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Sexual Abuse Signs? OGDirtyLurker 3 kids; Ada, Oklahoma 35200 posts
1st May '12

I guess I can post this here? I am looking for information.



Basically I need some advice on sexual abuse in female toddlers. What is normal and what isn't? normal attitudes towards anything really. Like being dropped off at daycare, being touched or hugged, fighting with other kids, diaper changes etc.

Libertarian ♥ 19 kids; San Antonio, Texas 17690 posts
1st May '12
Quoting OGDirty LurkerSBGA:" I guess I can post this here? I am looking for information. Basically I need some advice on sexual abuse ... [snip!] ... anything really. Like being dropped off at daycare, being touched or hugged, fighting with other kids, diaper changes etc."


I believe there is a link in H&W that has some signs, maybe that would help?



I don't know them off hand or I'd tell you.



Shahinda made the post, I think it's called "when to call CPS" or something like that.

Libertarian ♥ 19 kids; San Antonio, Texas 17690 posts
1st May '12

Warning signs of sexual abuse in children



Trouble walking or sitting.
Displays knowledge or interest in sexual acts inappropriate to his or her age, or even seductive behavior.
Makes strong efforts to avoid a specific person, without an obvious reason.
Doesn

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st May '12

There are be a LOT of signs. These signs can also mean a ton of other things.



Fear of a certain place or person without a good reason.
Not wanting to be changed
Suddenly not wanting to go to the bathroom and bathe
Suddenly being withdrawn
Acting out in a sexual way that a normal toddler wouldn't know usually
Sudden bed wetting
Pain with no sign of injury
Sudden fear of being punished
drastic changes in personality




There are lots more but those are the ones off the top of my head.

Dev ♥ M&M 2 kids; Slovakia 2755 posts
1st May '12

Hm, idk about toddlers but there was this one little girl about 3-4 and she would wet her self a lot when she'd see a man and she tried kissing inappropriately so those were major signs.

*Mrs. Varicose Veins* 5 kids; Chunky, Mississippi 22987 posts
1st May '12

A little girl at my job started complaining of being sick. She's a little older than a toddler. She is almost 4. Everyday her stomach was hurting. She started playing alone, crying more over little things and barely eating. She went from being so happy to having no emotions. We mentioned to her mom that she was always complaining about her stomach and they found out she was being molested by her cousin:(

JeNnAs MoMoM 2 kids; Pennsylvania 3090 posts
1st May '12

My 3 year old daughter will kick, scream and cry every day at daycare and they tell me that it's common. Not to say I know about sexual abuse, but maybe to ease your mind. My daughter has bad separation anxiety. She also hates diaper changes.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st May '12
Quoting JeNnAs MoMoM:" My 3 year old daughter will kick, scream and cry every day at daycare and they tell me that it's common. ... [snip!] ... I know about sexual abuse, but maybe to ease your mind. My daughter has bad separation anxiety. She also hates diaper changes."


Most of the issues are shown as changes. It's being fine with diaper changes and bathes and then suddenly hating them. It's being okay with going to daycare, adn then suddenly hating it for no known cause.



There can be other explanations, but I don't think "easing ones mind" is a great thing in a possible case of sexual abuse. I'd say it's better to error on the side of caution and look into it then go "Meh, probably normal behavior" and have a child continue to be abused.

OGDirtyLurker 3 kids; Ada, Oklahoma 35200 posts
1st May '12

*poof*

OGDirtyLurker 3 kids; Ada, Oklahoma 35200 posts
1st May '12
Quoting Teagans_Mom:" Most of the issues are shown as changes. It's being fine with diaper changes and bathes and then suddenly ... [snip!] ... error on the side of caution and look into it then go "Meh, probably normal behavior" and have a child continue to be abused."


oh I'm not trying to brush it off at all. I want to know normal behavior and behavior regarding sexual abuse. So that I won't have to second guess myself or others like this.

JeNnAs MoMoM 2 kids; Pennsylvania 3090 posts
1st May '12

I am definitely not trying to make light of something serious.



OP - I feel like you know in your heart. If you think about it day and night and come on here and it's bothering you like this, then I think it's serious and you are a mandatory reporter. :(

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st May '12
Quoting OGDirty LurkerSBGA:" oh I'm not trying to brush it off at all. I want to know normal behavior and behavior regarding sexual abuse. So that I won't have to second guess myself or others like this."


I was saying that in response to the person who posted something else to ease your mind, not because I think you are doing that.

user banned 1 child; , 52185 posts
1st May '12
Quoting OGDirty LurkerSBGA:" ok so let me describe some of this then there's a 2 year old girl in my class and every time, literally ... [snip!] ... like you or I. there's no baby like quality. I can visibly see her labia, clit etc. which is always bright raw red to me."


I'd report that. That sounds really wrong babe

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st May '12
Quoting OGDirty LurkerSBGA:" ok so let me describe some of this then there's a 2 year old girl in my class and every time, literally ... [snip!] ... like you or I. there's no baby like quality. I can visibly see her labia, clit etc. which is always bright raw red to me."


The physical signs would make me uneasy. The bleeding as well. I know that is common in newborns, but at that age I don't think it's normal to bleed. If it isn't abuse it could be something else. I'd honestly be VERY concerned about. It doesn't sit right with me, those facts.



The aggression and anxiety can be signs as well. Why hasn't the social worker done anything? Do they not agree there might be an issue?

OGDirtyLurker 3 kids; Ada, Oklahoma 35200 posts
1st May '12
Quoting Teagans_Mom:" The physical signs would make me uneasy. The bleeding as well. I know that is common in newborns, but ... [snip!] ... and anxiety can be signs as well. Why hasn't the social worker done anything? Do they not agree there might be an issue?"


Here is what I think is happening. We tell our boss, she tells the social worker, they ask the parent about the bruises and bleeding, she gives an 'acceptable' answer well logical, and then that's it. we've been told 'just keep an eye on her'.