrs. Conan [getting fit]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:</b>" People always try to talk to him ... [snip!] ... talk to my son too but of course I have to step in. That is so rude someone woukd say that to you. I would get Soo pissed off"


From the sounds of it, our sons seem similar.
Have you considered an AAC device with your SLP?

*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
30th Apr '12
Quoting Mrs. Conan [getting fit]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *J*:</b>" Thats typical of EVERYONE that cant express themselves. ... [snip!] ... LOL!!! That's funny :lol: I do want another kid but haven't yet because I know my kid needs the extra attention..."


awe.. <3 we started trying before Faith showed signs. Mine are 22 months apart but they help each other a lot so its worth it. She's learned sooo much from her little brother.