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user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
3rd May '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" i knew when i got married and had kids i would have to take care of and clean up after my husband and ... [snip!] ... to take care of other people and their kids too. If they want someone to clean up after them, they need to find their own wives"


Then they can kick you to the curb? You live in their home. Yes they are grown men, and yes they should pick up after themselves... but you know what? Life isn't fair, especially when you live under someone else's roof.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
3rd May '12
Quoting Max.imus:" Then they can kick you to the curb? You live in their home. Yes they are grown men, and yes they should ... [snip!] ... they should pick up after themselves... but you know what? Life isn't fair, especially when you live under someone else's roof."


its only one of thems house, and i dont mind cleaning up after him so much, but the other guy and his kid? not my problem or responsibility, and he cant kick me out so screw it.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
3rd May '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" its only one of thems house, and i dont mind cleaning up after him so much, but the other guy and his kid? not my problem or responsibility, and he cant kick me out so screw it. "

You sound like a kid. Your house is dirty, and you know it. You posted this expecting people to tell you it's okay. Instead we all give you constructive criticism and offer suggestions on how to change things. 20 pages later you're still whining it's not your house. Just stfu and go clean already.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters TTC since Aug 2014; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 9464 posts
status 3rd May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Max.imus:</b>" You sound like a kid. Your house is dirty, and you know it. You posted this expecting people to tell ... [snip!] ... suggestions on how to change things. 20 pages later you're still whining it's not your house. Just stfu and go clean already."</blockquote>



!!!



This.



OP I would seriously stop complaining and whining and making excuses. Just take one day at a time. Do laundry (that isn't just washing, you have to old and put them away). And if there is too much. Then sort through all of it and throw what ever you don't wear often away. Then once that's done. Go and sort through all the trash. Once that's done. Go and clean the kitchen. Then the living room. Then the bedrooms. Once that's all done. Then you can vacuum and mop. And then tidy up daily.



I know it's overwhelming. An there is so much shit to get clean and put away. But once you get it ALL clean then all it takes is 10 minutes a day to get it all clean again. That's it. Even with three grown men and three small children, yes only 10 minutes to walk through every room with a basket in hand picking up clothes, run them through the wash. Then ER started on the lithe . And then tidy as you go. That's it.



But if you don't get it all sorted. It will only get worse and worse and eventually ... You could get in trouble and lose all those kids. It does happen and by the looks of things hun, you are not that far away from it getting much worse. Just something to think about.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
4th May '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" heres my response to all the comments made in the last day: I do live with my husbands cousin- IT is ... [snip!] ... once again NOT MY HOUSE! i go through my and my childrens clothes and stuff regularly, and it is in a storage building. "


I wouldn't live in a house like that if it wasn't mine without making major changes (with approval, of course). You should have seen my FIL's home when I moved in there 8 years ago. You'd think now I'd given the thing a complete makeover, organizing his things, getting rid of things he didn't need (with permission), etc. After his death 6 years ago I did a complete overhaul and even places I thought were realitively OK before I really checked I found filth. Oh it was gross. If he hadn't have let me work my magic I'd have left, and it wasn't even half as bad as what you showed here. I can't live like that and I certainly wouldn't allow my children to think that is acceptable.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
4th May '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" he says cleaning is my job because im the housewife, and he doesnt have to help because hes the one ... [snip!] ... its my job to clean up after everyone else because they are his family and cleaning the house is my job because they all work. "


Tell him the man the hell up then and find the money to live on your own. Or, one day, arm yourself with a trashbag and just start throwing shit out, don't ask permission just do it. Then tell them you were just doing your job as a housewife :twisted:

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Max.imus:" You sound like a kid. Your house is dirty, and you know it. You posted this expecting people to tell ... [snip!] ... suggestions on how to change things. 20 pages later you're still whining it's not your house. Just stfu and go clean already."


God damn, seriously. I'm sure they won't even notice when stuff starts coming up "missing" because you've started the decluttering process. You can always store stuff in bags that aren't yours for them to go through later. I can almost gaurantee that they won't go through them, either.

nichole♥ 1 child; Lawndale, California 21742 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Tell him the man the hell up then and find the money to live on your own. Or, one day, arm yourself ... [snip!] ... start throwing shit out, don't ask permission just do it. Then tell them you were just doing your job as a housewife :twisted:"


THIS!



I think my husband is a borderline hoarder. Some of the shit he keeps... ugh. It doesn't help that my FIL uses us as a trash can :roll: "Oh, you guys bought a blu ray player? Well, I want one too. You can have my DVD player and my VCR." What the f**k, we don't need that shit! When my husband is at work, I just go through things he hasn't used in forever. For every new shirt he buys, I throw out/donate three... he doesn't wear half that shit in the closet.



OP, I have let my home get bad. There have been times where laundry piled up that way. How long have they been sitting there clean? If that were me, I'd just start all over and put them away as you go. I f**king hate laundry, but just get it over with quick.

user banned Beverly Hills, California 36921 posts
4th May '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" heres my response to all the comments made in the last day: I do live with my husbands cousin- IT is ... [snip!] ... once again NOT MY HOUSE! i go through my and my childrens clothes and stuff regularly, and it is in a storage building. "


YOU posted this.... and asked what people thought. People didnt come to you unsolicited. You didnt think people were all going to say "oh, looks great honey, keep up the good work!", did you, honestly?

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
4th May '12

I agree with the last two pages. Excuses aren't getting the job done



You can bring the kids out all you want, they still need fresh air in their home. Take down the curtains, put them in the wash. Get a bucket of pinesol &'hot water & start washing the windows.



Get 3 empty boxes place them on the floor in front of the fridge, put all the crap in the boxes, separating it by owner into the boxes. Then set them in each persons room. Take the garbage out yourself.



Go into the childrens room with a garbage bag. Take everything off the shelf, every toy that is broken goes in the bag. Wipe down the shelf. Put all the books on the top shelf. All the small toya in the bins, big toys in the bottom. Whatever doesn't fit goes to storage or donate.



Fold all of the laundry & put it in each persons room. Tell them you are only now going to be responsible for your laundry & all of the childrens.



Get a garbage bag & go to your room anything you haven't touched in 3m or worn in 6 gets thrown away. Clean the mirror, windows



Stop buying expensive cigarettes. Sell everything you can & save that money. Find a job working nights evenings & tell the kids fathers they must stay there & watch their own children.



Talk to your husband explain that while you are the housewife you are not a maid & need to be treated with respect.



Honestly I could not live in thar squalor. Simply opening the windows 'would make it look better.

kravenscookiejar 18 kids; Surprise, Arizona 20749 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" I agree with the last two pages. Excuses aren't getting the job done You can bring the kids out all ... [snip!] ... to be treated with respect. Honestly I could not live in thar squalor. Simply opening the windows 'would make it look better."


This is very good advice.

*Mrs. Varicose Veins* 5 kids; Chunky, Mississippi 22987 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" I agree with the last two pages. Excuses aren't getting the job done You can bring the kids out all ... [snip!] ... to be treated with respect. Honestly I could not live in thar squalor. Simply opening the windows 'would make it look better."


Good idea! If I had to live in someone else's mess I would be working any shift I could to save and move the hell out.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" God damn, seriously. I'm sure they won't even notice when stuff starts coming up "missing" because you've ... [snip!] ... stuff in bags that aren't yours for them to go through later. I can almost gaurantee that they won't go through them, either."


I can't imagine 3 grown men wanting to keep empty boxes and coffee cans... or mind if she cleans the fridge until it's white, etc.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Max.imus:" I can't imagine 3 grown men wanting to keep empty boxes and coffee cans... or mind if she cleans the fridge until it's white, etc."


Seriously, it doesn't excuse the fingerprints on the fridge door :lol: And yes, OP they were THAT visible.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
4th May '12
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Seriously, it doesn't excuse the fingerprints on the fridge door :lol: And yes, OP they were THAT visible."


lmao!