Sorry that your family is having problems. Send her to boarding school or threaten to. Maybe just looking at brochures for some & discussing it will make her behave.
You can't "fix it."
She's a teenager. We've all been there and all thought that we knew everything. She's going to do it whether or not there is a good relationship between her and your mom.
I'm not saying we were all out at 14 dating someone much older than us, or having copious amounts of sex.
Yes, the way she is acting, she is in line to get herself into a lot of trouble, but there's really not much you can do that will make her "see the light."
I'm sorry your family is going through this, and I truly hope she turns around soon.
well I cant speak for her but at 16 I was dating my husband who was older than me and the more my mom told me to say away the more I wanted to be with him. but here we are 6 years later and were married with kids.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Jack's Boob:</b>" Sorry that your family is having problems. Send her to boarding school or threaten to. Maybe just looking at brochures for some & discussing it will make her behave."</blockquote>
That's an idea.. she scares easy so it might make her think.
I was your sister! I grew out of it but not until I was much older. I had alot of trauma as a child and I think that is what triggered my misbehavior as a teen. Sometimes you just have to let them make the mistakes they are going to make. I would recommend getting your sister on some type of BC like the depo so that your parents know atleast that part of her life will be covered. My parents were awesome and I resent every bad thing i put them through, but honestly she may have a mental illness or something deeply hurting her inside. At 14 you just don't really comprehend the consequences that could follow from your actions.
Can't you report the 19 year old for being with a 14 year old? Or threaten to? Tell your sister if she keeps seeing him and behaving this way, you will "press charges" (even if you really don't intend to)
Quoting A Chelsie to Remember.:" I don't have a teen by my younger sister is 14. She has become so defiant, she wont listen, and lies ... [snip!] ... to my mom so my 14 year old sister doesn't end up raped or pregnant.. DO NOT JUDGE MY FAMILY & NO DRAMA. I'm asking for help."
Has she considered "boot camp"? Sounds like one of those rough teenagers you see in movies, you know, the wannabee badasses.. But seriously, you sister really needs a wake up call and a swift kick in the rump
Not to be rude but "dr phil! dr phil!", I have to throw in some silliness there to lighten the mood..
One things it isn't just against the rules in your house, its against the law period. Second take her to the police station. It straightened my ass up fast. When I was 15 I wanted to be with this guy who was 19, which didn't seem like a big deal, but it was at the time. As embarrasing as it was, she drove me down the police station and had them explain why I couldn't date him. As for the lying, idk, just realize shes lying and ignore it. One day shes gonna really need help or someone to listen and yall wont believe her.
I don't know how to fix it but all I can say from personal experience is that both my younger sister and cousin only got worse the more that my Dad and my cousins mum banned them from seeing people or going out etc. My couson recently ran away to her older bf's because her Mum said she couldn't see him anymore. The police ended up involved and shes now living with her dad.
Quoting A Chelsie to Remember.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jack's Boob:</b>" Sorry that your family is having problems. ... [snip!] ... some & discussing it will make her behave."</blockquote> That's an idea.. she scares easy so it might make her think."
make her watch a birth that would've changed my mind lol
<blockquote><b>Quoting KRG29:</b>" I was your sister! I grew out of it but not until I was much older. I had alot of trauma as a child ... [snip!] ... deeply hurting her inside. At 14 you just don't really comprehend the consequences that could follow from your actions."</blockquote>
I have bipolar and they think she might to, that's why se started counseling in the first place. They are going to test her for it soon.
My oldest sister was the same. She got alcohol poisoning right after she turned 15 and almost died then she got pregnant on purpose just to get at my mom. My mom took her to counseling and even took her to get drug tested. She ran from my mom in the parking lot my mom chased her and tackled her a cop saw it and Nicole though mom was in trouble but he just helped my no drag her in. Luckily no drugs she was just being a b***h. After she got pregnant my mom put my other sis on BC. That's the only way to keep her from getting pregnant. As far as everything else goes just gotta pray she grows up and nothing horrible happens to her. My now 13 ye old niece who is Nicole's daughter she got PG w at 15 is starting to have issues. I seriously just wanna smack her across her face sometimes. By the way ur sis prolly needs to be smacked a couple times. Just saying. Ur mom just has to stay strong and stick to her rules :-/
Quoting lov'n Morgan:" make her watch a birth that would've changed my mind lol"
Like on baby mama... "you can't come back from that"
I was the same way when I was her age.. My mom sent me away.. I hated her for it and I'm still not sure if it was the thing that I needed.. But I changed alot for the better .. But it took a lot to get to that point and I was still pretty bad ass when I came home I think I just learned to lie better! Haha but I think the only way things will get better is time.. Time for her to mature and learn from her mistakes.. Just keep her safe if your afraid of her getting pregnant put her on birth control .. Things like that ..