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Anyone else tend to be more jealous? Benita Maxwell Due August 12; 4 kids; Hudson, Wisconsin 183 posts
6th May '12

Ok so I noticed I seem to be crazy jealous when it comes to non family females around my husband. It has really caused some issues and unnecessary stress. I would like to know if I am the only one or is anyone else experiencing this? My husband and I are very intimate and comfortable with each other but its like I have a 6Th sense that's like a protective cat or something lol I swear I fill like Im literally hissing at any female around him. He obviously blows it off and tells me be nice and rubs the belly which bothers but I'm sure my jealousy bothers him too.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
6th May '12

I seemed to have spurts while I was pregnant that I was jealous. Didn't last long though.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 14994 posts
6th May '12

I'm sure it bothers him too. Being jealous is closely related to insecurity. Sooner or later he's bound to start wondering why you're so jealous. Do you think he could be unfaithful? If not, then why be jealous at all, you know he won't cheat.

Deborah Stechschulte 3 kids; Ohio 2565 posts
6th May '12

I honestly think some jealousy in a relationship is healthy -- to me it means that losing the other person would bother you. I get that 'punch you in the face, b***h' vibe around certain women, but it's not a constant...granted my SO and I are normally not around a lot of females...lol... There is one in particular that made a 'show' of giving him this big hug and kissing him 'lingeringly' on the cheek a few weeks after we got together. I wanted to grab her by the hair and drag her face along the pavement... we don't see her anymore.... (i never touched her though)



is this the way you feel all the time? or is it 'worse' during your pregnancy? I feel insecure a lot (because I hate the way I look prego - it's not so much the baby belly -- just the lack of 'cute' clothes (I'm willing to buy...) and acne like i'm some pubescent teen...ugh), but I know it's temporary and it serves as motivation for me to 'get my figure back' once my son arrives.



If this goes beyond your pregnancy, ask your husband if he can help ease your fears -- have his introduce you as his Wife whenever you are around females you're just meeting...



Otherwise ask him to show you a little more affection (give you a kiss, hold your hand) in front of other women. I don't mean 'pawing' but if he shows you attention, it should reinforce the idea that he is yours and make you feel more secure.

LittleTiger Due July 25; TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Florida 8654 posts
6th May '12

I've never been a jealous person but I will admit that during this pregnancy, I've felt a twinge of protectiveness a small handful of times. I dont now if its the hormones that make me more emotional or what. For me its more of "This is my roost, dont ruffle my family's feathers or I'll peck your eyes out" kind of thing...haha. I'm protective of my baby bump and my husband, naturally. I trust my husband 110%.

Kirra Davie Due June 17; Australia 308 posts
6th May '12

I think it's normal, I'm never jealous but recently I have been a little, I look at my mans exes n think omg they are. Soooo ferral and that makes me feel great haha

~Cowgirl Panda~ 17 kids; Surprise, Arizona 453 posts
7th May '12
Quoting Benita Maxwell:" Ok so I noticed I seem to be crazy jealous when it comes to non family females around my husband. It ... [snip!] ... him. He obviously blows it off and tells me be nice and rubs the belly which bothers but I'm sure my jealousy bothers him too."


LOL gotta love those hormones! I know exactly what you mean. For example, before my hubby and I got married, I was totally okay with him being taken to a strip club for a bachelor party. Hadn't even thought about it until he brought up that my uncle (who is also one of his best friends) wants to take him to a strip club as a congrats to becoming a dad. I'm usually very laid back and I trust my husband, but all of a sudden, I'm getting these feelings because I have a hard time trusting other women. Even simple things like if I see a new woman added to his Facebook that he clearly works with (even some that I know), I have been getting these weird "jealous" type feelings. I completely trust my husband - we have been together since we were 15 (10 years in August!) and we have shared so much together - but it's other women that I have a hard time trusting because as a woman, I know how manipulative other women can be. Argh!!! Stupid hormones!! LOL - I really honestly just want my hubby to go out and have a good time - I know that's the only reason my uncle wants to take him and a few other guys to the strip club - plus, they absolutely LOVE beer, but I just can't shake this feeling that here I am, getting big and feeling unattractive, while these naked women with nice, toned bodies and pretty perfume scents are going to be dancing around him. I've seen strippers, and even though men might say "Oh, it really doesn't mean anything and they aren't that pretty anyway," I know that I have seen some very attractive strippers and it just sucks because I'm getting to the point where I'm starting to feel a little unattractive due to my size increase. BUT... I know it's probably just my hormones acting all funky and I'm doing my best to just look past the hormones and keep my cool.

Benita Maxwell Due August 12; 4 kids; Hudson, Wisconsin 183 posts
8th May '12
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" I'm sure it bothers him too. Being jealous is closely related to insecurity. Sooner or later he's bound ... [snip!] ... why you're so jealous. Do you think he could be unfaithful? If not, then why be jealous at all, you know he won't cheat."

No insecurity here. Thats why I made the post here I feel its more a hormonal thing.

Benita Maxwell Due August 12; 4 kids; Hudson, Wisconsin 183 posts
8th May '12
Quoting Deborah Stechschulte:" I honestly think some jealousy in a relationship is healthy -- to me it means that losing the other person ... [snip!] ... don't mean 'pawing' but if he shows you attention, it should reinforce the idea that he is yours and make you feel more secure."

he tends to say the same. He says it shows I still love him and don't want to loose him when I have these spurts. It just makes me feel as though some woman have this mentality that since I'm so big and pregnant hes not getting any and hes miserable but then again I maybe thinking into it too much.

Carlinda Green Due October 11; Lake City, South Carolina 3 posts
25th Mar '13

I have been feeling that way lately as well im 2 months and this is my first pregnancy ever! and i do feel out the blue jealousy, at times i feel like i dont get enough time with my fiance, and we dont get to talk about things like i would like. he's always with my dad doing something or doing something for him, or doing somthing for my mom. and it irritates me sometimes now before i got pregnant it did not bother me if anything i would help him, i didn't mind him going out without me and having a good time as a man cause i would hate to take that part of him away. the part i natually fell in love with from the beggining but i did have one time i told him it was okay to go out, and as i was watching him get dressed to go i felt jealousy spring up. and felt like maybe i should go to just to keep an eye on him. i trust my man i really do this is just strange to me eiher way i let him go but he ended up coming home because it started storming really bad.

Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6; 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
25th Mar '13

I think...it has to do with...us watching maury so much! I dont know about you women, But everytime I watched maury, what always happens? the man goes out and cheats on his pregnant woman! I have heard this happen forever amount of times! Just the man may feel like hes gonna be trapped in being a daddy world so before that happens, he just wants to have "fun" one more time...



It might sound dumb but I kind of think thats what it is...Im 11w 4 d preg right now with my man of 6 years and our relationship has been "perfect" we never fought, never argued, always talked about disagreements...its been beautiful. maybe cause he is a rasta...im not sure, but anyhow, he had his female friends, and I had my guy friends...I say it all depends on the guy. Eventually, he stopped talking to all those girls one by one cause they didnt respect his relationship with me...so they were bad eggs. I had to let go of a few guy friends myself for lack of respect as well.
It really depends on the man. We still have mutual female friends in relationships that see us and come to give us both hugs. it dont bother me at all!



of course, if I saw him "hitting on another woman" I would talk to him about it...everyone woman is scared of infidelity especially when you got maury nightmares all in ur brain!
I dont feel ugly being pregnant...even though I already gained 20 pounds i broke out with acne...I dont give a dam! this is life! im making it! this is a beautiful thing and after the dr told me i could never have kids...i dont care what atrocity my body will mold to be after!
pregnancy is a beautiful thing...I hope every women who feels insecure will have second thought about things.



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